rejecting friend requests

[TallGrass]

If I reject a friend request will they be notified that I rejected that request? I have one.... its nothing personal against this person, I just dont care for the whole "friending" thing that seems to be synonymous with Web 2.0 or whatever version were on now. If someone wants to send me a message.. go for it, but friend me? Meh, I dont get it.. and dont care but I dont want to hurt their feelings. I would prefer an "ignore" button instead of accept or reject.

 

[JerryRM]

Be diplomatic, accept it, it's not a big deal. I don't think that they will get a notice, but when they check their friends list, they will know that you didn't accept it. If you are really against the friends list, send them a PM and tell them that's the reason, but you do risk the chance of losing a friend.

 

[Crow79]

Be diplomatic, accept it, it's not a big deal. I don't think that they will get a notice, but when they check their friends list, they will know that you didn't accept it. If you are really against the friends list, send them a PM and tell them that's the reason, but you do risk the chance of losing a friend.

LOL... but... he just said he doesn't WANT cyber friends... So how does he LOSE one? OH NOOO!!!!!

 

[JerryRM]

Not really, he said that he doesn't like the "friending thing", not that he doesn't want friends. He also said that he doesn't want to hurt their feelings.

Try reading a post, before commenting.

 

[Crow79]

If it's not someone you would hang out with in the real world, that person is NOT a friend. I firmly believe that, and I think the OP does too.

 

[jj2]

3/4 of the people who request it never do anything with it anyway. As Jerry said, be diplomatic and accept.

 

[TallGrass]

Reject someone's friend request and maybe they interpret that as "They dont like me. Okay, then I dont like them... they're my enemy."

I just dont care one way or another about "friending" .... and the person that sent me the request, I probably do like them, I dont want to send a rejection letter.

 

[progg]

If it's not someone you would hang out with in the real world, that person is NOT a friend. I firmly believe that, and I think the OP does too.

Understand the perspective here . I don't know JerryRM but I do know there's many people here , he included, who have real ,enduring friendships at ECF.

 

[keyzygirl]

Does it really hurt anything to accept?I think its nice that someone wants to be friends.I dont get it.

 

[TallGrass]

Okay, I'll accept against my will. Thats not much of a choice.

 

[TallGrass]

Be diplomatic, accept it, it's not a big deal. I don't think that they will get a notice, but when they check their friends list, they will know that you didn't accept it.

I've kept the friend request in my inbox for like 2 weeks.... can't get rid of it (I dont think) without clicking the accept or reject options.

 

[keyzygirl]

Dont do anything against your will.Do what you want to do.I was just offering my perspective because you brought it up.Just my opinion and we all have those right?

 

[juicejunky]

Don't compromise your web principles, reject it and send a polite PM thanking them for the request and to PM you anytime, but you don't like internet "Friend" software. Interesting how a software link function has co-opted the word friend.

 

[hankbizzo5]

Was thinking if they see this thread they might figure it out .....

 

[meems]

I think we should all send friend requests to TG!

 

[Crow79]

Okay, I'll accept against my will. Thats not much of a choice.

Conformity is the FREEDOM KILLER... My friend

JFK said that, btw.

I just like to play devil's advocate.

 

[Shizzle]

how about if you just leave it unanswered forever?...that way, you don't have to accept or reject.

 

[TallGrass]

I could and I would like to but each time I log onto ECF it shows at the top of my screen "1 notification"....... tired of seeing that.

 

[PoliticallyIncorrect]

Ok, it's not much of a choice—but you don't need to be treating the matter so seriously.

I was on the other side of the thing once. Somebody who was technically inclined helped me out, seemed glad to do it. I sent a friend request without putting any real thought into it, sort of a thank you card.

He or she either rejected it, or ignored it—I'll never know which. Insofar as they'd never been in any way unfriendly to me, I didn't take it as a snub. Eventually, I surmised that they had the same attitude about frivolous friending as you do, and I respected it.

Perhaps your friend-in-waiting will come to the same conclusion.

 

[TallGrass]

I have nothing against people making "friends" with each other on the forum... probably useful for a lot of people. I'm just not into that... I still like and respect those people all the same.. I just dont care about it and dont want people thinking just because I friended them we will be BFF or whatever.