What ails you?

[Lab]

the main thing that helps with quiting drugs is the users do not care at the time what they are doing to their selves.. they need to see how it is effecting their family ext..

also finding something that they enjoy more than the drugs.. and keeps their mind off them.. i would get home and take off to go fishing every day.. rock climbing ext.. the more dangerous the better since I wanted to be sober so i would not kill myself..

 

[shatner]

ah, how many many times I've said that one!

Blessings and hugs to all of you for sharing. So many common threads running through these stories

(Clumsy, my son is also a drug addict. Last year was the hardest, most painful year of my life, I can't even put it into words yet, and it had nothing to do with my own physical shortcomings.)

On the "illness/disease" forums: I have lurked on a few, posted on a couple, and browsed some others. Even went to a local meeting (against my doctors recommondation) and surprisingly, I found them to be very depressing, and not much help. I find more information just reading, and more compassion in a group like this. I think because it's not based around our illness, we are not focused soley on that topic. It is so easy to fall into the rut of "why me" or "poor me". Groups that have other things to talk about are more uplifting, and I think we are 'free' to feel bad OR good.

My 3cents

I completely understand what you're saying. My best friend is Bi-Polar Type II. So his mood can shift at any time, really. When he's in a depressive cylcle and I'm feelin' down, we can't hang out. We end in the headspace exactly described; why me, etc. I just doesn't work. But I've been teaching him how to blow glass and that seems to help him a lot. Just proves that art can be as good a medicine as any.

Thanks for the support, everyone.

Also, I know, or I can empathize, I guess, with you parents with addicted kids. The first time I went to rehab I was 17. My Mother found out through the grape vine that I was using .... IV. She had an escort service (a retired FBI agent and a retired Green Baret) haul my ... to a wilderness survival program in Utah for 7 weeks. Learned to navigate with map, compass and landmarks. Bow drill fire- making a fire with a 'bow', stone hand socket, Yucca spindle and Cedar fire board. Knots, traps, skinning and tanning. One pair of clothes 5 pairs of underwear and socks. Baking soda to mix w/ water to brush teeth and weekly food air drops. You run out of food, you eat off the land! There was also the solo 15 mile night hike. Then I went to real rehab in Mexico for 1 year. I quickly relapsed when I got out. Even though I thought I was ready to leave. Obviously I didn't hit rock bottom because I wasn't at the stage of being sick of the lifestyle.

There's hope for your kids. The best thing you can do is just be there for them. Don't give them money! You can believe whatever you want to believe, but the fact is that they are buying drugs with it. It's what addicts do. Manipulate. And we're not trying to hurt anyone. We're trying to keep ourselves from hurting! So don't be angy with them. Just show your concern and let them know you love them.

 

[mini_art]

Shatner you are one fine man

 

[shatner]

Thank you.

 

[Crusylicious]

Well, I suppose I'll post something here too.

I have social anxiety pretty bad, so I rarely get out even though I used to love to get out. At one point I had a panic attack so bad that I wasn't even okay at home, my anxiety was hitting at all times. I am on meds, but they only help so much. I feel fine at home, even walking around the apartment complex, but out any further and it hits and I start to gag and have trouble breathing.

I also have Crohn's disease OR IBS(not sure which and don't have the money to go through 2 years+ of testing to figure it out) which leaves me with horrible stomach aches at seemingly random times.

Also I have pretty bad depression and the meds don't work well enough. I probably need to try something else, but it will be a while before that happens.

And on top of that my best friend has turned his back on me, leaving me wondering why.

I know others here have it far worse than I, but seeing as this is a thread for sharing, I share.

Love you guys.

 

[Gut]

Well gee I can join in also...I am being medicated for depression, anxiety and panic attacks. I am diabetic and just had to start using insulin..god I hate needles!!!! My oldest son is a recovering drug addict (herorin), which apparently brought on the anxiety and such. I am rasing his daughter because him and his wife still can't quite grow up and get their headas on straight. Hell I could go on for hours!!! LOL

I love this group!!!

 

[MastiffMike]

I also have Crohn's disease OR IBS(not sure which and don't have the money to go through 2 years+ of testing to figure it out) which leaves me with horrible stomach aches at seemingly random times.

