Hello all, sorry for the length... but there are a lot of potential missunderstandings about speaking in tongues.
It seems like everyone is talking about Tongues of Angels as mentioned in 1 Cor 13:1, frequently referred to as a prayer language. As I mentioned before, there is a Speaking in Tongues where one speaks a foreign earthly language that is unknown to them. This is what probably happened in Acts 2. I've known a few folks who received that.
Since we seem to be talking about the tongues of angels, I’ll address that.
To those who have not done it, it can appear to be pretty freaky. It can appear that way especially if one doesn't understand how it happens. In addition, many times congregations attach a certain amount of emotion to the communal practice of it. That alone can freak people out. It's kind of important to separate the gift from the human practice of it. Like any other practice in the church, it can be abused and misunderstood.
First, it is NOT “being possessed by the Holy Spirit”. It is NOT a loss of control of one’s self. It is NOT “letting the Holy Spirit take over” to the extent of either not being aware or not being able to be in control. When one speaks or prays in tongues, you are in complete control to start, stop and (forgive me Lord) even daydream while doing it. It is an act of your will just like talking is. You are fully aware.
SC…. Since I wasn’t there when you have asked for it, I’ll do my best to explain a few things. Generally one has to begin speaking. Sometimes people are not clear in their phrases about how to do something. Just “opening your mouth” is not really how it works. You usually need to make sounds … sort of as if, in faith, you expect words to be formed out of the sounds you are making. I’ve known people who have received a few words and as time went on and they practiced, their language grew. Others, sounded like a full blown “fluency” of a language. There’s no pressure for it to be received a certain way or to be like someone else. Some people find it to be an amazing and valuable gift. For others, it doesn’t seem to be a big deal. Others don’t really want it at all. It is a beneficial gift, but it is not mandatory and there should never be any guilt attached to one’s choice one way or the other. We should also avoid a
sense or projection of “exclusivity” between those who do and those who don’t…. on either side of the fence.
It's important to remember that it is a gift. There is no urgency to receiving it and no guilt if one does not feel comfortable with it. There is a place in scripture where Paul says "I would that you all spoke with tongues...". Some take this scripture almost as a commandment rather than a desire by Paul for the people to be blessed. Paul also said "I'd rather that you sought the gift of Prophecy" but we don't place the same pressure on that gift.
My own experience is unusual. At the age of 20, I accepted Christ as my Savior. I was so dramatically filled in my heart that I could hardly contain my joy. That’s sort of the way it was during the Jesus movement of the late 60’s and 70’s. One night, my wife woke me up and said “your dreaming, be quiet”. I didn’t understand. She said I was carrying on a conversation in my sleep. I said “what was I saying?”. She said, “I have no idea… it wasn’t English. It wasn’t any language I’ve ever heard before but it was certainly a language. You even repeated phrases.” I just rolled over and went back to sleep. A few weeks later we were in a church where someone spoke in tongues. She frantically elbowed me in the side and whispered …”That’s the language!! That’s what you were speaking in your sleep”.
I can only figure that I was so full of the joy of the Lord that I had to have a “vent” …. A relief valve in the Spirit, so to speak. And so it was. Later, I prayed to received it consciously and did. But then it was a matter of fact kind of experience rather than hugely emotional.
One of the practices of it that is particularly uplifting to me, is singing in tongues or "in the Spirit". Especially when a whole congregation does it. It's one of the most beautiful things I've ever heard.