I don't know ...I can sort of see your point, Codex, but this seems like one of those situations where it doesn't make any
sense to blame someone for ripping your clothes while they were saving your life.
It sucks that you seem to be targeted more often than most - for whatever reason - but, given your friendly demeanor and winning personality with total strangers, I'm certain ...well, mostly certain ...ok, somewhat reasonably certain that they aren't doing it specifically to you out of spite.
With that said,
the idea that the vendor should already know that the FedEx complex you were ordering from has "two levels of security and every other thing requires carded access" is ...well, it's ridiculous ...laughable, really ...I mean, downright hilarious.