CHIT CHAT in VOLTVILLE

[SandySu]

Hubby could sleep 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. I am not sure what time he goes to bed, since he plays his video game so much. I know I shouldn't be making up stories, but I have no idea how to wake him up, otherwise. He gets upset if I don't get him up on time and if I try to shake him awake, his dog will go after me. Really, if I let him sleep, he would never make it in to work. Unfortunately, we need his income, or I would just let him be late or miss work. Also, I don't want him complaining about me not doing my job, which is to wake him up. Sorry, didn't mean to dump here.

That's OK, at least with me. I don't mind brainstorming with you about how to wake your husband. What if you reminded him to stop playing his game and go to bed about 8 hours before you have to get him up the next day? That way, if he got enough sleep, maybe he'd wake up more easily. Can you sleep on his sleep schedule? If it's horribly erratic, I can understand why you can't.

 

[Nukified]

Given the right game, it becomes an addiction. Luckily, I'm bored by every game that is made nowadays within a couple hours. For years, I would play video games, go to school, play games, get an hour or two of sleep, and do it all over again.

Want to know how to bore a guy out of playing? Force him to play the most cutie girly game you can find WITH you.

 

[abracadebra]

oh tina I so relate..my x hubby worked grave yard shifts...it was my (job) to wake him...dammed if you do...dammed if you don't...he was a very heavy sleeper..i had to smash saucepan lids near his head to wake him...then there was a huge fight over it...if I left him alone...then he would get the I didn't wake him..its hard keeping a relationship on track with weird work hours...

 

[BWhare]

A plant sprayer set to stream instead of mist might get a reaction - not necessarily a good one but as long as you have a good head start and hide his shoes.......

 

[SandySu]

Given the right game, it becomes an addiction. Luckily, I'm bored by every game that is made nowadays within a couple hours. For years, I would play video games, go to school, play games, get an hour or two of sleep, and do it all over again.

Want to know how to bore a guy out of playing? Force him to play the most cutie girly game you can find WITH you.

Won't he just decide he doesn't like that game, but he'll still want to play the others? I think the way to get him to lose interest is to beat him at his favorite game.

 

[abracadebra]

A plant sprayer set to stream instead of mist might get a reaction - not necessarily a good one but as long as you have a good head start and hide his shoes.......

been there done that....you name it I tried it....

 

[Amethyst_Star]

That's OK, at least with me. I don't mind brainstorming with you about how to wake your husband. What if you reminded him to stop playing his game and go to bed about 8 hours before you have to get him up the next day? That way, if he got enough sleep, maybe he'd wake up more easily. Can you sleep on his sleep schedule? If it's horribly erratic, I can understand why you can't.

Thanks, SanySu. I do appreciate your help. I'm at my wits end. I used to keep his schedule until this game became his life. He stays up with a coworker and plays online with him. I try to remind him that he needs to sleep, but he doesn't want to go to bed until his coworker does. Thing is, his coworker doesn't get to sleep much as he takes care of his child while his girlfriend is at work. They only have one car, so he stays up until he has to get her from work around 4 pm. Then he comes home and sleeps until he has to go to work at night with my husband. So hubby plays the game until his coworker goes to pick up his GF. Which is when hubby's supposed to wake up. I'd suggest changing his schedule to match his coworker's, but he insists on getting up early to get ready for work. Even though he doesn't go in until 10 pm.

 

[Amethyst_Star]

Given the right game, it becomes an addiction. Luckily, I'm bored by every game that is made nowadays within a couple hours. For years, I would play video games, go to school, play games, get an hour or two of sleep, and do it all over again.

Want to know how to bore a guy out of playing? Force him to play the most cutie girly game you can find WITH you.

Thanks, Nuke.

He's advanced in this game so high, that he can't get any higher! He's even started playing it on my GamerTag! Talk about addiction!

