Significant other anti-vape

[David Wolf]

I was just wondering if anyone has had a similar experience. Prior to starting to vape 4 months back, my fiancé and I both smoked cigarettes. He usually goes in the basement and I would go on the front porch. When I first started, I started to do it in the living room with him in there and he said "your not doing THAT in the house, are you?" I tried to explain to him that it is not the same as smoking and my vaping in the living room smells a lot better than the cigarette smoke that comes up through the basement. We work opposite shifts, so I started just going outside when he is home. But, it is getting a to be too cold for me to want to go outside anymore when it really should not be necessary. The other day, I thought he was asleep downstairs and I had vaped a little in the bedroom and he came upstairs and yelled at me. OK, I won't vape in the bedroom anymore, I can handle that - but I think anywhere else should be ok. He always complains about "being able to smell it". I ask if it smells bad, to which he always says not - but the fact that he can smell it is a problem for him.
Whenever I get a package in the mail, he gives me a hard time.
I have asked him a few times why he hates it so much and I have gotten the following responses:
"it's just weird to carry such a big thing around" (at that time it was a 30W istick lol)
and
"you spend too much money on it"
then I remind him of the various hobbies that he has like fishing and hunting that require gear, money and time.
Im just tired of being made fun of in my own home for making a positive change in my life. Even worse I am disgusted by the smell of cigs now - but I refuse to be the quitter who acts holier than thou so I don't say anything. So it would be great if he would do it too, but that is never going to happen So to my questions:
Has anyone else had a similar experience with a significant other?

My wife unit is glad I quit smoking but still doesn't want me to vape in the house, she has allergies so I'm ok with that. I do sometimes in my separate bathroom with the vent on. I vape in the garage when it's cold I could trade her in on a newer model but she brings a lot to the table so no to that haha. She doesn't mind my vape Mail because she has too much to lose with her fancy teas coming in the mail haha. Maybe get him to try vaping and tell him how much better it is. And since he smokes in the basement tell him it tempts you and to stop, or declare a truce and you get to vape there too Good luck!

 

[David Wolf]

Tell him to {Moderated} off it's both of yours home it's not stinking up the house let you vape in peace.

You should consider a job as a marriage counselor haha

 

[Eric Auer]

If my wife would ask me to stop doing something because she is worried about her health and mine I would.

If she would ask me to stop doing something just because it pisses her off, We would have to sit down and make some serious trades.

Eric

 

[empteeteacup]

Yeah, I agree with the people who have said that a serious discussion needs to happen. If your fiancee was genuinely allergic to your vape, or something along those lines, I'd say do it outside. Since the issue seems to be that he just doesn't like the smell (or so he claims), and has issues with your buying vape stuff, I think you two either need to reach a compromise of some sort, or you need to kick him to the curb because of his control issues (I personally suggest the latter ).

Honestly, I think he should be happy that you're doing something to take control of your health. He should be happy that you're now vaping instead of smoking.

 

[Eric Auer]

Honestly, both people should just be vaping/smoking the Eff outside.

Sorry I was so understanding before.

Eric

 

[RAINCITYKILLER]

I do it in the kitchen and blow it into the fan above the stove if my kids are up but when they go down I fog out the whole second floor. The only gripe anyone has is if I am vaping in the restroom because it's foggy.

 

[Kenna]

I was just wondering if anyone has had a similar experience. Prior to starting to vape 4 months back, my fiancé and I both smoked cigarettes. He usually goes in the basement and I would go on the front porch. When I first started, I started to do it in the living room with him in there and he said "your not doing THAT in the house, are you?" I tried to explain to him that it is not the same as smoking and my vaping in the living room smells a lot better than the cigarette smoke that comes up through the basement. We work opposite shifts, so I started just going outside when he is home. But, it is getting a to be too cold for me to want to go outside anymore when it really should not be necessary. The other day, I thought he was asleep downstairs and I had vaped a little in the bedroom and he came upstairs and yelled at me. OK, I won't vape in the bedroom anymore, I can handle that - but I think anywhere else should be ok. He always complains about "being able to smell it". I ask if it smells bad, to which he always says not - but the fact that he can smell it is a problem for him.
Whenever I get a package in the mail, he gives me a hard time.
I have asked him a few times why he hates it so much and I have gotten the following responses:
"it's just weird to carry such a big thing around" (at that time it was a 30W istick lol)
and
"you spend too much money on it"
then I remind him of the various hobbies that he has like fishing and hunting that require gear, money and time.
Im just tired of being made fun of in my own home for making a positive change in my life. Even worse I am disgusted by the smell of cigs now - but I refuse to be the quitter who acts holier than thou so I don't say anything. So it would be great if he would do it too, but that is never going to happen So to my questions:
Has anyone else had a similar experience with a significant other?

Not recently, & not with SO over vaping. But in the past with more than one SO over other comparable issues. It begins to extend to other issues won't stop. Before you know it there's a list of "not allowed for no reason other than I don't like it" things. If you have to go outside to vape, then he doesn't get to go to the basement. He can take that outside, too. (This is the perfect time of year to enforce this.) You making the switch to vaping somehow, to him, makes it not ok for him to contine smoking. Whether he realizes it or not. If you continue to smoke, then smoking is ok for him, too. Stand your ground. It's your house, too, & vaping is your decision, not his. And yelling at you over it is a no go period. This guy has more problems than vaping. What else is he demanding/controlling you over? This is just a sign of the same behavior over other things in the future. Kick his ### to the curb before you find out just how miserable life is with somone like this is.

 

[phanner]

I constantly have issues with my significant other and my vaping. If I buy even a bag of cotton, it causes issues. Although I do probably spend more than I should. But since she is a smoker, if I want to buy a new $200 mod every couple months, it shouldn't be an issue.

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And you just bought that new DNA200 right?

I compromised with my wife by agreeing on a vape budget. I buy what I want, in that budget, and that's that.

Sticking to it is tough sometimes for sure, but it works for us.

 

[phanner]

I do it in the kitchen and blow it into the fan above the stove if my kids are up but when they go down I fog out the whole second floor. The only gripe anyone has is if I am vaping in the restroom because it's foggy.