Significant other anti-vape

[Hotwire]

I only bought a pack every 4 days. Smoked 5 a day.

 

[Big Me]

I only bought a pack every 4 days. Smoked 5 a day.

No wonder it's costing you more

 

[Hotwire]

Indeed. My body can't handle the 5 a day though....

 

[mattiem]

I do not vape in the house. My gf does not vape in the house. We treat vaping like smoking. If your partner would prefer you not to vape in the house, then why not just vape outside? Cold? Grab a sweater.

I guess I don't understand why. Vaping isn't smoking and the only resemblance vaping has to smoking is vapor looks kinda like smoke. I am sure you both have your reasons and I appreciate that but I don't understand it.

Hubby and I built a new home. We didn't hire a contractor, didn't hire builders. He and I built it from the foundation up. we are very proud of our accomplishment. there is no way we would EVER smoke in here and will not allow anyone else to smoke in here but we both vape in here. Have been for over 4 years now and I have seen absolutely no leftover residue from the vape. Folks walk in and comment on how good it smells in here.

To each their own and the OP should not have to go outside to vape if she doesn't want to. That is just wrong on the part of her SO. I do hope they will be able to come to some kind of agreement that works for both of them.

 

[herb]

Bingo ,

Eeeeek, not what I want to hear - but definitely what I need to hear! People tell me similar things about other issues all the time. But it's good to hear on this particular issue that I am not off-base. Thank you guys for being candid with me.

I'm glad I'm not the only one.

Nobody wants to hear that and your not even close to being off base , off base is making a big deal about a vaping device being too big to carry around and that it looks ridiculous .

The ONLY thing he should be doing is praising you and supporting you in your success on beating real cigs .

You should show him this thread because he needs a reality check although i can see him blowing a gasket and criticizing you for mentioning anything about your relationship at all .

You just can't win with relationships , it always ends with an all out brawl to the death using prehistoric weaponry .

 

[crxess]

I do not vape in the house. My gf does not vape in the house. We treat vaping like smoking. If your partner would prefer you not to vape in the house, then why not just vape outside? Cold? Grab a sweater.

Silly,'There is nothing about Vaping that is like Smoking. I have Vaped in my living room for 3 years and with Normal cleaning there is no change at all.

I'm a Believer

 

[WharfRat1976]

I was just wondering if anyone has had a similar experience. Prior to starting to vape 4 months back, my fiancé and I both smoked cigarettes. He usually goes in the basement and I would go on the front porch. When I first started, I started to do it in the living room with him in there and he said "your not doing THAT in the house, are you?" I tried to explain to him that it is not the same as smoking and my vaping in the living room smells a lot better than the cigarette smoke that comes up through the basement. We work opposite shifts, so I started just going outside when he is home. But, it is getting a to be too cold for me to want to go outside anymore when it really should not be necessary. The other day, I thought he was asleep downstairs and I had vaped a little in the bedroom and he came upstairs and yelled at me. OK, I won't vape in the bedroom anymore, I can handle that - but I think anywhere else should be ok. He always complains about "being able to smell it". I ask if it smells bad, to which he always says not - but the fact that he can smell it is a problem for him.
Whenever I get a package in the mail, he gives me a hard time.
I have asked him a few times why he hates it so much and I have gotten the following responses:
"it's just weird to carry such a big thing around" (at that time it was a 30W istick lol)
and
"you spend too much money on it"
then I remind him of the various hobbies that he has like fishing and hunting that require gear, money and time.
Im just tired of being made fun of in my own home for making a positive change in my life. Even worse I am disgusted by the smell of cigs now - but I refuse to be the quitter who acts holier than thou so I don't say anything. So it would be great if he would do it too, but that is never going to happen So to my questions:
Has anyone else had a similar experience with a significant other?

Sounds like you need a new boyfriend. Relationships should be supporting and loving. Sounds like you are stuck in a bad one. It sounds like this is really not about vaping at all.

 

[WillyZee]

Boyfriend, meet curb ... curb, meet boyfriend

 

[WharfRat1976]

