It stinks. I have an extraordinary aversion to perfumes, colognes, and spray scents of all kinds. They make me nauseous and feel like I am suffocating when stuck in a room with people wearing them. Still, I would not wish for others to stop wearing scents for my comfort. I would also not choose my friends or loved ones because they do/do not wear scents. As human beings, we simply have to understand that if we want lots of people to love then they are going to have some habits that we do not like...just as we do.
Would you date a smoker?
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It stinks. I have an extraordinary aversion to perfumes, colognes, and spray scents of all kinds. They make me nauseous and feel like I am suffocating when stuck in a room with people wearing them. Still, I would not wish for others to stop wearing scents for my comfort. I would also not choose my friends or loved ones because they do/do not wear scents. As human beings, we simply have to understand that if we want lots of people to love then they are going to have some habits that we do not like...just as we do.
I think this is something we all agree with.
But it seems to me that you think I am saying something different.
I wouldn't ask anyone to stop smoking for me.
And I wouldn't act like a ......... to anyone who was smoking.
But I WOULD avoid dating a smoker unless they seemed like the right one for me.
Why would I willingly date someone who is going to stink all the time when there are thousands of people I could date?
Why would I date someone who is loud and obnoxious when I could date someone who wasn't?
Same thing.
Most people stink after they are comfortable in a relationship. They fall into patterns that include bad breath, belching, farting, and generally becoming who they are in private. Smoking is one stinky by-product of a comfortable relationship, but it sure as hell is not the only one.
This is hilariously true. If it's really about the unattractiveness of smoking (smell, ash, etc), then I don't really see how these people put up with live-in relationships at all. Because people as they are when they're comfortable, aren't attractive, from an objective point of view. That's why we always put in a bit more effort when we go out, or when we are early in a relationship and are trying to impress. Once a relationship is established, all that stuff goes out the window, and we don't care because we love them.
By the same token, I would be no more put off by dating a smoker than I would be by the general unattractiveness that comes with comfort in a relationship.
Time to just agree to disagree then.
I've been married for 12 years and my wife may stink for short periods of time here and there.
Like when she just finished working out after forgetting to use deoderant.
Or when she just ate a pizza with extra garlic.
But she doesn't stink or taste like an ashtray most of the time like a smoker does.
And if she did, that would really suck.
And for 11 of those 12 married years, I did stink and taste like an ashtray most of the time.
I think it is appropriate to apologize to her for subjecting her to that every single day.
And you think it is hypocritical and childish to apologize.
Our definitions of both words are clearly miles apart.
No I wouldn't. Not even with the thought of converting them. You care for them as they are. No one has the right to try and change who another person is or where they're coming from.
I enjoy vaping, and I'm smoke free and have been for months, but I choose not to have temptation in my face so often. I dated a man who was a non-smoker, and he ragged on me constantly. I wasn't much better, as I ragged on him for always being stoned on the wacky weed, so we just mutually agreed to part ways after a short while, knowing it would not work out. Would I date another vaper? Yes.
I enjoy vaping, and I'm smoke free and have been for months, but I choose not to have temptation in my face so often. I dated a man who was a non-smoker, and he ragged on me constantly. I wasn't much better, as I ragged on him for always being stoned on the wacky weed, so we just mutually agreed to part ways after a short while, knowing it would not work out. Would I date another vaper? Yes.
I am truly saddened that people would limit their choices and their chances at happiness based solely on smoking status. It is so very hard to find a soul mate, and I cannot even imagine discounting a possible soul mate because of smoking.
Yes, I would. Non smokers put up with me for yrs. So why not return the favor.
Like sherid said, "it is so very hard to find a soul mate, I cannot imagine discounting a possible soul mate because of smoking"
Nicely said sherid!
Like sherid said, "it is so very hard to find a soul mate, I cannot imagine discounting a possible soul mate because of smoking"
Nicely said sherid!
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