The REO Lounge - Part IV

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fatherdano

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nerak said:
Good Monday morning Reoville!

I have caught up in here from last night's posts. I must give my thoughts.


My son, now almost 40, was very always much in tune with his emotions and not afraid to show them.

Some would call him sensitive. He laughed, he cried, he expressed how he felt.

When he was 18 he wanted to join the Marines. He trained and got in shape preparing for his goal.

Then he was tested and they found he had some hearing loss and would not be accepted. He came home and was visibly upset. I let him retreat to his room a little while then went to check on him. I found him laying on his bed crying. All I could do is offer comfort and hope that he would find a new dream for his life.

Within a couple years he found himself married and had a daughter. Marriage didn't last but he would not give up being a father. He fought for his right to equal time with his 13 month old child. He found a way to work and also have his child live with him for half the week.

Now she is 17. Through the years I have realized that because he was never criticized, teased, bullied or pushed to "be a man" and "toughen up" he was able to be a well rounded parent. He could show his love for his daughter, he could love her, understand her needs and comfort her. He is her protector, her mentor, and her support both emotionally and for her physical needs.

He would not have been the same person if he was not allowed to be himself and be totally accepted and loved when growing up. His daughter would have also been a different person if she had a father that only knew "tough".

It is always better to nurture than to ridicule.
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Raising kids is difficult.
There is no one right way....

With 6 boys you learn there cannot be just one approach.... if you want to be successful that is.
My boys toughen up each other with well.....ridicule(along with a host of horrific things I just won't post :) ). As a responsible (lol)parent I must step in and make sure there are checks and balances so there is not just 1 alpha male among them.


My hope and goal is to instill my work ethic and make sure that they are respectful to everyone.(yeah I know its tough for even me, but EVERYONE)

Whenever they cry I pretend I'm Tom Hanks and tell them theres no crying in baseball, nudge, nudge.

As for the NFL. Anyone who thinks that they are not some of the best athletes in the world are not to well informed.
Yes youll get a few freaks who by there size alone can make (few and far in between) but in general they are ridiculously talented athletes.

Hockey and Football are similar in mindsets. Your gonna get hurt eventually....

now where was I..............................
 
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Good Evening REOVille. After a long, frustrating day it's always good to come to place where a friend offers a drink, people chat about parenting and sports teams, old friends swing by to say 'Hi'. (and ya don't have to worry about getting pulled over by the Cops on the way home ! ;))

Now, where did I put that 'Theme from Cheers" little ditty ?
 
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