"Offensive" Odors

[strayling]

Install new fiancee.

 

[WiηgC¤mmαηdεя]

Just my two cents - surely if you are understanding of his smoking he should be considerate of your vaping.
My wife still smokes a fair amount(outside)and she has no problem with my vaping in the house, but does get a little resentful during days like today.
Heavy wet snow on the 30th of march of all things.

 

[chokmah]

Well it does seem he may be scared that with you quiting he will be forced to be next using an e-cig. I would strongly recommend sittting him down and talk. Maybe something like honey I am using an e-cig to improve my health and you dont have to change anything about you but please allow me to change myself as I see fit. I would then find out which smells bother him the most and what he can tolerate then have him help you pick a flavor he may not mind smelling and puchase some of that.

He will do one of two things get mad and still complain regardless of what you do or he will have his mind put at ease and ease up himself.

P.S been married 22 plus yrs and yes I have my man trained or he has me trained one of the two...

 

[pwholmes]

Menolly, your fiancee may be on the up and up. You know your relationship better than any of us. However, it might be fun to put his perceived aversion to the test by simply "sneaking" some vapes in the bathroom. In other words just go in there for that purpose alone, shut the door, vape for 3 or 4 minutes, flush (in order to keep up the illusion that you're NOT vaping), then stash, walk out and see if there's any reaction, especially if he walks in soon afterwards. If he has no clue what you're doing, but then complains about the smell, then maybe there's something to it other than something psychological on his part.

Paul

 

[CandyGirl]

Menolly, your fiancee may be on the up and up. You know your relationship better than any of us. However, it might be fun to put his perceived aversion to the test by simply "sneaking" some vapes in the bathroom. In other words just go in there for that purpose alone, shut the door, vape for 3 or 4 minutes, flush (in order to keep up the illusion that you're NOT vaping), then stash, walk out and see if there's any reaction, especially if he walks in soon afterwards. If he has no clue what you're doing, but then complains about the smell, then maybe there's something to it other than something psychological on his part.

Paul

lol. i think your heart is in the right place pw, but if he already thinks it smells like air freshener, he's probably not going to complain if he thinks she just did a courtesy spray after a flush.

 

[rmasu]

My wife has a killer smell and she says she can't smell it unless I blow the vapor really close to her. He is just saying that so you stop vaping and start smoking again.

 

[taukimada]

Menolly... it's time to boot his tush out of the harper's hall.. the nerve of someone telling a harper what to do.. shame on him...

on a lighter note... tell him his nutz stink from the analogs.. and you aint going nowhere near till he quits... turnabout is fair

 

[Menolly]

Menolly, your fiancee may be on the up and up. You know your relationship better than any of us. However, it might be fun to put his perceived aversion to the test by simply "sneaking" some vapes in the bathroom. In other words just go in there for that purpose alone, shut the door, vape for 3 or 4 minutes, flush (in order to keep up the illusion that you're NOT vaping), then stash, walk out and see if there's any reaction, especially if he walks in soon afterwards. If he has no clue what you're doing, but then complains about the smell, then maybe there's something to it other than something psychological on his part.

Paul

Hmm... I may try this. But for now, it's not a huge deal to step outside. I love him, but I can't help but think he has at least some psychological reaction. Maybe a Glade plug-in mugged him in a DC back alley...

 

[jburns]

Are you saying he's smoking analogs and that's ok but your vaping is not ok?

How to train your man

Step1 When your man does something you don't like, don't nag him to death with your words. Clearly state in 2-3 sentences your issue. If he wants to talk about it, you've got a good man. Discuss it with him. If he doesn't you're going to have to train him.

Step2 After you've stated your issue, walk away. Most men don't think on their feet, so you shouldn't really expect a well thought out response. Give him the silent treatment for 1-2days. The whole time he will be thinking about what you said. If he doesn't call you during this time, your man does not want nor deseve you...kick him to the curb.

