I always thought of myself as a 'fresh air" smoker. While I loved smoking, I didn't like the smell and always kept my place well ventilated. Easy enough to do where I live, where the temperatures are moderate and there is usually a prevailing wind at the front of my condo, flowing through to the back side. Always had the windows open just a little. I could really smoke up a room, though and every 7 years, the interior really needed a paint job, for sure.
Would you date a smoker?
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I could have wrote that lol I am (or was) essentially a smoker who hates smoking and everything that goes along with it. As to why I would ever start up in the first place? I was young and all my friends did it and we all were thinking we were cool. I honestly diid like it when I was younger. I could smoke at school, smoke at the teen center on Friday nights, smoke anywhere with all my friends, so it is simply part of my high school years.
Trust me, if I could get my hands on a time machine, I would go back to the day I took my first drag and slap it right out of my hands and yell obscenities at myself. If I was a non-smoker all my life and someone offered me one today, I would smack it out of their hands and shout obscenities at them.
My husband isn't on e-ciggs 100% yet and still smokes 4-6 analogs a day. He's looking at getting an eGo kit, so maybe soon! He hasn't smoked one in the house in a day or so but when he walks in the door, even with the 1 or 2 he still smokes on his way home from work, I can smell it immediately on him and it lingers all night. I won't be one of "those" types but, yes, it does bug me but he's doing great! Today is week 3 anniversary for me and it's awesome.
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I think you may be the only one here I can relate to. I've been off analogs for over 2 months now and since that time, I have never been "grossed out" by the smell of cigarette smoke like so many here. Cigarette smoke never smelled bad to me. It's when you put the cigarette out that it stinks. The stale smell on your clothes and breath are also bad and not like the actual smell of the smoke.
I'm married, but technically separated now. My wife smoked and I turned her onto vaping. If I'm single in the future, the fact that someone does or does not smoke would not be a prerequisite as far as dating them. I am not nor will I ever be an anti-smoking nazi. Although, If I did really care about them, I would probably do my best to convert them.
Some of these people seem to have drunk too much of the Kool-Aid. If I was appalled by the smell of smoking, I would not smoke. I'm thinking those that go on about it so much are simply trying to fit in with the anti-smoker crowd by repeating ad nauseum their language. They want it both ways, and apologizing for a behavior that everyone on this board embraced for decades is not only hypocritical but also childish. If you don't like the smell of smoke, don't smoke; but for God's sake don't participate in the anti-smoker propaganda. As for conversion, I would promote my own experience to someone who showed interest in it. As for the others, none of my business.
I'm sorry you don't get it, but smoke smells like crap.
Just because you're almost the only one who doesn't think so doesn't make the rest of us wrong.
The thing is, I didn't know it smelled like crap until I stopped doing it.
There is nothing hypocritical whatsoever about any of this.
And to think I not only subjected my poor wife to that smell for so long, but I even denied that it was true.
That is really freaking sad, and sure as hell deserves an apology.
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I'm already assuming the theoretical smoker in question would be someone I really want to be with - because those are the only people I'll date anyway.
So that assumption stuck in there, yes, I'd date a smoker. I've dated smokers before I was a smoker, so I know I can get over the smell. I would, of course, be very happy if they decided to switch to vaping or quit some other way, but I am not a pushy person. It would be fine if they didn't. I am not bothered by the end they are likely to meet - we all die eventually, and sometimes it's too early and slow and painful even if we never smoked a cig in our lives. I could be the one to go first, from some terrible disease for all I know.
At the end of the day, this is actually a very unimportant thing to me. Pretty much everything on the surface is unimportant to me - looks, smoker status, age, nationality, race, etc. I really don't care about any of it. And a quick look at my dating history will prove that point.
All I really care about is how I feel about them as a person. Of course there need to be some basics in place - I don't want to date a drug abuser (yes, I'm aware nic is a drug, but what I mean by that is someone who abuses a drug that is likely to destroy their lives or their mind - I think we know the difference without me having to get too far into it). I don't want to date a user or someone who's abusive, obviously.
Assuming the person is a happy, functional person, in whatever way that means for them (there's more than one way to be happy and function) I really don't care about anything else.
