Trying to get my father to quit

[Delran]

Yeah, it's gonna be a tough battle with him. I want to make it as easy as possible for him so that he won't get the urge to use smokes.

Earlier before I read Kivrin's idea about taking him out for lunch and just "stopping by", I asked my dad to let me take him to a shop...his reply..."I don't need that, I quit! I haven't smoked since yesterday...." So I kind of just had to roll my eyes and walk away. He's very stubborn and also very picky, so it's gonna take awhile, and I'm just hoping to be able to convince him to give it a proper try, and hope he enjoy's it enough to quit smoking.

 

[Cloudhound]

The trick for me, and most long term smokers I think, is to minimize the amount of hassle compared to smoking. And if he's not technological, then he may not want to build coils and measure ohms, etc. the simplest nicotine delivery system with the most reliability is obviously helpful. It has to be a joy and not a frustration for him, or he'll toss it in the drawer and buy a pack. If he's a tinkerer he may like the subtank selection as it allows for buying attys and tinkering on an rba too. And if you think this could become a hobby for him that the two of you can bond over, that might be an added incentive for him. I wish you the best of luck, my 40+ year smoking parents won't even consider this "new fangled" technology, and I understand their trepidation.

Making the paradigm shift from being addicted to cigarettes to knowing you're actually addicted to nicotine is a difficult one. I hope you make it work.

 

[Kivrin]

Yeah, it's gonna be a tough battle with him. I want to make it as easy as possible for him so that he won't get the urge to use smokes.

And always remember, quitting will still be up to him. I don't think there's anything wrong with getting him set up with something and encouraging him to give it another go with better equipment. If he has it, he may use it when you aren't looking, but might resist if he feels pestered into it.

I just quit about a month ago. I was a dual user off and on before that, mostly with disposables. Getting something dependable and a backup made me quit, because the vaping was so much more pleasant than the cigs. It still hasn't been easy, but I can say with a high degree of confidence that I have quit smoking for good and that's something I thought I would never be able to do.

I asked my dad to let me take him to a shop...his reply..."I don't need that, I quit! I haven't smoked since yesterday...." So I kind of just had to roll my eyes and walk away. He's very stubborn and also very picky, so it's gonna take awhile, and I'm just hoping to be able to convince him to give it a proper try, and hope he enjoy's it enough to quit smoking.

I've got a stubborn/picky one, too. You might have to let this go for now and try later. Best of luck to you.

 

[Strings]

Thinking about it more: maybe just accede to his wishes?

If he doesn't want to vape, that IS his choice. Nagging him about it makes you no better than those who harass us about vaping

 

[kkahmann]

Delran--I'm 66 and just started vapeing last November--but I still smoked until the end of January. I haven't had an analog since Jan 31 and if you would have told me that last Sept--I would not have believed it.

I got some really good advise from an ole buddy of mine who is 71--he told me not to even think about saving any money and not to worry about quitting. He told me to get some good equipment (ELeaf Istick 20W and Nautilis Mini) and a few different juices and just carry it around with me and use it only when I felt like it--otherwise smoke as nesessary.

Give it to him and then leave him alone. It ain't rocket science--he'll figure it out. If he has questions he's got you to ask.

 

[Delran]

Thinking about it more: maybe just accede to his wishes?

If he doesn't want to vape, that IS his choice. Nagging him about it makes you no better than those who harass us about vaping

Trust me I'm not trying to harass him about it, the reason I brought up trying to get him better equipment, was cuz he's tried it before, and I think he stopped cuz it wasn't the same as a regular cig, so offering to get him better equipment that will give him a better experience with is was my main goal. Unfortunately since I'm his kid, if I try to give him advice, he's already adamantly against it, so no matter what he'd reject it(Life of a desi kid, no matter how old you are, if you're the child, parent's don't want to listen). Hell if I picked up cig's and started smoking, which I have no plans too, he'd probably disown me for picking it up and lecture me, but I can't give him any advice sadly.

I already talked to my sister about it, while we want to help him, we're not gonna force him to do anything, If I go out and just buy him a starter kit, I think he'll just be more resentful towards it, so while I'll still try to steer him towards it, I ultimately can't force his hand into it.

 

[DellaAngel]

I agree. Got my 75yo dad a regular ego twist w kangar pro mini. As a longtime smoker Size wasn't an issue draw was. We found out after investing a lot that he gave it away, reason = he was feeling winded from hard/tight draw. I let him try my egrip my joyetech w rba base and he said he'd have stuck with it if he had that to begin w because it gave more vapor, for less work

 

[Delran]

I agree. Got my 75yo dad a regular ego twist w kangar pro mini. As a longtime smoker Size wasn't an issue draw was. We found out after investing a lot that he gave it away, reason = he was feeling winded from hard/tight draw. I let him try my egrip my joyetech w rba base and he said he'd have stuck with it if he had that to begin w because it gave more vapor, for less work

Which was my major concern for a istick Mini, and why I was thinking about the istick 50w. But I think I may have to hold off until he seems willing to give it another go. Though I think if he does he'll just go to the gas station and pick up another Blu, very hard to get him to change his mind sometimes.

I honestly just want him to quit smoking, if its from patches, vaping, or cold turkey, I'll keep trying to get him to quit, but won't force him to use something he wont want to, because I know from experience, it won't help him to quit.