Ugh. Husband Would Rather I Smoke Analogs.. :(

[Ravynshadow]

I think the problem is that he was a "closet" smoker, meaning he would always come outside with me when I smoked and take a few puffs. Now that I'm not doing that anymore he is smoking alone. He tried my e-cig and said it tasted awful. I even offered to let him try some of my other juices in different tanks and he said no. He wasn't interested.

I handed him my last three packs of analogs two days ago and said, Have fun. I'm done with them.

I'm sure in time he will come around but I don't need this crap while I'm trying myself to quit. I've never had anyone act this way about me trying to quit.

He said that if I really wanted to quit smoking I would just quit everything and it's all in my mind, then he said his friend had great luck with Chantix. (A drug that is known to cause people to off themselves, no thanks.)

I just don't get it. I'm going to muscle through it. He's not raining on my smoke free parade. LOL

I get this same type of thing from my dad when he sees me he doesn't call it a big metal dildo but he is always telling me it's ridiculous and I should just quit everything. But me I liked to smoke and didn't really didn't want to quit but my mom worried about me smoking so much that I started vaping as a compromise so she wouldn't worry and now I love it, it's been 5 months now my dad still gives me a bad time about it but I just ignore him he thinks that because he quit chewing tobacco I should just quit to. So I would say to you just ignore your husbands comments and keep doing what you will to improve your health and your life.

 

[Wildflowers69]

Awww I am so sorry you are going through this CatClick...I know how you feel. Doesn't make it easy if you don't have back up support. That is why I come here. Although my Boyfriend does support anything that gets me off cigarettes he laughs at me also. I have one of my good friends laugh at me the other day also. Just hang in there and keep doing what is right for you!

So I have been vaping for less than a week and off analogs for almost 72 hours. It's been an interesting ride to say the least. Finding the right juice has been a challenge. I'm not that happy with the setup I have but it's working ok for now. I've had some pretty bad side effects from either withdrawals or overconsuming nicotine. I haven't quite figured out if the uneasiness and jitters I am feeling is a nicotine craving or a symptom of me over vaping. I'm working on it, but I DO know that I can't stand the smell of analogs anymore and I NEVER want to smoke them again.

My husband on the other hand keeps throwing news articles he finds on the internet at me that say E-cigs are dangerous, unregulated, and JUST as addictive as cigarettes, PLUS, he says I look ridiculous sucking on a huge chrome (Dildo) as he calls it, and then he says he would rather I just smoke regular smokes.

So, help me convince him that this is indeed BETTER than smoking analogs. I have told him everything I know (Which admittedly isn't much) and directed him to lots of sites but he is still on my back and his nasty comments are really getting to me.

Even some of my friends are on my side and want to try e-cigs. He still says it's dumb looking and it doesn't matter to him he just thinks what he thinks an that's that.

Has anyone encountered a spouse who was anti-vaping and if so how did you handle it??

Thanks!!

 

[MiamiMom63]

I was the same way. My problem is that I enjoyed smoking a lot. To tell me never to smoke again was like telling me to be miserable for the rest of my life. Trust me, i tried many many times to quit in so many ways. Vaping gave me the ability to be satisfied and not kill myself or feel miserable. I finally got that death monkey off my back. I wanted to tell everyone I knew how great it was. I'm very thankful that I haven't smoked in almost 3 years now and I'm down to 6 mg. nic. I really thought I would die from smoking and had given up on quitting, plus after smoking for 30 years I was having a lot of physical problems which I now no longer have. No, I don't have guilt for vaping at all!

I get this same type of thing from my dad when he sees me he doesn't call it a big metal dildo but he is always telling me it's ridiculous and I should just quit everything. But me I liked to smoke and didn't really didn't want to quit but my mom worried about me smoking so much that I started vaping as a compromise so she wouldn't worry and now I love it, it's been 5 months now my dad still gives me a bad time about it but I just ignore him he thinks that because he quit chewing tobacco I should just quit to. So I would say to you just ignore your husbands comments and keep doing what you will to improve your health and your life.

 

[ShariR]

Hi, and welcome to ECF. You are in a tough spot. Nobody knows him like you. This behavior is not new, I am pretty sure. He is afraid that if you are successful then the pressure is going to be on him to quit smoking and start vaping. He is not ready to do that so he is trying to sabatoge you. He knows quitting is the smart and right thing to do. He resents that you are able to do it and he is not. He probably does not want to quit.

He is losing his smoking buddy. He is afraid that you are going to start harping (trying to convince) him to quit smoking and start vaping. He does not care about facts or statistics. This is the old 'the best defense is a good offense' behavior. He is lashing out first so you do not get a chance to put the spotlight on him.

Just do what you need to do to be successful with your vaping and not smoking. If you can, do not engage him in vape talk. He will turn it into an argument that he will make sure you will not win because he will not listen. See if you can let him know that you are not going to back him into a corner to start vaping. That is what he is afraid of.

I sincerely hope that you are successful. Don't let him be the reason you are not. Go sit with him outside and vape while he smokes. Show him you are not going to force this scary looking pv thing on him. He is afraid of having to listen to family and friends ask him why he is still smoking when you are not. Your success is threatening his status quo. Men don't like that.

We are here to talk and give you all kinds of advice and ideas. Take what you like and leave the rest. Please stay connected with us when you can. You do need an outlet to vent. Don't do it with his mother or brother or even your family. It will get back to him and just make him madder. He is dealing with his own sense of change, fear and guilt. And taking it out on you. You can ride this out. You have already shown how strong you are. Look at you! 3 Days! That is amazing! Congratulations and you will see this through.