A few days back I mentioned to my wife as we walked down a main street in the city we reside in that the "mainstream" would probably not adopt ecigs until unfortunately one of the major tobacco companies produced one in which the technology was "invisible", very akin to companies like Apple turning out their lite/easy access versions of technology (I can cynically picture the Icig on some Powerpoint presentation). No filling cartomizers, dripping; having to learn about ohms/voltage, batteries etc, and easy maintainance. I agree this is true, although have mixed opinions if it is necessarily right. Like anything in life, from academics to work to relationships et al, the more effort one puts in, the more reward that is yielded. The average person does not hack their cellphone, or properly calibrate their pricey High Definition television sets, yet us that do increase the function of our devices, in many cases making them work as they should. When it comes to hobbies and interests, I've observed this otherwise touted mantra is not always applied. Granted, vaping is not a hobby for everyone, nor does it need to be (though I readily have embraced the dark side as this is probably the 3rd most engrossing interest I've ever had in my life behind Magic and technology), but it must be remembered that quitting smoking in itself requires an amount of dedication and committment, whether cold turkey, through more conventionally accepted means, or by vaping. The hurdles that vaping present are in their own way mirrored in other ways by different problems that present themselves no matter which method a smoker deals with his or her journey away from analogues. As with anything worthwhile in life though, perseverance does pay off. Not to mention, IMO, that it is also great to learn something new no matter how old we are.
My first foray into vaping was a few years back, with a mall ecig. I don't need to elaborate other than to say that venture was a failure, as was nicotine gum which I had tried before. It was not until late last spring that I decided to investigate more, and thankfully ran across several forums including this one. A few videos later and I realized it was a case of "you think you know, but you have no idea". At that point I became hellbent on vaping, and when finances permitted, and with a great amount of knowledge gathered from fine folks here and other places on the internet, I started down a path which I'm loving, and allowed me to successfully cease smoking. When someone sees me using one of my odd devices and inquires, I readily give a brief explanation, and if there is interest, hardware suggestions and direction to the ECF website. This resource and community is invaluable for those wishing to transition from analogues to vaping.
I definitely agree that more quality brick and mortar retail stores, especially in places like the NY/NJ/CT area that seem to be devoid of them sans unscrupulous tobacco shops charging extortion-like prices for sub-par product ($25 for 5 mils???) or mall kiosks would certainly help ease the transition for new vapers, both lessening the likelihood of a bad introduction to the arena as well as increasing the adoption rate.
To the original poster : I feel your pain, (I too have had a nasty batch of bad cartos and wasted far too much juice...always happens when one is low too!) and admire your dedication. Stick with it - you'll soon find your groove to settle in (though even after you find a juice you like, the temptation to find a better one will lure you!). Don't dismiss dripping either. When I started, I thought that indeed cartos were the way to go. No mess no fuss. After the first night I vaped, it was a month and a half before I even touched a atomizer. Now, although at times I do use a REO, and occasionally cartos, dripping is my preferred method, even outside the house (I too feared for awhile that it would look like a practice from the other side of the law). Choice of bottle cuts down on the mess, and a drip shield helps that as well, and cuts down on refills. Never once have I yet to be questioned by a North Jersey cop, in fact the only time an officer has yet to inquire about any ecig of mine, was to ask if it actually worked to get me off analogues.
Good luck on your journey!!!