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I have a hubby that used to like leaving dirty clothes and dishes lying around. I broke him quickly. His side of the bed had them piled up and the bed made over all of it. He quickly learned that I'm not a maid.
A year after we were married he made the mistake of telling me that it was my "wifely obligation" to cook him supper. I used to be really hotheaded back then (he needs to remember that I only learned to control it as I can still unleash it). Okay to make this short, I grilled t-bones, baked potatoes with his favorite toppings, and 2 of his favorite vegetables. I made his plate, walked to the front door, opened it, threw his plat out, and told him that he better beat the dogs to it. I didn't cook for a month. Talk about kissing my .......LOL. He hasn't made those mistakes with me ever again and we've been married almost 21 years.
I guess I'm used to seeing how my Dad treats my Mom. Mom's been battling breast cancer (she's clean now) but Dad waited on her hand and foot. Since he's retired, he does everything and Mom lets him. I think after 37 years of working, Dad has become bored and wants something to do. Growing up, I didn't get to see him very much. Mom took care of us and did everything at home. Dad worked 7 days a week, 12-16 hours a day just so she could stay at home with us. I'm totally jealous of her. Now if I can get my hubby broke like Mom has Dad...LOL. I still have a few kinks to work out with him but I can live with the peddly stuff.
A year after we were married he made the mistake of telling me that it was my "wifely obligation" to cook him supper. I used to be really hotheaded back then (he needs to remember that I only learned to control it as I can still unleash it). Okay to make this short, I grilled t-bones, baked potatoes with his favorite toppings, and 2 of his favorite vegetables. I made his plate, walked to the front door, opened it, threw his plat out, and told him that he better beat the dogs to it. I didn't cook for a month. Talk about kissing my .......LOL. He hasn't made those mistakes with me ever again and we've been married almost 21 years.
I guess I'm used to seeing how my Dad treats my Mom. Mom's been battling breast cancer (she's clean now) but Dad waited on her hand and foot. Since he's retired, he does everything and Mom lets him. I think after 37 years of working, Dad has become bored and wants something to do. Growing up, I didn't get to see him very much. Mom took care of us and did everything at home. Dad worked 7 days a week, 12-16 hours a day just so she could stay at home with us. I'm totally jealous of her. Now if I can get my hubby broke like Mom has Dad...LOL. I still have a few kinks to work out with him but I can live with the peddly stuff.
Aww, Im exactly the same. My bf never does anything around the house and makes a mess all the time, I have to go after him everytime he moves to clean up. I get so annoyed sometimes, I cry too. But when he agress to help me tidy up, it looks as if he didnt do a thing and just made it worse, so I'd rather do everything myself, but properly. Ugh, men...
Omg my hubby leaves his stuff all over the house. I'm a SAHM , and it's new to me. I'm a true capricorn and love to work and always managed and was definitely a workaholic. So I have essentially made the home my new "job" I feed DS all homemade organic food, pretty much homeschool him (he's only 13 months lol) I am always trying new recipes, I keep the house immaculate. And my DH comes home and it's like a tornado hit within an hour. I tried nagging, it didn't do anything. Then I just started making piles of his stuff and putting it all on his nightstand. It worked! He now organizes and throws out whatever I put there. I would gladly do it but it is all work papers I have no clue what to do with. He has even started putting his dishes in the dishwasher after dinner.
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Since you have recently quit the cigs and now having someone else living with you could be just stress. We all reach a breaking point and the smallest thing can set it off.
My DH is on my last nerve right now. He never cleans up after himself and is always leaving his tools and stuff on the dining room table. I got up this morning, took a shower, started to brush my teeth and noticed whiskers all over the counter and in the sink!!!Seriously.....why couldn't he at least wipe the counter off and rinse out the sink???? You better believe he heard about it when I got home today!!
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I just wash them like that
DH said something to me once about hanging his t-shirts inside out, I told him if he didn't want them washed like that don't put them in the hamper like that! Way to go!!! Your mom is a very lucky lady
My DH trys to clean up after himself too.....well he calls it clean.
Good for you!!!
LOL ! Putting Steve's stuff into a pile has created piles !!!! (fail here !)
Starspecs...I am a Capricorn too !!
Starspecs...I am a Capricorn too !!
I just wash them like that
I remember a certain couple loads of laundry that included 18 out of 19 t-shirts that were inside out. I left them that way too!
Also, I have a friend who was so sick of dirty clothes and towels strewn all over the bedroom that she took a large cardboard box, labeled it "Behavior Modification Box" with a marker, and threw the stuff in there for the sake of her own sanity. Until the husband finally figured out how to throw his stuff in the hamper, she wouldn't wash it!
I have 3 baskets under the coffee table.1 for each kid and hubby.I put everything that belongs to them in there,including soda bottles and used tissues and dirty socks.They get to sort it out.They get grossed out and I just agree with them.It is gross.
I don't have those problems since I'm single, but I knew a woman who put all her pre-teen's litter in a box and made them buy it back out of their allowance. I thought that was pretty brilliant of her.
Lisa...MK or anyone...more info on hormone testing? I have no insurance at this point. 29 with 10 years experience and falling apart lately...well ~ for awhile but ...getting worse. 
Love the buy back method...I lived with terrible slob, divorced him, deal w/crazy mother (lives adjacent) who insists on touching/moving everything in my house! ugh. oh...and the 5 year old..well I don't even have to go there do I ladies? hehehe.
Love the buy back method...I lived with terrible slob, divorced him, deal w/crazy mother (lives adjacent) who insists on touching/moving everything in my house! ugh. oh...and the 5 year old..well I don't even have to go there do I ladies? hehehe.
You could call one of those walk in clinics....see what they say....there are also testing clinics now...we have one up the street....don't know if you need a script or not....
Atchung, I would call a clinic for sure and ask about hormone testing..they may be able to point you in the right direction.
When Mike and I were first married he came home after work..I had been cleaning the apt. (which he lived in alone before me). I pointed out the work I did and he ran a finger over a doorsill and came up with dust! As a Master Sgt. (Then tech sgt) he inpected lots of dorm rooms. But I am not one of his little troops!
So I decided if we were going to get along..he needed to get with the program. I told him if he sees it..he cleans it! It is just remarkable how little dust, dirt or clutter he sees now! The other thing I told him that day was he had a choice and he had to make it right now and NEVER change his mind....good sex or a good housewife! Guess what he choose? (you have to make them choose when they are young and stupid!)
Mike will help me clean now (small houses are great for cleaning..it takes me 1/2 the time as my old house!) I help him in the yard..again a small lot is 100 times faster to mow and trim then 2 and 1/2 acres!
Here we are 35 years later..messy house and happy!
When Mike and I were first married he came home after work..I had been cleaning the apt. (which he lived in alone before me). I pointed out the work I did and he ran a finger over a doorsill and came up with dust! As a Master Sgt. (Then tech sgt) he inpected lots of dorm rooms. But I am not one of his little troops!
So I decided if we were going to get along..he needed to get with the program. I told him if he sees it..he cleans it! It is just remarkable how little dust, dirt or clutter he sees now! The other thing I told him that day was he had a choice and he had to make it right now and NEVER change his mind....good sex or a good housewife! Guess what he choose? (you have to make them choose when they are young and stupid!)
Mike will help me clean now (small houses are great for cleaning..it takes me 1/2 the time as my old house!) I help him in the yard..again a small lot is 100 times faster to mow and trim then 2 and 1/2 acres!
Here we are 35 years later..messy house and happy!
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