I completely agree with the OP. On more than one occasion I've seen posts by veterans telling new vapers, "Forget the _____ (insert your favorite 3.7 device), go right for the _____ (insert popular expensive VV mod) with _____ (favorite carto or atty) - you'll love it!" Statements like that are misleading, it implies that these devices are perfect for everyone. Vaping is a very personal thing, and everyone needs to find what THEY like.
My vaping journey began using a borrowed SmokeStick 808 auto while I waited for my first eGo kit to arrive. The same friend that loaned me the SmokeStick got me interested in the Lavatube. He didn't press the issue, he merely mentioned it and said he wanted one. Yes, I bought one and yes, I love it. However, I also love my eGo.
Now I feel that my quest for the right equipment FOR ME is complete. I do still have my first eGo which I use with LR cartos every day. I have my Lavatube with DCC tank for my all day vape. I also have a Leo with atty and cartridges, a 6v tube mod (basically a wooden SB), a small box mod that I built, and an e-pipe. I've been vaping for two months now. Yes, I also DIY my juices. But all of these were my choices. I never felt pressured to purchase any of these things.
So don't give in to pressure to feel as if you belong here. The fact that you have stopped smoking, or are trying to stop, is what should make you feel that you belong here. That is the one thing that everyone here has in common. That is the ONLY choice we should be encouraging.