I KNOW this isn't a solution for Crohn's or really any disease, but thought I'd post about my daughters b/c it took us a long time to find something that helped. Both my daughters have mild IBS. My 10y.o. takes Miralax daily and seems to be mostly fine. However it doesn't help my 8y.o. and her terrible "tummy" pains. (her teacher said some days she would just start crying in class from the pain!). What we've found that has helped her (and again, I know her case is mild and fairly common in young children, but nobody could tell us what to do to help her so I post what works for her here incase it might help someone else) is probiotics. She eats one Activa yogart in the morning and then drinks Kefir after school and before bed. After just a few days her tummy stopped hurting as often and when it does it's not crippling pain, more of just a dull ache.

Both my daughters diets are great and they LOVE all fruits and veggies (heck, for snack some days they actually ask for tomatoes!) and the Gastoent.. (tummy doctor) had no answers for us. Luckily we stumbled upon the Kefir and it's been a huge help.

 

[VRubin]

lksjflnwerwe

 

[maureengill]

A young family member just passed away on Sunday...and as much as the fda cares about my nicotine usage...they should really get on the drug problems...they are everywhere.

Maureen

 

[Crusylicious]

I totally understand that VRubin. My father used to be a drug addict and though now he is clean, he has horrible pain from nerve damage caused by a surgery gone wrong. He wont take real pain pills because he is afraid he will become addicted and cause himself more harm than good.

 

[VRubin]

I totally understand that VRubin. My father used to be a drug addict and though now he is clean, he has horrible pain from nerve damage caused by a surgery gone wrong. He wont take real pain pills because he is afraid he will become addicted and cause himself more harm than good.

Its horrible.... you either get pain from an illness or pain from being addicted. There's no answer, and no good solution to it

 

[Lab]

I totally understand that VRubin. My father used to be a drug addict and though now he is clean, he has horrible pain from nerve damage caused by a surgery gone wrong. He wont take real pain pills because he is afraid he will become addicted and cause himself more harm than good.

i do the same thing.. doctors want to give me tons of pain killers used them for awhile but then got to the point that if i did not take them i would be sick so i took myself off them, and now only go to the doctor when im in too much pain to sleep..

 

[MacArthurBug]

Suppose I can unburden, a little here. I'm fortunate in that a positive turn of my life improved most of my worst issues. My husband of 7 years is honestly the reason I'm still here at all.

I lived my late teens and all of my 20's Morbidly Obese, I got to where I was at risk of diabetes 2, heart failure, constantly sick, etc.. I had gastric bypass surgery. Three and a half years later I'm a healthy weight. I still am coping with the issues that led to me allowing myself to get to the place I was. I've dealt with depression my whole adult life. I'm getting better. I don't take any meds (other then the vitamin cocktail I need to stay healthy) I meditate, dance, and have a wonderful family that usually keeps me balanced. I DO belong to a support forum (Obesity Help) online. I'm not there very often, but I stay semi active least I slip up and make the kind of mistakes that could lead to me becoming a sick kitty.

Due to the gastric bypass I now have a whole phalanx of food/eating problems (Lactose intolerance, iron deficiency, low protein, issues with sugar) However I've accepted them in exchange for the time I've gotten in exchange. I can now actively play with my children and actually enjoy living my life. I'm also fortunate to have discovered that I'm not an unattractive woman underneath the blanket of self hate I was swaddling in.

Finding ECF and electronic cigarettes was the next step in getting healthy. I HAD to quit smoking without gaining weight, or getting the grumpies. You guys and this forum has been a wonderful find!

 

[Jules22871]

What an amazing story! You have been thru so much and yet you want to help others! That is just awesome! Thanks for joining our little group!

 

[leannebug]

I am so moved by all of your stories. The thing that touches me the most, is the vunerability you are showing, just by pouring out your hearts. Whether you realize it or not, by sharing, you are helping someone else, somewhere in this world. It may be something small, or it may be something life changing. But by opening our hearts and our minds, we can all grow a little too.

 

[GoodDog]

MacArthurBug,when I first saw your avatar I thought it was a picture of a movie star. You are very beautiful and radiant and should be proud of your strength. (((hugs)))

 

[sensay]

I think "I'm not an unattractive woman" Is a huge understatement! You are beautiful!

 

[MastiffMike]

Don't take this the wrong way but.... I'd love to look at more pictures (one is hardly enough for me!)! Oh and video too!

 

[VRubin]

Don't take this the wrong way but.... I'd love to look at more pictures (one is hardly enough for me!)! Oh and video too!

You are such a dork lol you crack me up

 

[sensay]

Don't take this the wrong way but.... I'd love to look at more pictures (one is hardly enough for me!)! Oh and video too!

lmao!