OMG sathara. Uninvited? That sucks.
Well Darn T! Sorry to hear about the family ordeal.....I kinda know how that goes sometimes. boB
Yeah, suffice it to say that I decided to intervene with my Mom. She spends 18+ hours on Facebook playing the various games. She basically does nothing but play those games and actually sets her sleeping and eating times around it.
I called it like I saw it and told her I thought she had an Internet addiction going on. When she said she didn't, I asked her best friend to help. Evidently her best friend decided that I needed elimination from my mother's life so mom's decided I'm out.
Of course, said 'best friend' wasn't there to help after mom had her mastectomy. That was me. She didn't cook for my mom and dad post-surgery or make sure Mom had everything she needed. That was me. So, fine. If I'm out, then her best friend can come up with all the research and make all the recommendations for ways to alleviate issues from treatment.
I told Dad last night that if Mom wants to play Facebook and wait to die, then so be it. I was finished with the whole thing. That's when I was told it would probably be best if I didn't come for his birthday. All righty then, I won't be there. I'll be like all the other folks that are so concerned. I'll send a card. And when the next thing happens, I'll send a card and call and tell them how sorry I am. But I won't spend a ton of money to get there, take off work, and be the one that takes the brunt of everything.
I then told my husband that I was done spending my vacation time to travel to see them. They're retired and have plenty of money. They can come see me for a change. They haven't visited me in over 5 years. They haven't called me in over 3 months. They want me to do everything for them and I'm done with this one-way relationship. Told my dad as much and wished him a happy birthday in case they don't call again until afterwards.