the first fight over vaping..

[tornadosiren]

I suppose fight might be a bit stong. After 23 years the husband and I have the fight thing down to a science though. We were in the car heading to do our weekly shopping, and I pulled out my VP to take a quick hit, and he asked me not to do that in the car. It's only a 20 minute drive, he said, I don't think that is asking too much. Yes, it rather ticked me off. I told him that he was one of the major reasons I had tried this in the first place, It doesnt stink..etc etc etc. He snapped with the usual "Fine, do whatever the hell you want" bit. Anyone who has a significant other knows THAT tone. So I Just sat there in silence without vaping the whole way to the store.
Anyway after we got there, I calmly told him that No, it is not a big deal to go 20 minutes without it. That is not the issue. THe issue is, that by not allowing me to vape in the car, he is relegating me to be exactly as I was before. When we get to where we are going, I will have to stand outside like a leper and vape, because while the 20 minutes in the car is not big deal, by the time the shopping etc is done, I am going to need my fix, and while vaping may technically not be illegal in the grocery store, I'm not gonna pull out my PV and use it. So there I would be, once again, standing in the cold feeding my habit. He understood, and all is well again. Talking to non smokers is rough sometimes.

 

[dwillings]

Lol give him an ultimatim..Tell him if he doesn't become more understanding you'll just go back to smoking..

 

[OhTheAgony]

Oh, when I read things like this I realize, it is good to be single.

 

[Lisa B]

You handled that well. I haven't had a problem with my husband he actually enjoys the smell of some of my vapes. In fact he even uses one of my old pv's with some 0 nic chocolate covered banana...lol.

 

[tornadosiren]

He actually has been pretty understanding, but we are coming at this from two different angles. He is thrilled that I no longer smell like smoke, and thrilled with teh health thing and all that, but he sees this merely as a step to giving up both completely. So, he wants to see me doing less and less vaping as time goes by, and I suspect that his time frame for totally giving up the smokes and the vapes is a lot shorter than mine is. I would like to eventually give up both, but for now, I am enjoying the vaping, although I am hoping that once I get down to zero nicotine that I will use it more as an occasional treat, and not a regular habit. Perhaps a good vape after Macgyver?

 

[Magnetism]

Does he not have any vices? Tell him to eff off in the kindest way possible.

Disclaimer: I've ruined almost every relationship I've ever been in so take my advice with a grain of salt.

 

[Stosh]

The way I explained the need to vape more constantly is that smoking gives you a quick hit of nicotine, vaping is slow and steady to feed us the nicotine. An analog is like taking a shot of bourbon with a short beer chaser, goes right to your head, vaping is like a wine spritzer, have to keep sipping all the time to get the same effect. Your husband was used to you being able to smoke a cig before getting in the car, and one walking from the car to the store, and all is right with the world. Vaping is very different.

 

[JohnnyMac]

It's nice to be in a relationship where we are both making the switch together, except for the fact that I have to order all the fluids and clean the atomisers and "fix" hers when its not vaping properly, but still its mostly very nice

 

[WomanOfHeart]

He will have to realize that for as much as he loves you, as much as he would like for you to quit smoking and vaping, he has no control or say over this. I'm not saying this to be mean or contrary, but because it's a fact. The only one who's calling the shots with your smoking or vaping is you. You've made the first step by replacing cigarettes with vaping, and you'll stop vaping, if and when you decide, in your own time. He may not like it, but hopefully he'll be able to come to a better understanding of it and accept it.

Just my 0.25 (0.02 adjusted for inflation.)

 

[tornadosiren]

Does he not have any vices? Tell him to eff off in the kindest way possible.

Disclaimer: I've ruined almost every relationship I've ever been in so take my advice with a grain of salt.

Well, this made me laugh. I did win the car argument. He said that it doesn't bother him really. Meaning, he has no issue with the odor or anything. The only one I have used that he does not like is a watermelon flavored one I got from a friend. He really dislikes the smell of watermelon flavored stuff. But he is okay with me doing it in the car now. Just, like I said, he wants to see me cutting down on it. I told him that will have to wait, and for now, he is just going to have to be happy and contented to know that I am now healthier, and he can enjoy kissing me without tasting cigarette now, whenever he wants.