This is true. About 8 months ago, my wife and I were playing that Celebrity game where couples say a 5 celebrities they can have sex with and the other one can't get mad. She could only come up with 3 and I took her extras and made my list 7. Two months ago, I'm on a flight from Chicago to LA and it turns out #7 is sitting next to me. We get to talking, really hit it off after a couple of hours I told her she made my list. Well, she blows my mind and says she is up for it! Well, I was speechless! Then I said, "You are joking right?" She says "No, I think funny men are sexy and I've always wanted to join the mile high club. Meet you in there in 5 mins" and gets up and head to the lou. I am so excited I actually used my credit card on the plane phone and I didn't care it was going to cost me $20 for the call! I called my wife and I was like "Baby, you aren't going to believe it, guess who is here and who is in-to-it?" My wife says "What the hell are you talking about?" I said "The Celebrity game, my number 7 is here and she wants to join the mile high club! Baby, I'm gonna win the game!" You'd think she'd be happy for me. You'd think she'd be supportive. I'm always happy for her when she is winning Trivial Pursuit or Monopoly but no, my wife screams "What? What are you saying you bass turd?" I'm like "What, are you mad it's with number 7? I only took 2 more because you weren't going to use them." So she says "It's not about the number you idiot, you call me to tell me you are going to cheat on me?" And all the while I can hear stuff, my stuff breaking in the background. And I'm like "What? It's part of the game. I don't think you get this game. You are the one who brought up this game which is about celebrities your spouse can have sex with and you can't get mad." She goes into this tirade for 20 mins about about "monogamy" and "fidelity" and "sacred vows" and how it was a joke and how I must not love her, yada, yada, yada and I'm thinking "Well, this doesn't look good for me. Number 7 is waiting, my wife is mad at me for either 1. I could win the game we were playing and mad about me winning (She was never going to get to meet Daniel Craig, be real honey) or 2. if she is mad about the other "monogamy" and "fidelity" stuff and, AND I'm thinking about how this victory phone call is now gonna cost me about $100 and that's when she hung up. So number 7 comes back mad, pours a drink in my lap and tells me she was ready to go all night. Women are confusing. I guess what I am saying is, think your choices through.

This didn't happen. You open your statement with "this is true" which is code for this is total BS.

I was wondering what the next meaningless worthless thread will be that will take off into 50 pages...here she is.

 

[Amraann]

I do not vape in the house. My gf does not vape in the house. We treat vaping like smoking. If your partner would prefer you not to vape in the house, then why not just vape outside? Cold? Grab a sweater.

Why on earth should she do that when he is smoking in the basement?

 

[Big Me]

@WharfRat1976 HauntedMyst's first sentence was in response to the below quote from Douggro.

Reality check, people: couples can and do disagree over things

The rest of his post is Myst being Myst and letting his sense of humour run riot. You as a long term member of this forum should be well aware of this by now.

As as for

...I was wondering what the next meaningless worthless thread will be that will take off into 50 pages...here she is.

You can always use the "ignore thread" option that is available at the top of every screen. Make use of it - I know I have and continue to do so.

 

[Douggro]

@WharfRat1976 HauntedMyst's first sentence was in response to the below quote from Douggro.

The rest of his post is Myst being Myst and letting his sense of humour run riot. You as a long term member of this forum should be well aware of this by now.

My Sarcasm/BS meter was twitching moderately with HauntedMyst's post, but being noob here I don't have the familiarity of who our cranks, curmudgeons and cray-crays are yet. Now I know one of them.

 

[Woofer]

This didn't happen. You open your statement with "this is true" which is code for this is total BS.

I was wondering what the next meaningless worthless thread will be that will take off into 50 pages...here she is.

That sort of thing happens to me several times a week.
The rest of your post is just mean.

 

[Big Me]

My Sarcasm/BS meter was twitching moderately with HauntedMyst's post, but being noob here I don't have the familiarity of who our cranks, curmudgeons and cray-crays are yet. Now I know one of them.

What you have to watch out for are his serious posts - rare, but they do happen

 

[Douggro]

What you have to watch out for are his serious posts - rare, but they do happen

Even a blind squirrel finds a nut once in a while..

 

[Asbestos4004]

My Sarcasm/BS meter was twitching moderately with HauntedMyst's post, but being noob here I don't have the familiarity of who our cranks, curmudgeons and cray-crays are yet. Now I know one of them.

HauntedMyst is absolutely one of the finest members we have here. Nobody defuses a overly serious thread better. Strangely enough, the story he told was true. I was on the same flight....saw the whole thing.

 

[ReigntheGamer]

HauntedMyst is absolutely one of the finest members we have here. Nobody defuses a overly serious thread better. Strangely enough, the story he told was true. I was on the same flight....saw the whole thing.

They're for real, I saw the made for TV movie of it on Lifetime.

 

[Rizzyking]

Lol hotwire your doing something wrong I used to smoke three 50g pouches of baccy a week and now I'm diy'ing I'm saving about forty quid a week. Asking for advice that will impact a relationship on the internet is perhaps not the best thing as some answers will come from people saying what they would like\wish to do but face to face would never do what they suggest. Talk and see how far you get a good relationship is one with good communication and as I said before ability to compromise.

 

[Asbestos4004]

Lol hotwire your doing something wrong I used to smoke three 50g pouches of baccy a week and now I'm diy'ing I'm saving about forty quid a week. Asking for advice that will impact a relationship on the internet is perhaps not the best thing as some answers will come from people saying what they would like\wish to do but face to face would never do what they suggest. Talk and see how far you get a good relationship is one with good communication and as I said before ability to compromise.

Amen!

 

[Lemwise]

My wife is now able to smell someone smoking from 200 miles away and i'm thinking of allowing her to work at airports.

If I ever told one of my girlfriends I allow them to do something they'd have a laughing fit.