Vape mail, hiding expense from husband !

[Blindtarm]

Be honest, he'll get over it soon.
I know that with me, I bought a lot of gear, even though I didn't have the money for it then. In the end I found a good set-up, and I don't buy that much (I hope).
Still it's also a hobby for me, that I share with my boyfriend even though he gets a bit upset with me buying expensive tanks, he gets over it real fast. I was a heavy smoker and with the Norwegian taxes on tobacco, I still save a lot of money. I've spent 1260$ on gear and juice since I started vaping in October, and since I completely quit smoking in January I've saved over 2000$, so it's a win! And I have a lot of gadgets to show for it, instead of a full ashtray.

 

[tkparker]

Not sure you will have a problem ...he loves you and having you around is what counts ...also he sees how happy & excited you are about vaping so I assume he's happy if you are . Vape on !


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[Calve]

Don't sell it to him as a hobby, It baffles me when people call it that. It's not a hobby in any definition of the word. Calling vaping a hobby is like calling eating a hobby. It is still a crutch. Admit that and you can get to the hook.

The hook: You are saving money, even if you spend more cash on the habit now. Your medical bills for smoking will be eliminated. Plus, you'll live longer so you can torment him for not picking up his underwear or taking the trash out for years to come!

 

[granolaboy]

+1 for coming clean.

Everyone who starts out vaping spends a bunch in the first few months to get set up with some good equipment, and a lot of flavours of juice. I've found that juices I didn't like at all when I first started, I'm liking a lot more now. I guess my sense of taste is returning.

My partner has no issues with me spending a bit on my new vaping habit. You just can't argue with quitting analogs...

 

[thewomenfolk]

I don't think you need any excuse at all. What does your husband spend money on? Tell him you'll quit spending money when he quits spending money. Seriously, what right does anyone have to tell us how to spend our money? If he doesn't like it, just tell him not to watch. Or ask him why he wants to spoil things or make you unhappy. Some people just like to complain when they see others happy. Don't play that game.

 

[glointhedark]

My daughter (36) and I (64) share housing and living expenses. She works, I'm retired. We both have separate incomes. We try to talk to each other about any fairly hefty (for us) expenses before we pull the trigger on an order for most things. We both vape. The vaping budget usually comes out of my disposable income. We don't always agree on extra expenditures, but we at least talk about things, even if it is after an order has been placed.

Maybe bring your spouse into the picture a little more, and talk about what you are getting/have gotten and why. It's better to be up front about things, rather than trying to hide your purchases. As long as living expenses and housing are taken care of, you should have no reason to worry. I am a complete and total cheapskate - both my parents grew up during the Depression, and pinching pennies is a way of life with me - but I usually come around and see my daughter's point on most expenditures once we have a chance to talk about things.

Good luck, and I hope things work out for you.

 

[Margie123]

I like the last answer best. I am just going to be honest with him That's the best approach. Thanks for all your help.

 

[Kr3wsk8er]

I have a similar issue with my wife, she thinks I am spending needlessly. Truth be told I do not have a solution, I just keep buying what I like. Facts are the bills are paid, I still contribute to our savings, and I am not neglecting any other financial responsibilities. I figure I am immune from any real resentment and conflict. We are adults, continue to act like it and you should be fine.

 

[Midniteoyl]

Hi, I am a newbie. As all newbies I am excited to try all the new things. So far my husband doesn't have a clue as to what I am spending (my money). But when the orders start coming in he's going to figure it out. He doesn't vape or smoke. (He quit smoking 30 years ago)
He is very supportive of my vaping and giving up the stinkies which are so bad for my health but he also thinks I am saving money by vaping. I've been vaping a month and already I've spent 3 times more than I have been spending on analogs in a months time.
I've been buying at a B&M. But now the orders are going to start coming one right after the other, and he always gets the mail before I do.
Even though it's my money, (social security). I don't want to hear any complaints that I am wasting a lot of money.
He's pretty easy going and we get along very well But I don't want him to get upset and come down on me.
What do I say to him?

We all spend more in the beginning.. It'll calm down as find gear and juices you like.

Tell him it was all on sale Now that you are ordering online, you are actually saving money over what you would have spent at the B&M..

In the end its all cheaper than still smoking...

 

[Shilo]

Hiding expense from husband----story of my life

 

[Dana A]

I would never lie to my husband. When he asks how much I spent after a day of shopping I always ask if he wants me to lie to him or give him a heart attack with the truth. He usually wants the truth and so I tell him. I don't go very often but when I do I make it worth my time

 

[eGoinMD]

I always thought that being married and/or in a relationship meant not having to lie........lol....never mind...

Just be honest. I am sure that your significant other would rather that you live longer.

 

[DancingHeretik]

Just curious. Why can't you get to the mail before him, especially on days that vapemail is coming? You can track packages online or with an app on your phone.

Does he actually get the mail the moment the mailman drops it off?

 

[NC_Fog]

Do you think he really cares what you're spending to better your health? I would just say I've got some packages coming and leave it at that. Just get what you need and cross the "money" bridge if/when you get there. "Dont ask...Don't Tell" but don't lie.

I've been married to my best friend for 32yrs and there's no way I'd ever lie to her. She sees my vape related charges and just confirms it. Last month it was about $100.00, this month it will be $450.00. She doesn't bat an eye. She watched me struggle with smoking for a tad over 33yrs and now sees how much better my health is.

Good Luck!

 

[Blindtarm]

Don't sell it to him as a hobby, It baffles me when people call it that. It's not a hobby in any definition of the word. Calling vaping a hobby is like calling eating a hobby. It is still a crutch. Admit that and you can get to the hook.

The hook: You are saving money, even if you spend more cash on the habit now. Your medical bills for smoking will be eliminated. Plus, you'll live longer so you can torment him for not picking up his underwear or taking the trash out for years to come!

I call it a hobby, even though I know it's not a hobby for every vaper. I do a lot of research on vaping, I love to vape, I talk a lot about vaping, discussing coils, tanks and mods with friends and I sometimes spend my evenings tinkering on my coils, trying out different builds. It is a hobby to me.

 

[Margie123]

Well, I told my husband that I am going to the vape shop today and that I have three packages coming in the mail and he jokingly said"Your spending a ton of money". I know by his tone of voice and his smile when he's joking. (been married 42 years) And I replied, "No I am not. I am saving money in the long run and look how good it is for my health".........He just laughed. I am relieved and feel better about the situation now .

 

[LondonGirl]

Glad he took it OK and you're feelling better too

 

[realsis]

Glad he took it ok.

 

[Amraann]

Well, I told my husband that I am going to the vape shop today and that I have three packages coming in the mail and he jokingly said"Your spending a ton of money". I know by his tone of voice and his smile when he's joking. (been married 42 years) And I replied, "No I am not. I am saving money in the long run and look how good it is for my health".........He just laughed. I am relieved and feel better about the situation now .

That is great!

 

[PennyLynn]

i agree. It's your health! Think of how much you';re saving on medical costs in the future. I bet you'll be the one who ends up taking care of him in old age!