Step3 After you have given him the silent treatment for a day or so, call him or go to his house when it's convenient for you. Do not bring up the issue...if he asks where you have been just tell him you were busy. If he brings up the issue, just listen, DO NOT SAY ANYTHING even if he is wrong. A few nods and uh-huhs will suffice to let him know you are listening. Most men already know when they've done wrong, so if your man is bullheaded and doesn't want to admit it, guilt him by not acting in the way he would expect you to:nagging and argumentative. At the end of the conversation, wether you agree with him or not, say: I'm glad you told me how you feel. Now because I listened to you I need you to listen to me... If he tries to interrupt you, remind him of how you listened to him, but do not raise you voice at any cost!

Step4 Most likely your man will never commit his heinous act again, but if he is crazy enough to go there, repeat the steps again. This time stay silent for 2-3 days. In the end, you will find out if your man is just a bullheaded jerk that you need to let go, or if your man truly cares about you. The thing is a man will care more for a woman that is strong enough to stand firm in her beliefs. If he doesn't that he isn't the man for you.

I believe that is from the ex-wife manual.

 

[Menolly]

Menolly... it's time to boot his tush out of the harper's hall.. the nerve of someone telling a harper what to do.. shame on him...

on a lighter note... tell him his nutz stink from the analogs.. and you aint going nowhere near till he quits... turnabout is fair

Heh, he's already going without sex for a couple of weeks due to a piercing I'm trying to heal. That would just be cruel

(Also, nice to see somebody recognize the username!)

 

[taukimada]

Heh, he's already going without sex for a couple of weeks due to a piercing I'm trying to heal. That would just be cruel

(Also, nice to see somebody recognize the username!)

seeing as my username years ago was Jaxom... and my email addy at most places is ruatha... how could i NOT notice the name??

 

[Wildsky]

Install new fiancee.

Just need to upgrade to fiance 2.0

 

[qdilla]

My wife has a super hound dog sniffer(thank god she doesn't read these post LOL).The only one she can't stand is njoy menthol.(forgive me i was a rookie then)now i vap TW, Janty,she can't smell them and if she gets a hint of it she says they smell sweet.But it's all good now. I guess i should use high quality juice to keep her happy,maybe the cheap crap juice smells bad.

 

[pwholmes]

I see Menolly lives in Austin, TX where "freezing" is above 35 degrees! It'd be a whole different story here in Minnesota. I live in a no-smoke household and when it's 30 below out it ain't no fun to stand outside on the porch.

Paul

 

[chokmah]

I see Menolly lives in Austin, TX where "freezing" is above 35 degrees! It'd be a whole different story here in Minnesota. I live in a no-smoke household and when it's 30 below out it ain't no fun to stand outside on the porch.

Paul

Bah at 50 I am grabbing my jacket... I can take the heat much easier than I can the cold, especially the bone chilling cold you get up there.

 

[perkiekat]

i will have to second just about everyone in here. Seriously, next you wont be able to take a dump because he finds the odor "offensive".

lMAO!!!

 

[Menolly]

I see Menolly lives in Austin, TX where "freezing" is above 35 degrees! It'd be a whole different story here in Minnesota. I live in a no-smoke household and when it's 30 below out it ain't no fun to stand outside on the porch.

Paul

On the opposite end of the spectrum- 90 degrees F is probably pretty warm for y'all. We're lucky if it's only 90 in September. Check out the comparison.

 

[Wildsky]

I see Menolly lives in Austin, TX where "freezing" is above 35 degrees! It'd be a whole different story here in Minnesota. I live in a no-smoke household and when it's 30 below out it ain't no fun to stand outside on the porch.

Paul

HA HA HA - I've been outside with a windchill of -40 to have my friggin smoke! 8-o I do stand in the garage, not that it makes a difference, once its cold, its BLOODY COLD! And you have to switch hands or they'll go NUMB!

 

[chokmah]

On the opposite end of the spectrum- 90 degrees F is probably pretty warm for y'all. We're lucky if it's only 90 in September. Check out the comparison.

Nice to see another Austinite here woot...

 

[pwholmes]

Wildsky

HA HA HA - I've been outside with a windchill of -40 to have my friggin smoke! I do stand in the garage, not that it makes a difference, once its cold, its BLOODY COLD! And you have to switch hands or they'll go NUMB!

Wildsky, you captured the North Country winter smoking experience perfectly, especially the part about using one hand, then sticking it in your pocket, then using the other hand. LOL.

Paul