I'm posting from a phone, so it isn't easy to break a post down the way you did so bear with me here.If the threat of "bad press" elicits more emotion than a fellow human being having their face or a body part blown off, then the politics of vaping itself has become more important than the human beings it is supposed to serve, and this community has lost it's way.
Its easy to take "cognitive shortcuts" because it allows us to feel removed from pain and tragedy -----"tragedy at a distance" is so much easier to take. Perhaps calling people stupid, or blaming them for bad press, is just a way to make it even more comfortable for ourselves?
You know what true stupidity is? To me it's not thinking things out. We know the press sensationalizes stories, the news singles out the bad news. But-----each of us has control over how we put this in context.....and we can also control our reaction. That is how we can use our intelligence, and not be stupid.
I am asking you to question your *reaction*. Does calling this vaper stupid and/or blaming them for "more bad press" qualify as a thoughtful reaction? To my mind, no.
How is this different than an ANTZ saying to a smoker dying an agonizing death from lung cancer: "You were stupid---Tough Love, Baby! the world is better off without you."
Well let me take you over to the The Burn Center at Arkansas Children's Hospital and you can say that to some of the parents, as well as their children who are the patients there, as well as the nursing/medical staff, too. (Hopefully they won't be as coarse or I suspect your head will hurt when they toss you out onto the hard sidewalk.)
The "Tough love" you speak of isn't having part of your face blown off....no matter how it happened.
What would I consider a normal human reaction to an event like this? Vapers saying they are moved to write this fellow vaper a get well card.
Instead, it's always about how the injured person didn't aptly "serve the cause" and they are blamed for putting vaping in a bad light, on top of being stupid......(even though that wasn't their plan.......that's why these things are called *accidents.* )
I would rather people know that vapers are people, as fallible and fragile as all human beings, a responsible but also caring group of people, who possess the kind of tolerance we expect from others.
He chose not to research what he was getting into. Simple as that. Why should I feel sorry for him? I am glad that it blew in his face instead of him throwing it into a child's lap when it started to get hot or something like that. It could have been worse, and innocent people could have been hurt.
Why would I need an excuse to feel better about myself? I didn't burn my face. I did my research before getting into vaping and started with a vw mod. I didn't put others around me at risk because I was too stupid or lazy to grab my cellphone and Google it...
You said it yourself in your third paragraph: true stupidity is not thinking things out. A little thinking and that situation would have never happened. I know, your a modern man with feelings, but that doesn't excuse him from putting those around him in danger with his lack of forethought.
My reaction is wrong because I don't feel sorry for someone that potentially put his family and others at risk? Sorry, but we will have to disagree there.
He isn't dying, that's a big difference. He is going to heal up enough to go on with his life. Maybe he will come away with a life lesson, maybe not.
How coarse I choose to be depends on circumstance. If a parents neglect got a child hurt, I will tell them off, maybe even beat them down. Wouldn't be the first time I got arrested for beating the crap out of a person who caused harm to a child. Been there, done that and a jury found me innocent. Twice... Just an FYI, nobody has ever tossed me out of anywhere.
You are right, that isn't tough love. It was good luck that an innocent wasn't hurt. He will live, and hopefully learned something.
Why would anyone want to write him a get well card? "Thanks for not taking responsibility for your actions and throwing us into the spotlight. We really appreciate that..."
Google would have saved him pain and medical bills. Why should you, me and every other vaper end up one step closer to losing our rights because of his mistake?
What does that have to do with anything? I'm glad he is alive and will recover. I just hope he learned something from this.
Another note; reactions like yours are the reason stuff like this happens. You have to baby and feel sorry for anyone that gets careless and hurts themselves. If people like this were held accountable for their actions, people would try harder not to put others at risk with their stupidity. I think he should be charged with wreckless endangerment and attempted arson. Punish him for his carelessness, make an example out of him and others would think before they did the same. This nanny state bs is why stuff like this happens as much as it does. Just because he got hurt doesn't mean he didn't potentially put others at risk as well. Too many people are lax when it comes to common sense because they will get sympathy. Wounds heal, and if it gets them 5 min of fame... It's worth it to them.
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