Need some advice from the wisest of vapers (not e-cig related)

[incineradma]

So I was planning to go to Kentucky for a week to make sure everything is secure before I officially move myself along with all of my stuff.

Now, my friend who's taking us (me and my boyfriend) is saying that he is going to rent a big moving truck for a little of his stuff (most of his stuff is in KY where he's from) and all of our stuff. Plus, he has a car and I do not. So it's a free ride along with all of my stuff, and the only chance to take this offer. He makes a lot of money and will help us out initially, so I'm not worried.

But, my parents are going to be disappointed when they learn I am all-out moving in two days. Mostly because they have life experience telling them it's a bad idea and I shouldn't rely on other people because things could change. I'm not worried, my boyfriend has known the guy for 15 years.

I don't want to tell my parents, especially the DAY right before we move. How do I tell them and how do I assure them everything is going to be fine? I already left them with $150 incase I need to come home but that's still not that much. I'm figuratively broke :/

 

[Vicks Vap-oh-Yeah]

You need to tell your parents - first because this is a generous offer from a friend to help you.

Second, because even if they're disappointed in you moving sooner than expected, imagine their hurt if you just up and leave "like a thief in the night" without telling them your plans.

Explain to them that the money situation is tight, this friend is willing to help, and this is an opportunity that literally sprang out of nowhere.

 

[OldBiker]

From a Parent, Tell them soon! Even though you might take some flak for moving, it'll be worse the longer you wait.

 

[nitewriter]

From another parent... DEFINITELY tell them SOON. The longer you wait, the harder it will be.

Honesty is always the best policy. I've always told my daughter, I can deal with what I know.

Good luck!

 

[Letzin Hale]

From a Parent, Tell them soon! Even though you might take some flak for moving, it'll be worse the longer you wait.

As a parent of 3 girls (and 2 boys from my 1st marriage) these are just some of the questions you will need to answer:

How old are you?
How old is your boyfriend?
How long have you been together?
Have you got jobs waiting?
How far away are you moving?
Where will you be living?
Can you afford all this?
Why would your friend give you money?
Why move to Kentucky?
Why not try living closer first?

If you can come up with the right answers for all of the above then you should not have too much problem, even though your parents will be upset. I don't know them or how they are likely to react so I can only say that you need to reassure them fully and that means with solid plans not just 'Follow The Yellow Brick Road' stuff.
You are their child and they love and care about you, at least show them that same love in return.
Alan.

 

[BARENETTED]

Letzin,

You hit the nail on the head. I couldn't have said it any better. I know the younger generation wants to be free and adventurous. They don't always properly assess the risk involved with the decisions they make. They almost never see the negative side. Bless them - they are sooo optimistic! In addition to everything you have stated, this is just a bad time to be making any moves - if it can be avoided - in these challenging times.