Sick & Tired of People Trying to Bring Me Down!! Short rant...

[Chimney34]

I hope this is the appropriate place to post this so here goes...I'm typically an easy going person. I try to see the good in everything & everyone. But tonight I think I've hit my boiling point!! I'm so tired of people trying to bring me down & it doesn't matter if its...so when you gonna stop vaping because nicotine is sooooo bad for you or just people who are in the wrong trying to flip things around to make you the bad guy. If a situation has reached it's end point then why bring it up a whole 6-12 months later!! And not just bring it up but also tell someone that they need to be honest with themselves! Maybe it's you who needs to be honest with your self! Maybe you just cant handle the truth! Last time I checked I was fine. I've had it with people who aren't caring or supportive or who were fake friends trying to bring drama into your life because they see you're doing well! Is it that people see you're doing well & just want to bring you down or that they see that they're no longer a factor to you in general! I guess the saying is true...misery loves company. Are these petty attempts to become relevant again...I have no idea!! I refuse to be pulled down because someone doesn't want to pull themselves up!

Im sure many of you have people like this that were in your life or maybe they still are...I honestly just want to tell them to get a life & stop trying to interfere with mines!! Uggggh!!!

Sorry for the venting friends but sometimes enough is enough & I just needed to get it out!!

There...deep breath...I feel kinda better!

if I'm not the only one whose had this type of experience feel free to keep it goin!

 

[Susan W.]

Don't let those fake friends get to you. If they are expecting you to be something other than what you are, walk away or turn a deaf ear. I've learned that other people's drama isn't "my" drama. Feel better.

 

[Chimney34]

Thanks Susan! I won't! I think I handled myself pretty well! I learned a long time ago that in this situation the other person is just trying to get a reaction out of you. And no matter how much my blood boiled I refused to give the reaction or response they wanted. After they see its not working they usually don't have anything else to say. Smh

 

[Iffy]

Da day that we become aware that no one else has control over our own choices... HOT DAY-UM... who dat?

Haters (aka unhappy azz hats) are gonna hate. Control freaks (aka unhappy azz clowns) are gonna try to control. But as Popeye says, "I yam what I yam!"

vape on!!!

 

[Chimney34]

Thanks Iffy! I really needed that! I feel better now! Sometimes you just need to get it out!! Thanks for putting the humor in there! I needed a good laugh mixed with the truth!

 

[RosaJ]

Yup Chimney, we grow out of friendships that don't serve us. It's important to set boundaries early in any relationship. I don't know what were the circumstances so don't be offended with this question: Could they have reacted to your trying to convince them to try vaping maybe once too often?

However, whatever the reason, give yourself some space from them and if you decide to keep their company, you may want to set some mutual ground rules. I'm sorry you're going through this experience.

 

[Chimney34]

Yup Chimney, we grow out of friendships that don't serve us. It's important to set boundaries early in any relationship. I don't know what were the circumstances so don't be offended with this question: Could they have reacted to your trying to convince them to try vaping maybe once too often?

However, whatever the reason, give yourself some space from them and if you decide to keep their company, you may want to set some mutual ground rules. I'm sorry you're going through this experience.

Lol! Thanks Rosa! No this person is a non-smoker so it's not vaping related. I agree. I did not set proper boundaries & when I did & let them know that I was serious the person crossed the line. I tried to handle the situation calmly & respectfully but I guess after I'd moved on & let it go they were still struggling with it & decided to bring me down because I'd let it go.

I'm not the type of person to hold grudges or seek revenge or anything like that but once trust & respect is lost I remove myself from the situation. I guess they weren't ready to let it go. But for me holding on to things is no good. It grows & festers & I learned that a long time ago. I guess some people want to make others feel bad so that they can feel better.

 

[zapped]

People like that have no place in my life. PERIOD.

A couple of days ago my wife and I were trying to teach a new puppy how to walk on a leash and one of my neighbors decided to add her two cents, uninvited by either of us.

After listening to her rant loudly to the couple next door about how my wife shouldnt pull the leash I turned and asked her if she was planning on paying for any of the vet bills, or for the puppy food or if she was going to clean the floor when he had an accident.

She laughed and said "No" and I very matter-of-factly told she her she should "Shut the .... up then" and walked away.

I could care less if she ever speaks to either of us ever again and certainly wont lose any sleep over it.

The puppy is now walking on the leash perfectly with no damage whatsoever.

Point is, youre the only person who has control over who you let in your life and who gets under your skin. Its up to you to judge whether its in your best interest to explain your position or tell them to go to hell like I did the neighbor.

Judging by the look on her face someone should have told her that a long time ago.

Good luck either way.

 

[RosaJ]

Lol! Thanks Rosa! No this person is a non-smoker so it's not vaping related. I agree. I did not set proper boundaries & when I did & let them know that I was serious the person crossed the line. I tried to handle the situation calmly & respectfully but I guess after I'd moved on & let it go they were still struggling with it & decided to bring me down because I'd let it go.

I'm not the type of person to hold grudges or seek revenge or anything like that but once trust & respect is lost I remove myself from the situation. I guess they weren't ready to let it go. But for me holding on to things is no good. It grows & festers & I learned that a long time ago. I guess some people want to make others feel bad so that they can feel better.

You're wise not to hold grudges as this will hold you back from moving on. It sounds they're the ones with the problem, not you. Their behavior is more of a reflection of their state of mind, control issues, insecurities and downright immaturity. Always move away from toxic relationships, they will drag you down with them every time. Don't blame you for being indignant for the breach of trust you're feeling right now.

Vape on!

 

[Chimney34]

Thank you Zapped! For me the situation is done. As my grandmother would say 'piss or get off the pot'! Lol! Or something like that! That's basically what I told this person!! Although I did have to use a few choice words...I think they got the point! I'm woman enough to admit when I'm wrong but I will not tell you a lie to take away your guilt! It's amazing that this even came up given that it was done sooooo long ago! If they didn't or refuse to accept it then its no longer my issue!

Thank you all for your responses! I really honestly do feel better!

 

[SilverBear]

Similar thread... my reply:

http://www.e-cigarette-forum.com/forum/lounge/411663-ive-had-my-sisters.html#post9396714

 

[Chimney34]

Yes! I remember! I responded to yours as well! Hope everything is better now! I know I feel much better than I did last night but sometimes people just make you wanna slap them!