My brother is one of the few that don't give me any flak even when I smoked. He was a cigarette smoker for many years...gave that up and went to cigars.....not a great transition but now he is smoke free but his wife wouldn't let up until he quit...altho, sometimes I swear I hear him smoking when we talk on the phone when he is at work. We both grew up in a smoking house (yikes..everyone smoked at that time)...the smoke was so thick that when we look back at videos of parties..it is really funny cause everyone was lighting up one after another, singing, drinking, and having fun. No one was coughing or hand waving..it was what it was!!!AMEN. I am right there with ya sister. brother Always complained about the smoking and all that in the house (both me and mom smoked) mom still smokes and i went to vaping. just over 5 months now. of course being raised like we were. No way he would say anything to mom about the smoke from smoking now. but i still get the snide comments when he passes my room of the "fog" in it and the other day when i was taking him to pick up his car he started the hand wavingTold him, dont even go there!!!!!! there was nothing in it to bother him. he gives me the excuse oh no with my allergies i can't even be out in fog. SERIOUSLY