aspergers and vaping.

[Luke95]

I am talking a long term deal
Dating for two years. We had a nasty break up and are working on fixing a lot of the issues. Mainly they were my fault because as a result of being a kid who had parents that divorced and it was bloody then having a girl cry rape on me ( it was not rape consensual on both parts) then walking in on a girl who I really liked banging two guys while dating me caused some major mental armor to be built. And that was my issues with her.

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[SleeZy]

I am talking a long term deal
Dating for two years. We had a nasty break up and are working on fixing a lot of the issues. Mainly they were my fault because as a result of being a kid who had parents that divorced and it was bloody then having a girl cry rape on me ( it was not rape consensual on both parts) then walking in on a girl who I really liked banging two guys while dating me caused some major mental armor to be built. And that was my issues with her.

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Trust issues is a hard one. However have your current gf (or are you still dating after 2 years?) Has she done anything to indicate any bad / cheating behavior?
If not it's better to trust her. It wasn't clear, did your current and you break up because your trust issues or was it something else?

Hard to tell with little information, but i wouln't for certain make any kids if the relationship is already semi unstable. Trust is basicly everything in an relationship. Once it's broken it's hard to regain. However if it's due you are being insecure and "think she might be" i can see why it could fall apart. Because if she's innocent it's not fun to be a victim of false accusations.

And i'm sorry for your previous experiences. I know just how it is. It's easier to protect urself, while at the same time it'll harm you aswell.

Trust is number 1 rule in an relationship. If trust isn't there, there's not much more to build on too. That goes for both, so if your GF is innocent i guess you'll have to start working on your own trusting issues. (Not being rude here, just saying how it is.) But on the other hand i could have completly missinterpret your last post.

But if it is as how i read it "dated for 2 years but having issues" it's not a good time to give in for a kid, nor you dreams.
It could be workable, but again don't give up the dreams just to make it work.

Edit: Also you're very young aswell, so we've to take that in consideration.

 

[Luke95]

To clarify me and her not dating yet. We dated for two years she never cheated ever. Or gave me a reason to not trust her.


The kids thing is long term.

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[Robert Cromwell]

Marriage is long term. Period.
Not a lease option to buy thing.

 

[Atchafalaya]

Nope... I don't think I saw it in the theater. We didn't go to those when I was a kid. Long story, bad childhood.

It has been on tv. There used to be movies at about 4 pm after school was out. I think I saw it then? Or some other time.....



I will try to remember to say happy birthday to you, when it comes around

I didn't see it in the theatre either Robin. It was on TV.
Sorry about your childhood. **Hugs**

 

[Luke95]

Marriage is long term. Period.
Not a lease option to buy thing.

That is what I am talking about.

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[SleeZy]

That is what I am talking about.

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Also kinda the message i wanted through, altho i spoke abit more indepth.

Edit: I still hold firm of what i've said if there's already an issue in your relationship atm. Solve those first. Then think ahead of kids and getting married.

 

[Atchafalaya]

How old are you? You're making me feel old.

I would think hard about having a long term relationship with someone who wanted me to make all of the sacrifices.

I've been married for 30 years. My wife had her own issues growing up, and her own challenges today. When we were kids (we met when I was 13 and she was 14) we offered each other support and comfort. We continue to this day.

Nobody's perfect, and nobody should expect perfection of anyone else. Relationships require sacrifice, and it doesn't bode well if one party is doing all of the sacrificing.

That's so romantic taxguy. Good for you! And good advice

 

[AXIOM_1]

Happy Birthday AXIOM_1!

Thank you very much

 

[AXIOM_1]

Too cute!

Yes it is cute

 

[Robert Cromwell]

Nope... I don't think I saw it in the theater. We didn't go to those when I was a kid. Long story, bad childhood.

It has been on tv. There used to be movies at about 4 pm after school was out. I think I saw it then? Or some other time.....

yah, I did not get to go to movies either, was a sin and I would burn in hell for all eternity for doing such a thing. And dancing?

I was culturally depraved as a child.

 

[Atchafalaya]

Yes it is cute

And the horns are even polished too!!

 

[Atchafalaya]

Yes it is cute

And the horns are even polished too!!

 

[AXIOM_1]

This made me laugh abit due the diagnosis hysteria around here in sweden.


Yes, but not as much as the cigarettes did. But it's doable.



Yepp! Or with my coffee. Well i guess they both go hand in hand, but still.



I would mostly say a crutch, but it also helps me focus throughout the day.


Nope...

I'm abit late to the party, but well i figure i should answer your questions.

Edit:

Happy birthday @AXIOM_1

Thanks and welcome to the "different" thread

 

[Atchafalaya]

yah, I did not get to go to movies either, was a sin and I would burn in hell for all eternity for doing such a thing. And dancing?

I was culturally depraved as a child.

Wow. I grew up dancing and won't ever stop. Even danced with my mom when she was wheelchair bound.

 

[AXIOM_1]

I came out kicking, grew up kicking, and will croak kicking.

 

[AXIOM_1]

Well folks, I got "another" label hung on me by the croaker Not only do I have asperger's but it appears I have a bit of ADD as well So, they are going to stick me on Ritalin

 

[Electrodave]

I used to get to go to the movies because my parents were poor and we lived in a big city (Los Angeles) that had movie theatres on every other block. There's some connection between LA and the movie industry. An afternoon double feature cost $0.15, which was cheaper than what a babysitter would charge (both of my parents worked), even if they did end up having to pay another quarter to an older kid to take me.

The hard thing was that I didn't have any money to buy soda or popcorn. I saw all of these other kids with sodas and candy and popcorn, but all I had was the $0.15 for admission.

 

[Atchafalaya]

I came out kicking, grew up kicking, and will croak kicking.

Kicking = good.
Screaming = bad.
Lol

 

[Robert Cromwell]

Atomizer Deficiency Disorder?