Hey PIF lets all sign Sallana's card~!

[Sallana]

Thank you everyone. I needed this today. In 5 or so hours, the service starts. *sigh* 2 1/2 hour drive there, starts at 3, it's 10 now, my boys are still asleep. lol.

I'm so happy to be a part of this group. Thanks for helping me stay strong <3

 

[lynleestar]

So.....I'm gonna go send your card and stuff now. You stay strong sweetheart, we all love ya~!

 

[SuZamme]

Blessings and hugs.

 

[beebopnjazz]

Me too! Sign me!~

 

[lynleestar]

so....I'm gonna send your card whenever my neighbor gets home to jump my car...dead battery

So.....I'm gonna go send your card and stuff now. You stay strong sweetheart, we all love ya~!

 

[Trish342]

(((((HUGS))))) Sal
Thinking of you today

 

[BiancaMontgomery]

Love you and thinking of you Sallana (((giant hug))) !!
Chelle

 

[Sallana]

Thank you everyone! The service went smoothly. I was a little disappointed.. When the floor opened for family to share their thoughts and memories... Only myself and my dearest Aunt spoke up. Out of at least 50 people, we were the only ones that said a thing. I was very sad by that, but I know that my grandpa, my step-dad, and a few others were too sad to say anything. Well I excuse my grandpa and my step-dad at least, they are the only ones that could have been feeling more pain than me tonight. Oh well.

 

[Darkwitless]

Sallana - please don't feel too bad. Hopefully as the numbness wears off you can reach out to each other and share.

When my grandma died none of us could speak. She was a wonderful woman who lived to the ripe old age of 91. We knew it was coming and I'd even written some thoughts out; but when push came to shove I couldn't do it. Neither could my brother, sister, dad, nor "adopted aunt" and her children (Grandma's neighbors and the kids only "grandma") - and we are not normally people at a loss for words. At times people feel it's not their place to speak up, even though a sweet memory or funny story would have gone a long way in helping us share our loss.

{hugs} I can't imagine your pain.

 

[sooperdrave]

please add me aswell.

 

[GLRogerss]

Hey sallana, my heart is with you, I can only say the hurt and sadness of lost doesn't go away but easier to handle as time goes. Anyway after 16 years of my Dad passing this a lesson I've learned and I still miss him EVERY day.Take care

 

[WhatAClumsyGirl]

((( Hugs ))) Sal....we love you girly

 

[wphsmike]

((Hugs)) Sal, love ya! <3

 

[Sallana]

I have to tell you guys...

My mom always said that you will never know who your true friends are until you experience something that puts you in your darkest hour and you look around and see who's holding up a candle for you. And when you look around, you'll be surprised.

And boy am I surprised and full of warmth. My best friend of 10 years has barely said anything to me. I get texts and calls and cards every day from someone here. Sometimes twice a day.

I've found some true friends here and that means a lot. Thank you all so much, forever in my heart. All of you <3

 

[bonniegirl]

Sall
I, too, lost my momma, when I was only 21 and had 3 younger siblings. I thought my world had ended and was overwhelmed with feelings of sadness and with relief. The relief came because she had been very ill with a brain tumor and was not herself and then I felt guilt for the relief. I say this for a reason. You will have a lot of emotions and feelings. Some explainable and some not. All are normal and all are yours to own.
People will say the wrong things, the right things and sometimes no things.
Wrong things like "at least you had her this long, some never have a mother" and the like. Those "wrong" things are well intentioned...most don't know what to say. The right things are good but last a short while and you will be left with you. Hold onto what makes you feel better and discard the rest.
As for those who stay away and say nothing. They most likely are afraid to say the wrong thing, don't know what to say and if they knew you well are probably grieving themselves.
I am 50 now and time has not erased the pain like they promised but the hurt is not as sharp...it is dulled.
I still pick up the phone to call her just not as often.
I still miss her just as much but feel her closer to me as the years go by.
I pray you find the Peace that passes understanding and feel the presence of love around you from her spirit and those that love and care for you. I pray you come through this a stronger person with a better understanding of how precious life is.
Most of all I pray for you to have comfort in knowing you are loved.
Most Sincerely
Bonnie

 

[redgirl]

Big hugs Sallana, hope you are doing ok. I lost my stepdad last year and it's tough.

 

[sensay]

bonnie you speak so well and with so much eloquence... you captured exactly the words I have been searching for since I saw Sall post!!!
Love you Sallana!! If you need anything you have my number girlie!! <3

 

[jctgh]

Sall, I haven't had the pleasure of meeting you yet but, my heart and prayers are with you!

 

[jj2]

Best wishes Sallana!!!

Just wanted to add, I know so well how you feel. I lost my mom right after my first was born. God Bless.

 

[Lorizgal]

My thoughts and prayers are with you, Sallana, I experienced something similar about 15 years ago. Remember the pain will get less over time, not go away, just get less. So we don't forget, but we always have what we need.