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PaulaLynn

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So I got my 510 yesterday, as you all already know LOL. Anyway, so once the battery was all charged up, I drew on it, my son immediately comes over (he is 12) he has been on me to stop smoking for 6 years. "OH MAN THATS AWESOME!!!!" he says. I said "NO ITS NOT!" "ITS STILL SMOKING NO MATTER WHICH WAY YOU LOOK AT IT AND ITS NOT COOL!" so now I don't know what to do. How do I comfort him in the fact that I'm not smoking anymore, but its not something I want him to see as cool or something that he should try?:confused:
 

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Like I tell my 4 year old which hounded me everyday about smoking hehe
I tell her that what I am doing now is still bad for you, but for me its different. It is better than smoking, and just a step closer to a healthier DAD. I tell her I wish I didn't do either, but happy that I found something that I feel helps.... and who knows maybe daddy will stop these stupid things as well


NOW CLEAN UP YOUR DARN TOYS OR NO ICE CREAM
 

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When my 6 year old girl asks me about it, I just tell her that while it's healthier for me (& for her) that I vape instead of smoke, it is only for grownups who quit smoking and that it's poison for little bodies.
I can explain more in-depth to her when she's older, but for now, this explaination satisfies her.
 

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At twelve,he should be smart enough to understand.My son knows nic is addictive and unhealthy.

true, however, at 12 I was also smart enough to understand with the health classes and all that is was stupid to start, and here I am now 26 years later... I think I will refrain from vaping infront of him and hide my sorry ... in the garage :oops:
 

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I sort of know how you feel. My 11 yr old daughter was ALL OVER me to quit smoking! I made her a deal, I quit smoking if she quits talking back. She's a typical preteen female diva with an attitude. We comprimised, she talks back way less and I vape. My daughter thinks vaping is cool, but only because of the fact that it is much safer for all of us that smoking. She knows it isn't for kids and is way supportive of my vaping to ween myself off the nicotine.

This is SO BAD, but one time I was driving her to cheer practice and vaping happily on my 510. My cart went dry so I'm like "oh ....!" she asks me what and I told her my cart was dry and tossed my 510 in the console. She says "Now worries mom, I got this!" and before I could stop her (I was driving, remember?) she grabs my 510 & juice bottle and tops off my cart. I instantly FREAK OUT and ask her "Where did you learn that!?!?!?!" She then gives me that look like I am the stupidest old person to walk the earth and says to me "Mom, do you realize I live in the same house as you? I've seen you do it like a million times". Little brat. LOL

Kinda came in handy though. A few weeks later my husband (who is still on the analogs) had knee surgery. The next day he was still laid up on the couch and I had to go to work. He couldn't hobble out to the garage to smoke so 11 yr old tells dad she's gonna "hook him up" and grabs my magnum mod, pops a fresh battery in it, tops off the cart and hands it over. Dad calls me at work and asks me why our kids have the ability to make us all feel like we're idiots.

All the while, 11 yr old is now on my .... to quit vaping and frequently asks me what mg nic I am down to, but is talking back WAY less. Gotta love our kids!
 

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I have 4 grandsons. I never smoked around them or in the house with them. They knew cigarettes were bad. Then when I started vaping they were interested. They knew it was not a cigarette and was happy I quit regular cigarettes. They love to touch the light on the end of the ecig and not get burned. They already know smoking cigarettes is bad but they seem to accept that what I am doing is much better. One day my grandson said he got smoke in his eye when I was vaping. I said no you didn't because it is not regular smoke. He agreed.
 

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Ah geez, I'm 25 and that was my reaction too. :oops:

The approaches people have described all sound like fine ideas and I give a lot of credit to ideas from people who have parenting experience, but I'll throw in my view just from memories of being a preteen.

I remember that I expected grownups to conceal information from me, and so I always questioned what I was told. But I was always impressed by small scraps of emotional and factual honesty about drugs (or sex and relationships, or any of the other mysteries of adolescence).

It's okay to admit to him it does look kinda cool, because he can see that with his own two eyes. Otherwise, you've started out calling a zebra a donkey, so to speak, and I'd have already dismissed it as some kind of grownup conspiracy to avoid telling me about fun things.

But you can add that it's a medical device, something that is only meant to help smokers to stop. But I really think you can admit that the appearance (and smell, etc.) is definitely nicer than ugly cigarettes, and making it look cooler also helps smokers quit.

Be honest with him about how you'd do it differently if you could -- that you would have rather saved all that money you spent on cigarettes and e-cigarettes, that e-cigs are only healthier in comparison to the toxic tobacco cigarettes (and that nicotine on young bodies and brains is damaging), and that you just honestly don't want him to get the idea that this is somehow a neat thing to try. You want him to avoid all this, because once you start nicotine or tobacco at a young age, it's very hard to stop, even if you think you're just "experimenting" with it.

Just my two cents. Congrats on starting vaping! :)
 

PaulaLynn

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Ah geez, I'm 25 and that was my reaction too. :oops:

The approaches people have described all sound like fine ideas and I give a lot of credit to ideas from people who have parenting experience, but I'll throw in my view just from memories of being a preteen.

I remember that I expected grownups to conceal information from me, and so I always questioned what I was told. But I was always impressed by small scraps of emotional and factual honesty about drugs (or sex and relationships, or any of the other mysteries of adolescence).

It's okay to admit to him it does look kinda cool, because he can see that with his own two eyes. Otherwise, you've started out calling a zebra a donkey, so to speak, and I'd have already dismissed it as some kind of grownup conspiracy to avoid telling me about fun things.

But you can add that it's a medical device, something that is only meant to help smokers to stop. But I really think you can admit that the appearance (and smell, etc.) is definitely nicer than ugly cigarettes, and making it look cooler also helps smokers quit.

Be honest with him about how you'd do it differently if you could -- that you would have rather saved all that money you spent on cigarettes and e-cigarettes, that e-cigs are only healthier in comparison to the toxic tobacco cigarettes (and that nicotine on young bodies and brains is damaging), and that you just honestly don't want him to get the idea that this is somehow a neat thing to try. You want him to avoid all this, because once you start nicotine or tobacco at a young age, it's very hard to stop, even if you think you're just "experimenting" with it.

Just my two cents. Congrats on starting vaping! :)

awesome advice! Thanks! Not a parent yet? youll make an awesome one :)
 

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We see no harm in vaping in front of our kids. They saw us when we smoked those POS analogs. Our kids are 12, 16, 18 and up. They're not idiots and they know we went to e-cigs because nicotine is an addiction, mom and dad were reeaaallyy stupid back when they were younger and started smoking, and these are much better for us..and them.
 

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I think your question has been answered, but I liken it to anything else that adults do that are inappropriate for children. Rated R movies, alcohol, driving, tattoos etc... (not alcohol and driving TOGETHER lol)

When they are old enough to make informed decisions about those things they can decide what is best.

I have to say, however, what a wonderful mother you must be to care about what your children think. Many parents could care less...
 
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