Sheeesh!! Some People!!

[CGlassford]

So the Hubby and I went out for a few beers and some darts last night. We had just gotten there and standing at the bar getting our first round and setting up our tab when I notice a couple that are vaping. I always get excited when I see fellow vapers in the wild since it seems to be getting more and more popular in my area where not too long ago nobody seemed to know beyond the mall kiosk rip offs.

Let me interupt myself here and explain something. My Hubby is a genius when it comes to mechanical engineering. But an absolute social ....... He wants to be social, he just doesn't know how. He has never learned. So I'm trying to teach him.

So anyway.......I walk over to say hello to the vapers and ask how they are enjoying it. You know, kind of like how you used to start up conversation with the other smokers that had been exiled outside and to the smoking areas.

They sort of smiled when I first started talking to them and let me know where they got their set ups. (we only have one B&M true vape shop in this immediate area) But then they got kind of weird. Like I was intruding on them or something. They weren't even talking to each other when I walked up.

I didn't get in their faces, I wasn't loud or obnoxious, I wasn't flirty, I wasn't firing questions at them and not letting them answer. Hell, I didn't even put my beer down on their table! Just smiling and inviting them to share and congratulating them on their choice. We are talking a total of 2 minutes or less from the time I said hello.

I was getting their obvious "go away" vibes, and was ready to walk away but didn't want to be as rude as they were being when they both pulled out their phones and started messing with them. WOW.....OK.......So if you didn't want to be social, why didn't you just pick up a 6 pack and go home?

I guess my Hubby is not the only social ... out there.

So glad I have a place to vent. Thanks

 

[cookiebun]

I can relate.

 

[Iffy]

Yepper, same thing happens to me also... but I'm .... ugly.

 

[athousandyears]

Well, they were obviously spies and you interrupted them planning a covert operation.

 

[rd2ruin]

I got corned beef eye and a snarl from someone a car over when i flashed my identical gear once and a thumbs up.

 

[irwink]

So the Hubby and I went out for a few beers and some darts last night. We had just gotten there and standing at the bar getting our first round and setting up our tab when I notice a couple that are vaping. I always get excited when I see fellow vapers in the wild since it seems to be getting more and more popular in my area where not too long ago nobody seemed to know beyond the mall kiosk rip offs.

Let me interupt myself here and explain something. My Hubby is a genius when it comes to mechanical engineering. But an absolute social ....... He wants to be social, he just doesn't know how. He has never learned. So I'm trying to teach him.

So anyway.......I walk over to say hello to the vapers and ask how they are enjoying it. You know, kind of like how you used to start up conversation with the other smokers that had been exiled outside and to the smoking areas.

They sort of smiled when I first started talking to them and let me know where they got their set ups. (we only have one B&M true vape shop in this immediate area) But then they got kind of weird. Like I was intruding on them or something. They weren't even talking to each other when I walked up.

I didn't get in their faces, I wasn't loud or obnoxious, I wasn't flirty, I wasn't firing questions at them and not letting them answer. Hell, I didn't even put my beer down on their table! Just smiling and inviting them to share and congratulating them on their choice. We are talking a total of 2 minutes or less from the time I said hello.

I was getting their obvious "go away" vibes, and was ready to walk away but didn't want to be as rude as they were being when they both pulled out their phones and started messing with them. WOW.....OK.......So if you didn't want to be social, why didn't you just pick up a 6 pack and go home?

I guess my Hubby is not the only social .. out there.

So glad I have a place to vent. Thanks

You don't know what situation you decided to insert yourself into. The fact that you share a habit and lifestyle shouldn't make you believe you have license to intrude and then make a judgement because others don't welcome your intrusion. Yeah, some people.

 

[goober]

yeah it's pretty clear they were spies...

geez, some people..

 

[TyPie]

Ya never know what you're going to encounter out there, 'in the wild', until you actually take a little risk and put forth the effort to be sociable. You have the social skills and a bit of courage to put yourself out there and make the effort, but you just happened to run into a couple of complete DUDS. Not your fault, as they are out there in DROVES.

Who knows what runs through peoples' minds? (Actual, real people and conversation are alien to them??? Not uncommon, I think) Next time, hope you get your common courtesy returned.

 

[spartanstew]

Not everyone enjoys conversations with strangers. Some are outright annoyed by it.

