In to 3rd day, controlling urge to smoke on weekend parties

[Punk In Drublic]

The OP is obviously conflicted with what he may see as a serious challenge. Perhaps his execution toward dealing with that challenge is not the best of approaches. Do we show support or lash out with condescending remarks?

I also still struggle to resist the urge to smoke cigarettes when consuming alcohol, especially through my social circles who the majority still smoke. God forbid if I ever broke down and bought a pack then share my experience looking for supportive advice.

 

[Tim Wiseman]

The OP is obviously conflicted with what he may see as a serious challenge. Perhaps his execution toward dealing with that challenge is not the best of approaches. Do we show support or lash out with condescending remarks?

I also still struggle to resist the urge to smoke cigarettes when consuming alcohol, especially through my social circles who the majority still smoke. God forbid if I ever broke down and bought a pack then share my experience looking for supportive advice.

I like a drink but if for one weekend he can't skip in his words drinking like crazy then i'm not his wet nurse. I try my best to help anyone quit the habit but i have a rule i only help those that are prepared to hep themselves. He made it clear drinking like crazy this weekend could cause a relapse as he goes armed with cigarettes so skip the piss up for a weekend or if he can't he really isn't that serious about trying to skip the habit or has a serious drink problem!

 

[Zazie]

Hey, @buccaneersfan, maybe this will help you not smoke when you drink: I bet your hangovers will be way less awful if you don't smoke. By the time I began vaping, I'd already lost the knack of drinking to excess, but for years I only smoked when I drank, and the time or three when I managed not to suck down forty-seven million cigarettes while drinking I discovered that I felt approximately forty-seven million times better the next day. Think of it this way: vaping will help you binge even better and pay less of a price for it in the morning!

 

[Zazie]

Oh, and don't forearm yourself with cigarettes. You know you'll smoke them if you have them.

 

[Punk In Drublic]

I like a drink but if for one weekend he can't skip in his words drinking like crazy then i'm not his wet nurse. I try my best to help anyone quit the habit but i have a rule i only help those that are prepared to hep themselves. He made it clear drinking like crazy this weekend could cause a relapse as he goes armed with cigarettes so skip the piss up for a weekend or if he can't he really isn't that serious about trying to skip the habit or has a serious drink problem!

If you are not his wet nurse then why even go down that road. So what he bought a pack of cigarettes – he is struggling like many of us did or still do. I have lost count at the many posts here about people sharing their relapses or struggles. Does it matter why they relapse? Would it be any different should the OP replaced alcohol with coffee – another beverage I enjoy but yet struggle with cigarette urges? What about a stressful event? I bought a pack of cigarettes cause I knew I would not be able to handle the stress thus resist the urge to smoke leading up to a job interview.

I’m sure you could have gotten your message across without the condescending remarks.

 

[Baditude]

I have read somewhere that the average number of attempts to quit smoking before achieving success is 30 attempts.

 

[Tim Wiseman]

If you are not his wet nurse then why even go down that road. So what he bought a pack of cigarettes – he is struggling like many of us did or still do. I have lost count at the many posts here about people sharing their relapses or struggles. Does it matter why they relapse? Would it be any different should the OP replaced alcohol with coffee – another beverage I enjoy but yet struggle with cigarette urges? What about a stressful event? I bought a pack of cigarettes cause I knew I would not be able to handle the stress thus resist the urge to smoke leading up to a job interview.

I’m sure you could have gotten your message across without the condescending remarks.

If you are trying to quit smoking and know drinking is going to cause a struggle why go armed with packs of cigarettes, making that point is not as condescending as you are being now to me!

 

[Tim Wiseman]

I have read somewhere that the average number of attempts to quit smoking before success is 30 attempts.

Doesn't surprise me if an attempt includes carrying packs of cigarettes around with you! (obviously not talking about you, talking in general i don't won't to be spoken to in a condescending way about being condescending again).

 

[Punk In Drublic]

If you are trying to quit smoking and know drinking is going to cause a struggle why go armed with packs of cigarettes, making that point is not as condescending as you are being now to me!

I’m not being condescending at all. And it was your reference of being a piss head and eluding one should go to AA that I find condescending - not your comment on arming yourself with cigarettes prior to drinking which I also agree is probably not the wisest of choices.

I can correlate with the OP for I have faced that very same crossroad many of times. And yes I have purchased smokes while on NRT’s prior to a night out of fun and drink. Perhaps not the smartest of choices when trying to quit smoking, but at the time I felt it was best choice to allow me to enjoy the evening without stressing.

