rejecting friend requests

[hairball]

I usually accept them since the ones I get are because I've chit chatted with them back and forth through a thread or PM's. Not a big deal for me but that's my choice. If you don't like the friends thingy, then don't do it but at least send them a PM and explain yourself. I don't think they would take it as an insult if you did.

 

[hankbizzo5]

All i wanted was a friend and you crushed my dreams lol JK ..... Decline it i have declined a few and did not lose any sleep over it.....

 

[Wolfstar]

I personally, don't think it matters one way or another...the only reason to accept a "friend" request is so their avatar is in your friends list in your profile, so you can easily follow your new "friend". I don't think accepting the request would make that person start "cyber-stalking" you. Normally, a friend request is sent to someone that you admire what they've written, or you agree with most of their opinions, or find their sense of humor enjoyable. Kind of a "like-minded" friend, not a true real life friend that you would hang out with at the mall or something. Although I'm sure some people that communicate regularly can and do become real friends off line.

It's a perception thing, and evidently you don't see the value in it, which is fine by most of us here. However, if I really enjoyed someone's posts and agreed with their comments and thoughts and requested them to be a friend, it may hurt my feelings a little that they didn't want or need my good opinion of them. It's not a BFF thing, just an admiration thing in my opinion. If you don't want to be admired, or don't want to know who finds your posts and thoughts similar to their own, then reject it by all means. It's your choice, don't do anything that goes against the grain just to please others. It might even be best, if you really feel that the friend thing is lame, to make a note in your profile of your feelings towards that. This way, they are forewarned and shouldn't get their feelings hurt when you reject the request.

 

[AC0J]

Dude, you already gave the requester the finger by making this thread. So its really not an issue if you accept or deny at this point! (if the request was from this forum) The damage is done!
I am like you, I dont get the whole friend thing either.

 

[TallGrass]

I doubt they'll see this or remember requesting me... the request is been sitting there for a few weeks.

 

[juicejunky]

I doubt they'll see this or remember requesting me... the request is been sitting there for a few weeks.

Who could forget that face?

 

[Katya]

Who could forget that face?

Who would want to befriend that face????

 

[Kent C]

I could and I would like to but each time I log onto ECF it shows at the top of my screen "1 notification"....... tired of seeing that.

I have the same consideration, btw. I've got 8 outstanding.

 

[CES]

I'm glad i haven't sent you a friend request yet Kent j/k

seriously though, a note saying that you don't do the 'friends' thing should be fine. An honest answer lets the OP do what is right for him and makes it clear that it's not a personal rejection.

 

[Liscab]

there is plugging for the forums that cleans all the friends request, I think its cost its around $75 if i find the link i am gonna send it to you

 

[progg]

 

[Liscab]

I am sure it was the cat ...............

 

[bassthumper]

Don't be a coward- accept it!

 

[Twinturbo4486]

If it's not someone you would hang out with in the real world, that person is NOT a friend. I firmly believe that, and I think the OP does too.

I disagree. You don't have to hang out with someone in the "real" world to consider them a friend. Although, if he doesn't wish to accept friend requests then I can respect that and there's nothing wrong with it.

I have a really good friend from Canada that I have never met. We have only played online games for like 5 years together (mostly first person shooters), but we have each others cell number, talk about BS, let each other know of events in our lives etc. We consider him a real friend even though I have never met the guy..

 

[progg]

I am sure it was the cat ...............

they're refreshingly blunt

 

[Liscab]

they're refreshingly blunt

see, that why the cat rejected the friend request

 

[progg]

see, that why the cat rejected the friend request

sooner or later the human might figure it out ......

 

[AngusATAT]

I'll send you a friend request. Reject it, and I will let you know if I receive a rejection notification.

I am not sure if the forum does that or not. Nobody dares reject my requests! Muahahahaaaaa!

 

[swedishfish]

I guess they probably know it now.

 

[Liscab]

I am sure the forum does not tell if a friend request has been rejected as it not tell if a friendship has been broken, the only way to know is rechecking the friend list , i tried it long time ago