 

[Stosh]

.... except for the fact that I have to order all the fluids ..... but still its mostly very nice

Let me see if I have this right, you get to order all the juice, and this is a problem HOW???

 

[shawnira]

I have tried once to quit smoking, and it was the hardest thing, and I didn't. My wife smokes and loves it, yet she was the one who brought vaping (ECig's) to my attention. I have given up so many vices that I rallied around the somking one and it's legality, but since trying vaping with my wife...I am a hooked yet again (on something I trust as better than a analog). If my wife (a smoker) hadn't found this and embraced it, I could never have reached a better place regarding "quitting". You have to learn (for yourself) when and where to vape, how much, ect. (it's a chore after only 2 weeks) I'm learning, but the benifits I can see at the end of the tunnel.

 

[grandmato5]

If it helps any, I think your husband is pretty normal in his thinking along with lots of our family members that wanted us to give up smoking. They really do think of vaping as a smoking cessation method where we're only going to be vaping for a short time and we will be giving it all up and be smoking AND vaping free. After vaping for the first two months I heard more times than I care to remember from people that originally said they though the switch to vaping was great say things things like "So, how much longer before you're done smoking ?" One even went so far as to say "oh, I see you're still doing that, so sorry to see its not working for you." I haven't even told anyone, including my husband, that I'm now doing zero nic and have kicked my nic addiction because I am no where near ready to give up vaping yet. Yes, I do think that will happen in my future but it will be on MY timeframe not on anyone elses. Unfortuantely I learned from their past comments that there's no way they are going to understand why I would continue right now to vape when I'm no longer addicted to nic.

 

[BigChemMrTiem]

I will have to stand outside like a leper and vape.

lolololz that was the best line ever

 

[Bella Chic]

Ha, you did better than I would. I would have said "Sorry for your luck" and started vaping in the car. My hubby doesn't like it either but it's only cause he says he doesn't like the smell of my juice (which smells like heaven *French Toast*) but I vape when and where I please and he can't tell me not too. He has no room to talk, he still buys freakin cigs *Gross* and that smells like infinity times worse!!! I've gotten into the flow of my life where I am more independent and don't need a "Daddy" to tell me what to do, he can ask me, but needs to realize that just because he asks, doesn't mean I'm going to flatter him. I didn't use to be this way, maybe it's having 4 kids that did this to me, lol, well 5 if you count the other half...and I do. LMAO!!!

I had a good lil giggle at your fight though, that's pretty darn good.

 

[jj2]

Mine doesn't really understand why I just don't quit instead of using the silly e-cig. He's a trooper though and doesn't say a word. Actually he puts up with all my stuff being about and he builds my NicoSticks and repairs them---like I said, he's a trooper.

I got a friend who used the e-cig and Chantix to quit altogether but she used the N Joy and didn't really like it. She use to get so ticked off at the ex smoker attitude. She ask me today when I was going to give up "that thing?"
I told her she wasn't doing to well with the ex smoker attitude and I was going to give up it as soon as I stopped enjoying vaping, and I enjoy it more than I did smoking.

 

[dormouse]

10 years and my fiance never let me smoke in his car. And I would go through contortions smoking in mine and trying to get the smoke to go out the window (meanwhile he would open his window ALL the way so I'd have sparks flying in my face).

Anyway he lets me vape in his car! But some ejuice vapors bother him (especially pungent tobaccoey ones like FSUSA Desert Ship). We found peace with a nice non-icecreamy vanilla (Backwoods Brew Vanilla Bean). So far it's an aroma that doesn't bother him much. And it became my regular vape anyway after I started adding it to tobacco juices so much that I was just vaping vanilla.

 

[kabonk]

geez by your signature its only been 6 days and some change the man really should cut you some slack and be proud of the fact that you're not smoking, my family always nagged me about quiting smoking and then when I finnally did they started nagging me about vapping I told them I'll quit when I'm ready or maybe I'll never quit. I think they just like to nag me.

 

[toddos]

This is why I drive. My car, my rules. I only smoked in the convertible if the top was down, which in rainy Seattle isn't all that often. But now I'll crack the window slightly and vape away.

 

[cherewine]

oh, when i read things like this i realize, it is good to be single.

amen!!!!!!!!!!!!