 

[Tim Wiseman]

I’m not being condescending at all. And it was your reference of being a piss head and eluding one should go to AA that I find condescending - not your comment on arming yourself with cigarettes prior to drinking which I also agree is probably not the wisest of choices.

I can correlate with the OP for I have faced that very same crossroad many of times. And yes I have purchased smokes while on NRT’s prior to a night out of fun and drink. Perhaps not the smartest of choices when trying to quit smoking, but at the time I felt it was best choice to allow me to enjoy the evening without stressing.

Our opinions obviously differ, like i say i like a drink but if i couldn't skip a weekend of drinking like crazy for a greater cause sorry but i would consider myself a piss head. And you talked down to me in your last post which by definition is condescending!

 

[Baditude]

I questioned the OP's sincerity in quitting from the beginning. I obviously don't know the guy. Maybe he is immature and doesn't have his priorities set to be successful. Maybe he has an addictive personality. It appears his weekend of hard drinking is more important than quitting smoking. That seems like where his head is at the moment. I hope that I'm wrong.

I know it took me over a dozen attempts to quit over a 10 year period of time. I tried nicotine gum, patches, prescription drugs, and hypnosis (twice). I wasn't successful in quitting until two things happened spontaneously in my life.

The week that I tried my first e-cigarettes, I experienced a life changing event. My mother found out she had cancer, found out a few days later that it was terminal, and passed about a week later. She was in her 80's, seemingly in good health and still playing piano every Sunday for her little country church. It all seemed to happen so quickly and her passing really hit home in empathizing our mortality on this planet. It finally made me realize that if I continued to smoke cigarettes that I would follow my mother to the other side. I convinced myself that I would be successful by using vaping to stop smoking.

Now 7 years since my last cigarette thanks to vaping, I still wonder if it was just a coincidence that I began vaping around the time that my mother died from cancer. Regardless, I think it took a life changing event for me to be successful.

 

[Punk In Drublic]

Our opinions obviously differ, like i say i like a drink but if i couldn't skip a weekend of drinking like crazy for a greater cause sorry but i would consider myself a piss head. And you talked down to me in your last post which by definition is condescending!

How did I talk down? I gave examples of different scenarios inquiring if your comment would have been the same. And if it was condescending, it’s OK for you to condescend but not OK for others? And our opinions don’t differ. I’ve stated twice now that having cigarettes within your possession while drinking will lead to temptation.

The urge to smoke doesn’t just go away by missing one weekend’s booze up. What about the next weekend, or the dozens of others? Or other activities such as what I mentioned above. It’s been a year for me and I still find it difficult to resist the urge. We all know quitting smoking is for a greater cause. But it’s not as easy (for some) than missing out on one weekends party. I’m sure your intentions were sound, but the piss head reference does not seem very supportive toward someone who is seeking support.

 

[Punk In Drublic]

I questioned the OP's sincerity in quitting from the beginning. I obviously don't know the guy. Maybe he is immature and doesn't have his priorities set to be successful. Maybe he has an addictive personality. It appears his weekend of hard drinking is more important than quitting smoking. That seems like where his head is at the moment. I hope that I'm wrong.

I know it took me over a dozen attempts to quit over a 10 year period of time. I tried nicotine gum, patches, prescription drugs, and hypnosis (twice). I wasn't successful in quitting until two things happened spontaneously in my life.

The week that I tried my first e-cigarettes, I experienced a life changing event. My mother found out she had cancer, found out a few days later that it was terminal, and passed about a week later. She was in her 80's, seemingly in good health and playing piano for her little country church. It all seemed to happen so quickly and her passing really hit home of our mortality on this planet. It finally made me realize that if I continued to smoke cigarettes that I would follow my mother to the other side. I convinced myself that I would be successful by using vaping to stop smoking.

Now 7 years since my last cigarette thanks to vaping, I still wonder if it was just a coincidence that I began vaping around the time that my mother died from cancer. Regardless, I think it took a life changing event for me to be successful.

Truly sorry to hear that about your mother. Very good friend of mine when through a similar experience with his father. He quit cold turkey and hasn’t touched a cigarette in years.

As for your observation with the OP – perhaps that’s true. Or perhaps the OP is struggling and looking for supportive advice and just being open that he enjoys alcohol so that he may receive advice that revolves around his activities. Maybe he also has a drinking problem, but that is not the advice he is looking for.

Reading his other posts seems to me he is struggling – 20 year smoker at 50 cigarettes a day.

 

[Punk In Drublic]

Truly sorry to hear that about your mother. Very good friend of mine when through a similar experience with his father. He quit cold turkey and hasn’t touched a cigarette in years.