 

[LDS714]

Wampeters, Foma & Granfalloons do not always guarantee a connection will be made...

Motorcyclists generally wave at each other on the road.

I commuted the same route daily for about six years, on various motorcycles depending on my mood.

Some of the other bikers waved most of the time. Some only waved when I was on the Harley. Some only waved when I was on the Yamaha sport bike. Some only waved when I was on the old, vintage Honda. Just about no one waved when I was on the little scooter.

 

[Rizzyking]

Or perhaps they were having some serious relationship talk or something equally serious I never judge people on a casual reaction too much you don't know. Maybe next time you see them they'll be the one's to approach you.

 

[Syav]

Yeah. Don't take it personally. Some people just don't like talking to strangers. When people aren't being friendly I just say 'Have a nice day!'. Oh yeah...if they're not spies, they could be Mafias.

 

[Nightshard]

I guess not everyone wants to start a conversation with complete strangers just because the same interests.

 

[WillyZee]

some people never learn common social skills ... they usually lack basic manners also.

 

[Zealous]

Don't feel bad OP. Vaping is a new thing & vapers are mostly exsmokers so we have to relearn how to be social without the crutch of the smoking section. I noticed you compared your attempt at conversation to the way we would have done it when we were with other smokers in the smoking section. It's not the same. Conversations in the smoking section were easier to initiate because the company was somewhat like a captive audience. They/we would not have been with the "smokers" smoking if they/we could have smoked anywhere we wanted. Since people in many places can vape without having to go to another section there is no captive audience anymore.

I sort of miss that about smoking really which is why I don't have a problem vaping in the smoking section.

 

[angstless]

Since they were not talking to each other either...perhaps they were in the throes of a divorce over which vaping machine is the best?

 

[JustMe2]

So the Hubby and I went out for a few beers and some darts last night. We had just gotten there and standing at the bar getting our first round and setting up our tab when I notice a couple that are vaping. I always get excited when I see fellow vapers in the wild since it seems to be getting more and more popular in my area where not too long ago nobody seemed to know beyond the mall kiosk rip offs.

Let me interupt myself here and explain something. My Hubby is a genius when it comes to mechanical engineering. But an absolute social ....... He wants to be social, he just doesn't know how. He has never learned. So I'm trying to teach him.

So anyway.......I walk over to say hello to the vapers and ask how they are enjoying it. You know, kind of like how you used to start up conversation with the other smokers that had been exiled outside and to the smoking areas.

They sort of smiled when I first started talking to them and let me know where they got their set ups. (we only have one B&M true vape shop in this immediate area) But then they got kind of weird. Like I was intruding on them or something. They weren't even talking to each other when I walked up.

I didn't get in their faces, I wasn't loud or obnoxious, I wasn't flirty, I wasn't firing questions at them and not letting them answer. Hell, I didn't even put my beer down on their table! Just smiling and inviting them to share and congratulating them on their choice. We are talking a total of 2 minutes or less from the time I said hello.

I was getting their obvious "go away" vibes, and was ready to walk away but didn't want to be as rude as they were being when they both pulled out their phones and started messing with them. WOW.....OK.......So if you didn't want to be social, why didn't you just pick up a 6 pack and go home?

I guess my Hubby is not the only social .. out there.

So glad I have a place to vent. Thanks

I can just imagine they were thinking, " Sheeesh!!! The Nerve of Some People " after you left...lol

 

[SissySpike]

Look at some of the posts in your thread some people are just asses they look for reasons to be offended and make the world as miserable as they are. How dare you be pleasant with someone you might have something in common with! Dont change a thing. The world need more friendly people and less with a stick up their...............

 

[Rickajho]

If that happens in Boston it's considered "being friendly".

 

[Criticalmass]

Some people want to spend time together in settings other than "home". Some people don't need to spend all of their time filling the silence with talk to enjoy their time together. Just sayin'. I understand the situation made you feel awkward but you did mention that they gave you signals that they wanted the conversation to end, but you pushed the issue because YOU didn't want to be rude like them. So, by not wanting to be rude you forced them to send a louder signal of "go away" by whipping out their phones.

I don't blame them. You claim to be social but you didn't pick up and act on their first "please go away" signal. It is the chance you take when approaching people. Men deal with this kind of rejection every day, especially the single ones. lol. If it makes you feel any better, I can guarantee you that they felt awkward and thought the whole situation was a little weird too.