He has no interest in anything that I like, unfortunately. Even tried getting him to go to the movies with me on the advice of my therapist, but he wouldn't go unless it was Fast & Furious 6, which we had already seen. Granted I love those movies, but I wasn't going to spend $20 to see it again. LOL!

 

[Amethyst_Star]

A plant sprayer set to stream instead of mist might get a reaction - not necessarily a good one but as long as you have a good head start and hide his shoes.......

Tried that and he got very ...... off at me! Not doing that again! Thanks, though.

Won't he just decide he doesn't like that game, but he'll still want to play the others? I think the way to get him to lose interest is to beat him at his favorite game.

I have thought of that, SandySu, and even tried learning the game. I am not coordinated enough. I stick with Bejeweled and Tetris!

 

[JerryRM]

Good evening, Voltvilleians.

 

[Amethyst_Star]

Good evening, Voltvilleians.

Good evening, Jerry!

 

[JerryRM]

Hi, Tina !!!

 

[Nukified]

Won't he just decide he doesn't like that game, but he'll still want to play the others? I think the way to get him to lose interest is to beat him at his favorite game.

I definitely didn't like the games my ex would pick out, but it made me realize if I started playing mine, I would have to play hers at some point. I just stopped playing after a while. She couldn't beat me at mine, but that's because she hated them so she didn't play like I did.

 

[White Rabbit]

Hey Jerry, what's happening?

 

[Amethyst_Star]

I definitely didn't like the games my ex would pick out, but it made me realize if I started playing mine, I would have to play hers at some point. I just stopped playing after a while. She couldn't beat me at mine, but that's because she hated them so she didn't play like I did.

I don't like multiplayer games where you have to compete with others. Especially a game where you can get banned for accidentally shooting a teammate. I even tried Left for Dead 2 and it was alright, but my teammates kept having to save me! LOL! At least they can't yell at you in that game like they do hubby's.

 

[JerryRM]

Hi Wabbit and Nukified. I worked in the yard today, Wabbit and maybe tomorrow too. The weather is going to be nice for a couple of days and then it's back to the heat and humidity, so I might as well take advantage of the nice weather, while I can.

 

[abracadebra]

Good evening, Voltvilleians.

Good morning captain jerry...hows the high seas treating Ya?

 

[JerryRM]

Hi Debra. I'm landlocked for the time being. LOL

 

[SandySu]

Thanks, SanySu. I do appreciate your help. I'm at my wits end. I used to keep his schedule until this game became his life. He stays up with a coworker and plays online with him. I try to remind him that he needs to sleep, but he doesn't want to go to bed until his coworker does. Thing is, his coworker doesn't get to sleep much as he takes care of his child while his girlfriend is at work. They only have one car, so he stays up until he has to get her from work around 4 pm. Then he comes home and sleeps until he has to go to work at night with my husband. So hubby plays the game until his coworker goes to pick up his GF. Which is when hubby's supposed to wake up. I'd suggest changing his schedule to match his coworker's, but he insists on getting up early to get ready for work. Even though he doesn't go in until 10 pm.

I see the problem. Your husband is not taking responsibility for himself and then blames you when things don't work out. What if you said you refused to get him up if he didn't go to bed when he was supposed to? Yes, maybe he'd lose his job, but he needs a wake-up call. He can't go on shoving the responsibility on you. Have you discussed the problem with him? Have you asked him for a solution? That might work. Somehow, you have to shift the responsibility for him getting up back onto his shoulders and off yours. So, what I'd do is stay up till it's time for him to go to bed so that he has enough sleep (8 hours). If he refuses to go to bed then, I'd say, "Well, then I'm not going to try to wake you up in the morning. You're on your own. Good night." And off to bed I'd go. Set your own alarm for about 5 minutes before his bullhorn or whatever goes off so you aren't startled awake, then retreat out of the way. If he sees you're serious about not waking him up, what will he do? Will he yell at you? Will he get himself up? Will he simply oversleep every day and passively lose his job?

 

[Nukified]

Oh hi Jerry.