Just to extend on my good friends experience. Few years after the passing of his father, his mother found out she had breast cancer. This tore up both my good friend and his wife. He stayed strong and kept off the cigarettes – she did not. And one evening on her way to meet the ladies at the pub she bought a pack cause she felt she could not handle the stress in her life along with trying to resist the urge to smoke while having a pint with her friends.

My friends mother beat the cancer – his wife still sneaks a smoke now and then.

 

[Baditude]

[QUOTE="Punk In Drublic] – his wife still sneaks a smoke now and then.[/QUOTE]
That's what cracks me up ... people sneaking a smoke now and then. Take my ex wife. She's a smoker and remarried to a man who hates cigarette smoke. I hear from my daughter that she sneaks outside to smoke, trying to hide her habit from her husband. I guess she doesn't realize that a nonsmoker can smell the smoke in her hair and her clothes, not to mention her breath. I mean, who does she think she's fooling?

We gave each other a friendly platonic hug at one of the kid's birthday dinners out, and the cigarette stench on her was repulsive. It just made me realize that I used to smell like that, too.

 

[Punk In Drublic]

That's what cracks me up ... people sneaking a smoke now and then. Take my ex wife. She's a smoker and remarried to a man who hates cigarette smoke. I hear from my daughter that she sneaks outside to smoke, trying to hide her habit from her husband. I guess she doesn't realize that a nonsmoker can smell the smoke in her hair and her clothes, not to mention her breath. I mean, who does she think she's fooling?

We gave each other a friendly platonic hug at one of the kid's birthday dinners out, and the cigarette stench on her was repulsive. It just made me realize that I used to smell like that, too.

I think its that out of sight out of mind sorta deal. But your right, not really sneaking anything when you come back reeking of cigarettes.

 

[Opinionated]

I questioned the OP's sincerity in quitting from the beginning. I obviously don't know the guy. Maybe he is immature and doesn't have his priorities set to be successful. Maybe he has an addictive personality. It appears his weekend of hard drinking is more important than quitting smoking. That seems like where his head is at the moment. I hope that I'm wrong.

I know it took me over a dozen attempts to quit over a 10 year period of time. I tried nicotine gum, patches, prescription drugs, and hypnosis (twice). I wasn't successful in quitting until two things happened spontaneously in my life.

The week that I tried my first e-cigarettes, I experienced a life changing event. My mother found out she had cancer, found out a few days later that it was terminal, and passed about a week later. She was in her 80's, seemingly in good health and playing piano for her little country church. It all seemed to happen so quickly and her passing really hit home of our mortality on this planet. It finally made me realize that if I continued to smoke cigarettes that I would follow my mother to the other side. I convinced myself that I would be successful by using vaping to stop smoking.

Now 7 years since my last cigarette thanks to vaping, I still wonder if it was just a coincidence that I began vaping around the time that my mother died from cancer. Regardless, I think it took a life changing event for me to be successful.

I'm sorry to hear of your mom's passing (I know it's been a while but my condolences anyway)

For me I had a life altering situation going on as well.

The doctors had told me back in 2008 that I would die if I didn't quit smoking (throat covered in precancer cells..) but no matter what I tried I still couldn't quit..

by 2013-2014 I stopped being able to breathe, lips turning blue from simple housework etc.

My breathing was so bad it was terrifying - literally feeling like I was suffocating - it was just terrifying..

My husband smoked, some of my SILs smoked, there was no escape from cigarettes being around me, in my face.

But the terror of what it feels like to be suffocating is truly life altering, and I was able to have the mental strength to quit in a houseful of smokers.

But it took something truly life changing, life altering, to sit with smoke in my face and say I wasn't going to smoke.

This OP? Who knows...

 

[buccaneersfan]

Hi all, thanks for all your replies. I did not buy a pack of cigarettes before starting to party I listened to some members advice here. As of now i did not smoke, but I vaped like 7ml till now from past 4 hours. I am trying to get through the night without smoking.

Thanks all again for your messages

 

[Baditude]

Hi all, thanks for all your replies. I did not buy a pack of cigarettes before starting to party I listened to some members advice here. As of now i did not smoke, but I vaped like 7ml till now from past 4 hours. I am trying to get through the night without smoking.

Thanks all again for your messages

It's good to hear from you again. I was worried that you'd never report back again. I'm actually a bit surprised you have held out from not smoking. Keep up the good work.

 

[stols001]

That is awesome! Congratulations. If you can do day 3/4 while drinking you are a better man than me.

Anna