My wife and I are both former smokers and now vapers. I have a 17 year old step-daughter who's recently told us that she smokes. My wife's view on this is to simply let her smoke (after a real long lecture). I don't now how I should feel about this. We won't buy them for her, nor will we pay for her to smoke them. But I and she also feel like hypocrites telling her not to smoke. And really, when I started in my teens, no adult could have told me anything to make me not try it and keep on doing it.
This child is a straight A student, with full paid scholarships already to college starting next year. She's a good kid, never in any sort of trouble, does her chores, is respectful and we've never suspected her of doing any kind of illegal drugs, though I guess at 17 tobacco is illegal for her.
Do any of you out there have any similar experiences with this? I'd like to hear from you. On the one hand I want to tell her she can't do it in my house. On the other, she's my STEP child and really the decision would end up being left to her mother.
I just feel like we should be making a bigger effort to keep her from doing this. There's also a bit of guilt we both have because she's grown us watching us smoke. How can I convince her that this just isn't cool, and not to pick up this filth habit I've struggled with for 20 years?
This child is a straight A student, with full paid scholarships already to college starting next year. She's a good kid, never in any sort of trouble, does her chores, is respectful and we've never suspected her of doing any kind of illegal drugs, though I guess at 17 tobacco is illegal for her.
Do any of you out there have any similar experiences with this? I'd like to hear from you. On the one hand I want to tell her she can't do it in my house. On the other, she's my STEP child and really the decision would end up being left to her mother.
I just feel like we should be making a bigger effort to keep her from doing this. There's also a bit of guilt we both have because she's grown us watching us smoke. How can I convince her that this just isn't cool, and not to pick up this filth habit I've struggled with for 20 years?