Actually she's been calling and texting my phone. I've pretty much ignored all her calls. I just can't talk to her like nothing has happened. I'm still torn by it all. I don't want to be an evil ..... because she and her husband are nice people, I just don't want to have anything to do with her girls. I really wanted to drop kick them and still do. A friend suggested I write a letter, and then put it away for a week and revisit it before I mail it out to her. Do I really want to cut all ties with her? Is her friendship that important to me? No, it's not. We communicate in intervals, maybe once a month phone calls at most. It's a tough situation for me, as I'm not as mean as I want to be in person. She knows me enough to tell when I'm upset, and the fact that I went around all week with a mad expression on my face should have been telling, but it wasn't.
The reason she came out for a visit, was really my chance to give her an escape. Her mother has lived with her for 7 years and mooched off her, and filled her housse with crap and made her life difficult. So this was her cheap getaway. While she was able to let her hair down and relax, I didn't expect her daughters to run absolutely wild in my home and not listen or respect me. One thing her youngest daughter did (and I'm still sticking to the belief that PC or not her daughter is ......ed) was to steal money from her mother's purse. My son found a $100 bill on his chair in his room. He came down and told us, he found it. We thought and wondered how did he get that, and I wondered perhaps it was from my parents who came to visit 8 months prior and it got stuck int he seat. It was a bit crumpled and folded up, so it might have been plausible. Then he found another $100 bill the next day, then his friend found a third bill the day after, these two bills were brand new un creased, that's when we definitely knew something was fishy. Honestly if my child did something like that, I would have pulled his pants down and smacked his .... in front of everyone. With the truth out, the youngest girl barely was punished. She was told she was in 'jail' for the day. Well it actually lasted only 1 hour, she was to do whatever we told her to do, clean or sit quietly, something that we wanted she may not have wanted. Hell, I would have locked her in the car in the garage for 15-30 min while the rest of us had fun in the house or something. No treats for her, no tv while the adults watched what they wanted. I was ...... off, and No, when they returned home, the girls were loud and rambunctious while the mother was on the phone with me. She yelled at them to get their dirty clothes together for laundry, but as far as I could tell, they were not punished. Even the older girl who broke my son's door was not punished. Nor did she give an apology. Her father apologized and paid for a new door and frame, but that was it. It's been a month, and while my blood pressure doesn't boil at the thought, it still makes me mad all that we went through. It would have been a much more enjoyable time with them, if the girls had behaved and not pushed the boundaries as much as they did.
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