So that assumption stuck in there, yes, I'd date a smoker. I've dated smokers before I was a smoker, so I know I can get over the smell. I would, of course, be very happy if they decided to switch to vaping or quit some other way, but I am not a pushy person. It would be fine if they didn't. I am not bothered by the end they are likely to meet - we all die eventually, and sometimes it's too early and slow and painful even if we never smoked a cig in our lives. I could be the one to go first, from some terrible disease for all I know.
At the end of the day, this is actually a very unimportant thing to me. Pretty much everything on the surface is unimportant to me - looks, smoker status, age, nationality, race, etc. I really don't care about any of it. And a quick look at my dating history will prove that point.
All I really care about is how I feel about them as a person. Of course there need to be some basics in place - I don't want to date a drug abuser (yes, I'm aware nic is a drug, but what I mean by that is someone who abuses a drug that is likely to destroy their lives or their mind - I think we know the difference without me having to get too far into it). I don't want to date a user or someone who's abusive, obviously.
Assuming the person is a happy, functional person, in whatever way that means for them (there's more than one way to be happy and function) I really don't care about anything else.
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Gotta be selfish here and say no. It's been bad enough worrying about my own health without doubling that worry and living with all the baggage that comes with smoking.
Great reply!!!!
Dogs also eat a lot of other things we wouldn't...anyone ever live on a ranch or farm?
You are so right on about the ADD...fortunately, this vaping has worked out to be a fine method for sitting and concentrating...plus the hours of practice on ECF and last, but not least, the patience needed for the fine art of "stalking the mailperson".
I am married and when we first met we both smoked. He quit during an extremely dangerous bout of pneumonia, he never turned on me for smoking but always supports my decisions if I was trying to quit. So how could I judge someone else that I did for 33 years. Yes I can smell smoke like I never did before but I would never try and force my lifestyle choices like vaping on anyone. If they ask and want information, I am right there but wouldn't ever say if you don't stop smoking analogs you can't be with me. That is just shallow to me, I love my husband for who he is and how he treats me, if he started smoking again that wouldn't change.
What I find sad is that it is so difficult to find another person to share time and our lives with that limiting who we might consider robs us of the miracle of finding real love. Perhaps that is why so many people are unhappy in relationships.
Intelligence and humor are way more important to me. I wouldn't date a non-smoker who didn't have both, and I'd certainly date a smoker who did.
It is pretty rare that I find a person I truly connect with, not all of those relationships have been romantic, and none have lead to marriage yet, but I would not let smoking get in the way of any type of relationship at all. We are all going to die at some point. Oddly enough, a woman I am talking to told me last night that she was trying to think of ways to get me to stop vaping. I told her that right now if I had to stop I would almost certainly go back to smoking.
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I honestly wouldnt date a smoker now. ( of course Im married so this is completely hypothetical )
Not because of the smell or anything but because I would be worried that I would fall off the wagon. There are still days that the cravings are really really bad. Ive actually dreamed about smoking since I started vaping. I usually up my Mg and can get through it, but if there were a cigarette in the house, I would probably say," Oh Ill just have the one" Then another then another.
Even after four months I am still detoxing from cigarettes. I just dont want to have to go through that again.
Not because of the smell or anything but because I would be worried that I would fall off the wagon. There are still days that the cravings are really really bad. Ive actually dreamed about smoking since I started vaping. I usually up my Mg and can get through it, but if there were a cigarette in the house, I would probably say," Oh Ill just have the one" Then another then another.
Even after four months I am still detoxing from cigarettes. I just dont want to have to go through that again.
The poll is not asking whether or not smoke smells like crap.
It is asking whether or not you would date a smoker.
And I said I would, as have many others.
But that doesn't mean that smoke doesn't smell like crap.
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Do you know anybody who does those things all day long, every single day?
And does the stench actually hang over them like a cloud?
ABSOLUTELY. my boyfriend still smokes, and while i no longer like the smell, i sure do love THE GUY--so i'll GET OVER IT. lord save me from ever becoming like the people who have treated me and my friends as second class citizens, worthy of nothing but insult and derision, simply because we made a bad decision to start smoking. i hope if i ever DO become that way, someone gives me a really hard SMACK upside the head.
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