O.T.
to those of you who are having a tough time
thru these holidays ( been there where you are ) and i know that unfortunately many of our family members here are going to have it rough :
I send my strength to you .IMHO ....do something different ,take a drive ,go to a movie ,go out for dinner vs .having the sadness of the holiday at home ,surround yourself with people who understand and can laugh with you ,or make you laugh !
Do something for an elderly family friend ,or any friend that you dont have to do ,get the focus off yourself and when you need to grieve ..go ahead and let yourself .It will get better and we love you here too.
I was "forced " to go ahead with christmas one year when a parent had passed .My
son understood ,but nobody else .
I needed to grieve ,not put on airs .I should have demanded that time as mine .While this technique of coping will work for some of you ,it will not work for all .I wanted to just "be " and that would have been ok .
Just remember ,if you are in this space take YOUR time on your terms ,do what YOU need to do .
I had to write this .....because i know how it feels .xo loves