Should I aim to give up?

[calgib1983]

Hi, I've been vaping now for 17 days, and havent thought about going back to analogs once. No cravings, no withdrawls, just a straight swap. I am surprised how easy it was for me and know my story is at the easier end of the spectrum.

My wife has been giving me grief for years to stop my 30+ roll ups a day habit but i didnt want to. Due to work and having young kids, those 5 minutes peace outside, even in snow or rain, was blessed peacefullness.

She is now delighted I have made the change, and so am I. But she sees it as a temporary thing whilst i stop altogether, much like using patches or gum.

I actually enjoy vaping and see it as a new hobby. I have no intention to stop, just cut down the mg in a while. I love the flavours, this forum, the gadgets, the health benifits whilst still getting a nic hit. I cant drink coffee for medical reasons but feel like this is just like a coffee lover who spends all their time and money in starbucks or costa.

So should I be using vaping temporarily to stop completely or should I just divorce her now?

 

[Rickajho]

Sheesh - if she put up with all those years of smoking and she can't stand a little vaping? Yup - I smell divorce. lol

Hi

This is waaaay too soon to consider that question. Oh, I mean the "quit vaping" question. Seriously, if it keeps you from relapsing that's the most important thing to be concerned with right now. And two+ years in, I know I still have enough "weak moments" that if it weren't for vaping I still would have relapsed. Sure, some people quit smoking and then quit vaping too. You can try to go that route at some point. But always remember if you think you are gonna relapse you have choices this time around.

Best of luck.

 

[State O' Flux]

So should I be vaping as much and as long as I like, cause I've earned these small pleasures in my life... and divorce her if she gives me any grief, 'cause life is too short to put up with any intolerance of something I truly enjoy?

Re-written for your convenience... and to that, I'd say, yes.

 

[MikenGA]

I'd go for the divorce!


OR...just keep on enjoying the benefits of NOT smoking AND having much healthier relationship.

Honestly, it's going to take awhile to get over 'the hump' where you begin to realize the addiction of nicotine is NOT as strong as we've been led to believe. For ME, after vaping well over a year, I realized it's more like the 'caffeine kick' I get from coffee in the morning. I don't have to have it everyday, but I LIKE it everyday...at least for now.

Vaping might be a temporary thing, but it might be a permanent fixture for the rest of my life. Whatever happens tomorrow, TODAY I AM NOT SMOKING, and NEITHER ARE YOU...and that's cause for a CELEBRATION!

Good Luck to you (and wifey, too)!

 

[BigBen2k]

You don't have to stop vaping; they make e-juice without the nic

I say find an obnoxious flavor that'll get you the boot back out on the balcony; stay married; it's cheaper

 

[Kellycat]

Honestly, it's going to take awhile to get over 'the hump' where you begin to realize the addiction of nicotine is NOT as strong as we've been led to believe. For ME, after vaping well over a year, I realized it's more like the 'caffeine kick' I get from coffee in the morning. I don't have to have it everyday, but I LIKE it everyday...at least for now.

I don't believe I've seen it put better anywhere on this forum so far. That's exactly how I feel on the matter as well, it's not a requirement, I don't get irritable without it, I just like having that kick in the mornings, especially as I don't drink coffee. Nicotine does the same thing, and with vaping, it's a much cleaner way of getting it, probably better than smoking and coffee both..ever seen what that stuff does to your stomach lining? Not pretty!

Also, I'd look at a divorce if she's gonna be that hard-line about it! Just a gal's two cents on the matter.. After all, wasn't it 'for better or worse'? I'd say vaping is far better than smoking!

 

[calgib1983]

1911builder - much better put!

She doesnt want me to quit right now, but she thinks in a year or so i will have stopped. Ive tried showing her the medical reports, this forum etc but she has it in her head that nicotine = smoking which is bad. She is a reformed smoker, always the worst!

A couple of our friends are thinking about making the switch since seeing me vape so im hoping they might convince her its not so bad.

Time will tell but for now my pv is here to stay.

 

[DoogieTony]

Everyone is different, some aim to quit all together and some (like myself) truly enjoyed smoking but wanted a better alternative.

She obviously has a different perspective than you do about what you're doing so I would just tell her the truth about how you feel.

You're still fresh in the transition from smoke to vapor, hell, you probably haven't fully detoxed from all those chemicals yet. Keep going strong and stay off the cigs and maybe re-evaluate where you're at after a couple months.

If you weren't vaping you'd most likely be smoking, which would she prefer?

You don't stink, you should breath easier, less coughing, no more burn marks, no more cigarette butts/ash, its cheaper (if you want it to be ) you're not breathing in 4000+ chemicals, etc

I have a feeling that if she put up with your smoking she can deal with this, no problem. If not, call the lawyer

Sorry for the long non-cohesive mess I just typed, I'm really tired, but I'm sure I made a point there somewhere.

Congratulations on the switch and welcome to ECF !

