Parents disapproval of Vaping

[snf1694]

Hey guys,

So this weekend I was vaping around home, and it catches my Father's eye. He tells me I am wasting my life away at 21 years old, not knowing what's in the ejuice, how can I explain to him it's not as bad as he believed

 

[edyle]

Hey guys,

So this weekend I was vaping around home, and it catches my Father's eye. He tells me I am wasting my life away at 21 years old, not knowing what's in the ejuice, how can I explain to him it's not as bad as he believed

1: I think you mean your Father's home, not your home. That's relevant etiquette/diplomacy wise.
2: If it were your home and your father was just visiting, then you could discuss as two adults, but as the son, at the home of the father, I suspect a 'no comment' approach might be more appropriate.
3: I'm getting the impression that you were not a smoker.

 

[MsShona]

You can give him links to articles such as these. But in all honesty, people are going to believe what they want to believe. Bottom line is that you are an adult. He doesn't have to agree with every choice you make in life. If it were me, I would respect his opinion. To the point where I wouldn't vape in front of him. But I wouldn't dwell on it. It may be a battle that you'll never win.

 

[Niten13]

I am still going through this with mine, luckily my mother and I are very critical of everything and she knows that I can research successfully. I have a whole list of links ill put here for you to read up on.


http://www.clivebates.com/documents/vapebriefing.pdf
http://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0273230014002505
Machine-puffed e-cigs yielded vapor containing exactly what you
New Surgeon General Should Prescribe Scientific Honesty On E-Cigarettes - Forbes
The Great Nicotine Myth
http://www.healthnewsdigest.com/new...t-e-Cigarettes-A-Public-Health-Disgrace.shtml
** Research ** VERY GOOD INDEX HERE**
Electronic Cigarettes: What the Latest Science Says About E-Cigs
https://clandestinevapes.com/is-vaping-safe/
Electronic Cigarette News | Scoop.it
10 Facts That Everyone Gets Wrong About Vaping - Listverse
BMC Medicine | Full text | Electronic cigarettes have a potential for huge public health benefit


Happy reading!

 

[fishj]

My daughter-in-law told me about all the articles about how dangerous vaping is she has seen lately. So I am getting flak for quitting smoking, I guess. She said she would keep an open mind. It just shows how pervasive the anti-vaping establishment is.

 

[juicynoos]

You're always going to be your parents child, even when you are 50 lol, get used to it because they will never stop voicing any concerns they may have about your welbeing; they just care about you that's all With respect of your dad's comment, I agree try to avoid a confrontation and just don't do it in front of him. easy right!!

 

[Rsunderl]

It may not be easy, but if you decide to discuss it with him, try to remember that he's a person, too with his own thoughts and opinions. Let him know that you repsect those opinions of his, but may disagree with them.

 

[LittleBird]

Welcome to ecf, SNF! It can be hard to respond to people whom we love and respect when they voice disapproval. Perhaps you could ask your father to tell you his specific concerns, and let him know that you value his opinion. Acknowledge that he wants you to be healthy, and acknowledge that there are many people who have expressed concerns about vaping. Then, tell him about the research you have done (you have, haven't you?), in as non-defensive a tone as possible. If he continues to be worried, think about whether his well-being is, perhaps, more important than your need to vape in front of him...

I AM a 50-something, and Juicy is right: no matter our age, our parents worry about us. That's a good thing

 

[RosaJ]

It's very hard for parents to "let go" from a parent stance to a "I respect you as a person." It is just as difficult for a "child" (even at 60) to be the recipient of our parents' criticism. It's part of life.

Do what a responsible adult would do and approach it that way. Let your dad know you're willing to discuss it with him if he's willing to respect you as an adult. If he's unable to view you as an adult, there's no point at this stage to press the matter.

 

[bc indiana]

I can maybe see his point if you were not an ex smoker. I would never have just started to vape... unless (which I was) a smoker. It is a life (lung) saver for those that quit smoking using it. But even if you did just pick up vaping out of the blue, I agree with the above. A simple discussion showing your father some research. Show him research on cigarettes as well. Its hard to argue the health difference btwn the two. And, you can always vape outside or in a confined room (yours) if it is an issue in his house. Being respectful to intolerance or potential ignorance is key for all of us not to get banned like smokers (which is happening more and more.). being discreet is not blowing massive clouds around non-vapors. Use common sense.

 

[Curleeee]

I just started vaping and was going in my room or the bathroom to vape since I didn't want to do it around my dad, but after I started talking more about it in general and he had questions about how it actually works and what produces the vapor I got the idea that he was actually okay with me doing it. So now I vape around him regularly and honestly, I think he is just glad I'm not smoking as much.

So I echo everyone's posts that maybe you should just talk to him about it, give him some articles to address any concerns he has, or if you can't see eye to eye just give him the respect of not vaping in front of him. It might suck, but honestly you are living in his home. I'm an adult in my 20's but I still believe in respecting my dad and his wishes, especially if that means less confrontation lol

 

[AndriaD]

Also, you could make your own ejuice. Then if someone says "You don't know what's in that!" you can say "sure I do, I made it myself." It's not rocket surgery.

Andria

 

[roxynoodle]

Yep, I'm 46. I left my parents' home at age 17 to go to college. I bought my house when I was 24. My mother has made it her new agenda to try to get me to stop vaping because she's embarrassed about how it looks. So she's constantly calling me over every bad thing she's heard, even if it was an 82 year old neighbor of hers that told her, "Oh, those are bad.". There's nothing you can do You can point your father to articles and studies, but chances are he won't read them. The best thing really is to just say, "Yes, dad, you're right about that." and just leave it.