Help me convince my girlfriend....

[Ictinike]

I think some of y'all are over analyzing my relationship. She's a good girl and I Love her, this is the only thing she complains about. We have been together for 2 years and she's the love of my life.. I made this thread to get advice on how to explain to her how vape is different from smoke.. All the wonderful things she does for me makes up for her .....ing about vaping. I'm not mad at anyone for expressing their opinions or advise. I appreciate all the comments and the honesty.

However there were some helpful comments and for that I'm greatful. Ill update everyone how the talk went as soon as I have it.


Thanks.

Only you know how your relationship works and if your willing (we all do) allow a bit of nagging about your vaping then by all means stay and enjoy the show. You obviously care enough and were frustrated enough about it to come to this forum and ask for help so nothing you are doing/saying now seems to help.

My opinion still stands.. It's not the vaping but something else under her skin. It's a complex thing, these relationships, and as long as your happy about her comments to you and your vaping then I see no problem.

Cheers,
~Icky

 

[bobbybee1968]

get some highbrow malted toffee juice it smells lush

 

[Racehorse]

I think some of y'all are over analyzing my relationship. She's a good girl and I Love her, this is the only thing she complains about. We have been together for 2 years and she's the love of my life..

You're lucky to have found somebody you love.

More troubling than your predicament are the responses that you received that said "Tell her to get over it". First time somebody said that to me, I'd be out the door, and fast. It's not a communication style that works if you want to actually have an authentic loving long-term relationship with another human being whom you actually value.

Relationships are hard, and require a lot of compromise, every day......but when there is love, it's totally worth the work.

Sounds to me like you two will work this out just fine. She just needs more information about vaping, the health effects, the scientific part which she will be able to appreciate and absorb as a medical professional. This is all new to a lot of people. By taking the time to teach others about vaping, we not only improve our own lives, but also make things better all around for vaping in general and it's future.

 

[anavidfan]

Oh she does.. She's a nurse and is convinced breathing in anything other then air is bad for you.. UGH..

If she is a nurse than she should know that in most hospitals and surgical suites that PG is pumped into the air to keep the bacterial count down and that she has most likely been breathing is at least half of the ingredients in your e liquid for years. SHe should also realize that even the air we breathe unless its being pumped thru filters and you wear a glass bubble around your heads 24 hours a day, that the air we breathe is full of toxins, smog, car exhaust, airplane exhaust, viruses and bacteria I could go on. Just think about it. The air we breathe is full of all the *hit that comes out of every other being in this earth breath and not to mention air from other parts of our bodies I dont care to mention.

Im a woman so i can say this with honesty, maybe she has a problem with anything that takes attention from her? Or maybe she thinks the money you spend on your ecig stuff is money you could be spending on her? Or maybe she just likes the taste and smell of cigarettes, she is getting her smoking fix thru you and able to say she doesnt smoke, but she does if she rather have you smoke cigarettes, and to be real catty, do you have her as your beneficiary on your life insurance? meow.....

Okay now, if you want to really make her speechless, Look into her eyes, Lovingly and tell her , Honey I know you think that Im replacing one bad habit with another and that you think its a weakness, but sweetie, You are my favorite habit and I could never give you up , could I?

 

[zuzette]

think about it. The air we breathe is full of all the *hit that comes out of every other being in this earth breath and not to mention air from other parts of our bodies I dont care to mention.

Now that really puts a damper on the "the only thing to put in your lungs is pure clean air" crowd.

When I was a kid my mom told me that dust is partially made up of the stuff from "dead bodies". I have not been afraid of anything since.

 

[Rocketpunk]

Or maybe she just likes the taste and smell of cigarettes, she is getting her smoking fix thru you

My girlfriend has never touched a cigarette in her life. But while she didn't like the smoke smell of a burning cigarette, she loved the lingering smell of tobacco on my moustache. Seriously. She says whenever she passes a smoker, it reminds her of me. Weird, huh? Especially since I no longer smoke. Some people like the smell of weird things. I like the smell of gasoline, for example. Even skunks. I know!! I reminds me of growing up in southern Tennessee. Smells bring out weird memories and feelings in people.

 

[Tiffany Smeggin Peak]

)Who is a non smoker) That vaping is harmless and is a legitimate method and the best method to quit smoking..

Back story. I have been a PAD smoker for the past 7 years. I have tried to quit a few times the last failed attempt was because I ran out of cartos and the time it took for the package of refills to make my house I started smoking again.. That was 6 months ago... So now it's been 2 weeks or so since I've decided to "quit" again. And so far so good..

So last night after dinner I reached into my pocket and pulled out my V2 and started puffing away... She was quick to comment "do you really need that stupid thing? Your not even quitting smoking and its the same thing you just don't stink."

Talk about P.O'ed I replied.. You ....*ed when I smoked now your ....*ing when I'm trying to quit" and that was the end of that conversation..
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so what can I tell her to help convince her vaping is legit.


PS I do plan on showing her the replies on this thread.

Thanks.

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the thing that i have to tell alot of people is that vaping is not 100% risk free, breathing in nothing but clean air is what our lungs SHOULD be doing.... then again we should all be eating off the food piramid, no processed foods ect ect. Now since you mentioned this is pretty much the only issue in your relationship, I personally would not shove a short-coming in her face unless she gets on your case more. Also, remind her that when you kiss all she can taste is urm not smoke lol. Good luck!

 

[RamblinREK]

the thing that i have to tell alot of people is that vaping is not 100% risk free, breathing in nothing but clean air is what our lungs SHOULD be doing.... then again we should all be eating off the food piramid, no processed foods ect ect. Now since you mentioned this is pretty much the only issue in your relationship, I personally would not shove a short-coming in her face unless she gets on your case more. Also, remind her that when you kiss all she can taste is urm not smoke lol. Good luck!

Excuse me, but it's now a food PLATE!
Nutrition Plate Unveiled to Replace the Food Pyramid - NYTimes.com

 

[Mac]

Oh she does.. She's a nurse and is convinced breathing in anything other then air is bad for you.. UGH..

Hospitals pump propylene glycol into their ventilation systems as an air sanitizer. So if she is a nurse in a hospital she is breathing in tons of it already.

You shouldn't have to debate your life choices with your spouse. Be they wrong or right. If you enjoy using nicotine that is your right. If she can't accept that then she is not accepting you. It is troubling that she works in the healthcare field and actually believes that the only difference between smoke and vapor is the smell. That's like 3rd grade science. She should have had to take advanced biology and chemistry courses to even be an LPN.

It seems to me that the real issue here is that you are addicted to something and she can't relate to it. Since sugary, caffeinated beverages and nicotine in an e-cig are very similar in both the health consequences and in addictive quality, try this experiment. Ask her to abstain from consuming any beverages that contain caffeine or sugar for a few days. If she is a coffee drinker or is fond of soda this will help her understand your perspective better.

Frankly, I wouldn't be willing to be romantically involved with any woman who judges me so harshly while making no effort to understand what she is condemning me for.