I go away to spend the day with my kids, and you guys have been all over this!
Dan, you are a genius, and I think your idea is inpired, but the form factor has to be a simple rod. These guys don't have the facility to do anything else (another company might, but I haven't been able to find anyone that specializes in micro-ceramics that product anything cost effective. This heater isn't a coil, it's a flexible circuit that is printed to match our specification for voltage, ohms, etc..., then rolled up and encased in the ceramic material. Since they cannot make it any shorter than 10mm total, and it's a rolled design, we can't do anything fancy like shaping the tip. Making it fit exactly in the atty tube isn't a good idea, since the heater would simply heat up the tub, and not the juice. We have to insulate the rod from the tube, and are pretty much stuck with the rod shape. I really like the reservoir idea, but I'm not sure how we could do it while still insulating the outside tube, unless there is a non-porous ceramic that insulates, rather than conducts heat. I really like you last drawing with the template. If we can find an insulating ceramic, and cast it around the heater, I think this is the best design. I suggest channelling the airflow all the way to the bottom of the tube (I know I said this was a bad idea before), because the sloped sides would prevent leakage into the air passage, and what little did get in would be cleared by the next draw. The only problem I could forsee would be placing the e-cig on it's side, and excess liquid pooling on the side and seeping out. I think that would be a very rare instance, especially if there were numerous small tubes, rather than a few larger ones.
I also really like your idea of eliminating the leads, and just pressing the heater in using the pads as connectors. Perhaps the best way of doing this would be to cast the leads in ceramic pot directly into the base connector, and press in the 4mm heater into the connector. This inspires another idea regarding fluid delivery if we can't use an insulating ceramic, but I'm exhausted, and want to explore it further before commenting publicly.
Jacko, the heater isn't a coil (see above paragraph), so it must be encased. Otherwise, I see your point, and agree in principle. Keep the ideas coming!
Roadkill, you also are amazing. You obviously are quite knowledgeable about much of this, and a great asset to the effort. I love your drawings. #2 is ideal imo, but short of an exposed coil, we will not likely find a replacement heating unit this small (1mm x 4mm rod) that will work for us and be reasonably priced. The only vendor I could find that was even capable of this said he wouldn't be able to do large production runs for less than $350 USD each, as these would be highly specialized items. Everyone else laughed at me.

Plate heaters just aren't made small enough to fit our atty connector, so they aren't an option either, unless we want to deal with a big, hot bulge in the middle of the atty tube.
Thanks to everyone who has commented on this, and provided encouragement. With some perseverance, I think we may have a winner here! Sorry, I haven't responded to PMs, I'm not going to take any money until we have a workable design spec for the heater, and are ready to place the order. I'm hoping with everyone's help that this can be early in the week, perhaps Monday or Tuesday. We can only get 10 heaters in the sample run, since they are going to be hand fabricated and casted. Hopefully that will be enough for everyone with a workbench and the desire to experiment. I'll be back late tomorrow to see the progress.

You guys are awesome!!
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