 

[josie wales]

I'm still not sure where I'm at with vaping 1 1/2 months in. Am I switching or using this as a tool? But I know I'm never going to smoke another nasty analog ever because of it. I also enjoy the rituals associated with smoking and if I end up being a vape head until I die, so be it. As far as the wife, (also a smoker) wants to quit analogs but she just wants to quit, not switch addictions, and she's probably right. But she knows me well enough to know I have to make these decisions for myself if they are gonna stick. It's my nature to push back when pushed. I'm glad she understands that I am not perfect, but I'm working on it!

 

[Abe_Katz]

CalGib, it sounds like your wife has unreasonable expectations. Vaping is a "switch" not a "quit." You may decide to quit vaping, some people here have. You may decide you don't want to quit vaping (and considering the minimal health consequences of vaping) you may decide that you don't need or want to quit vaping and can happily vape the rest of your life.

I'm in the vaper for life camp. Because if I don't vape I will eventually smoke. I simply derive too much benefit from the nicotine not to (helps with my ADD a lot with fewer consequences than the crap the pharmaceutical companies want me to take--but thats a whole other thread).

As it stands, since you only switched 17 days ago, it is difficult to tell which you will be in a month, or a year. I would strongly suggest you simply tell her that you don't know whether or not you will stop vaping in the future. The point is to not smoke cigarettes. And if vaping for the rest of your life is what it takes for you to not smoke cigarettes then thats what it takes.

She'll either understand that. Or she won't. That said, Mrs. Katz (a non-smoker, ever, and non-vaper) hasn't given me any grief about my vaping except when I spend a bunch of money and that complaint is mostly about messing up the budget.

 

[Broncbox]

Stealth vape. Divorces are expensive and you won't be able to afford as much vape gear

Best of luck.

 

[retired1]

I read the title as: Should I aim or give up?

I always thought the price of a bullet would have been cheaper than my first divorce.

 

[serenity21899]

I may be one of the lucky ones, but my husband is very supportive of me vaping. At the start, he learned right along with me and was very involved in what I was doing. He much prefers the smell of my juice choices over cigarettes. Today, he enjoys going to vape stores and vape meets with me. He never smoked, but he also started recently vaping, just to see what it was all about. He enjoys it, too.

I think that with anyone who does not quite get the whole concept of vaping, education is the key. Vaping is a way to quit smoking, and also a hobby for many of us. Pointing out the more positive aspects to her may help.

 

[Borescoped]

I say keep on vaping! She's put up with you for that long, she'll get over it eventually. Probably would help if you did tell her how you feel about it though, but even then, this, IMO, is a decision for you to make, as long as you don't blow all your money all the time, when it should be used for bills and groceries.

At the end of the day, it's your health, and indirectly, hers. What makes sense to you? Most everything in a marriage is compromise, or the wife winning so you can maintain domestic tranquility, but this might be something you just need to put your foot down about, if you feel that strongly.

Good luck, stay strong and keep the faith!

 

[LeoRex]

Just tell her it'll take years to step down the nic count properly.

:thumbup:

 

[Rickajho]

Stealth vape. Divorces are expensive and you won't be able to afford as much vape gear

Best of luck.

Divorce! With all the money you will save from quitting smoking you can afford it!

 

[THETOTALLYCOOL]

Some interesting ideas in this thread. I REALLY don't want to go back to smoking, so am trying not to think too much about how much I vape, if I'll quit, whatever. Ideally, I'd cut-out nicotine, caffeine, sugar, etc.

 

[hvac999]

You would then lose interest in this site and where would you be then. There is a lot of help and friendship here.

 

[Aji3k]

Just generally speaking about aiming to give up vaping on no matter what grounds:

I've been vaping for almost 2 years now. I was in for this for the sole reason of inexpensiveness. However, over time this became a hobby. I'm nuts about researching on a piece of new kit I'm going to purchase and as everyone knows, waiting for the new piece of equipment to arrive is an experience itself. It gives me and what I've seen, most people a bit of joy. I'm by no means one of the wise old vets but I've seen enough things pass by to understand that.

My wallet has been keeping me back for a while but I finally got into carto tanks and mostly due of that, in to mech mods. Theres always more to understand and always a sense of progress when trying something new.

Even if I am being a little slow progressing because of a shallow pocket, I have enjoyed the small things. New atty, getting a cheap new liquid to try etc. Now I'm finally starting to cook my own liquids and getting a mech. Excited as ever and decided to join this forum!

This kind of enjoyment over something is rather rare to have in life. Why would I just give it up?

 

[crxess]

Ask her what she prefers to do to relax? Would she rather give that up or no?

If you can, cutting the nic completely would be awesome, but if you enjoy vaping then you need to make her understand your need to relax and how you do so.

Didn't you take vowels? For better or worse, right? Not to change or else!

Not saying you won't eventually move on to something else relaxing, but You should have a say in it as long as it is not negatively effecting the welfare of your family. It is a partnership.