Easter, mother-in-law, manners, ignorance.

[Kprthevapr]

Does a court of law allow hearsay as testimony? His SIL's statement may or may not be true.
The OP stated that he may (probably did) have asked for the ok to vape. If that stance has changed on the MIL's part, is it not up to her to ask him to stop at this late date?

Torn here. I can see both sides of the issue.

I don't envy you, DC.

SIL may just be tryin to start some . Some people like drama

 

[crxess]

Personal thought:

Sister-in-law should have kept her for more valuable purchases and left a matter Not of Her concern, UN-discussed. I absolutely hate - He said/she said.

As Grandfather of 11 with 5 of my own, plus all the in-laws - I cannot count the times I've had to listen to, Well so and so said........., and I always answer, I never heard them say that. Not my business.

 

[DC2]

Sister-in-law should have kept her for more valuable purchases and left a matter Not of Her concern, UN-discussed. I absolutely hate - He said/she said.

Hmmm....

I actually posted this without talking to my wife about the incident at all.
So I just asked her and she agrees that her sister should have kept her mouth shut.

Strangely, that's an angle I had never even considered.

 

[Robino1]

I would have to think that since it is your wife's family.... she should deal with it all

Bwahahahahaha! Sorry, that was , huh?

Apologies to your wife, DC.

 

[HauntedMyst]

Being a Sagittarius I promise not to care about your opinion, but will enjoy hearing it.

My view is that one of the most reasonable, well spoken, thoughtful individuals on this board just referenced astrology. Now my head hurts and I have to rethink everything.

 

[DC2]

My view is that one of the most reasonable, well spoken, thoughtful individuals on this board just referenced astrology. Now my head hurts and I have to rethink everything.

Well first, thanks for that.


But if you're not careful, I might just mention how I believe in God.
That ought to really screw things up good.

 

[Robino1]

Oh please don't

 

[rideronthistrain]

Here's a link to where Bill Godshall had a meeting with the government about the proposed "deeming rule" that would ban all vape products developed after 2007. He is the head of Smoke Free Pennsylvania and is an avid supporter of vaping. Have your MIL just click on the link that says "handout". Bill has elaborated in that handout (170 pages) about the value of vaping as a quit smoking method and is fighting this proposed "tobacco control" rule. He lists multiple studies that shows vaping is safe and valid for quitting smoking. I follow Bill on Disqus. This may help her realize that the tobacco control propaganda wagon is in full gear.

View EO 12866 Meeting

 

[DC2]

He lists multiple studies that shows vaping is safe and valid for quitting smoking. I follow Bill on Disqus. This may help her realize that the tobacco control propaganda wagon is in full gear.

Trust me on this one...

My in-laws have received dozens of emails from me with information on vaping.
In fact, they are on my short list after asking me a few questions once many years ago.

But thank you for posting that.
I'm sure many will find it very useful.

Oh please don't

I'm a San Diego Padres fan.
I've got nothing else to believe in.

 

[Von Vape]

Since we're being serious here, I would approach said MIL and ask her. Something along the lines of "I understand through the grapevine that my vaping in the house is bothering you. If it does I will be more than happy to take it outside, or just in the bathroom, but don't want to offend you with it."

With that in mind AND this in mind;

I will respect her wishes to not vape indoors in her house if she asks.
But she'll be obligated to get an earful of my opinion on the matter if that happens.

Personally, I would combine the two, asking her to confirm "the rumor" and then have the resulting long winded diatribe that would hopefully bring her back to an educated and enlightened (her original ?) position. Maybe even have a great tasting, zero nicotine flavor for her to sample. After all, vaping isn't just for reformed smokers anymore! (Great taste & less filling than that blueberry cobbler you just stuffed down your pie hole! [said with LOVE, OF COURSE!] )

My ,

Von Vape

 

[Tommy-Chi]

If I go to a business or home where it is requested that I do not vape, I do not. I take it outside.

As far as "mother in laws" go, you don't know what an issue one is, until you get US Postal hate mail for a decade. Got rid of the wife and the problem.

 

[DebiK]

I have nothing to add, as I see both sides. I'm just here to watch it unfold.

 

[celticluvr]

I think she would've said something before if she didn't want you vaping in her house.

 

[Sidsgothem]

i mean...honestly..you shouldn't smoke IN someone's house without their permission...i get the feeling you just started smoking out of habit thinking it was okay...

and she's older i think you should just lay off when at her place...if not go outside...isn't really a big deal to step out and vape if you REALLY need to...

if i we're you i'd talk to her and tell her that you heard that she was displeased with you vaping in her house and you apologize in doing so, and won't be doing it again and that you're sorry for the inconvenience.

i mean it's her house...if someone did something that displeased you in YOUR OWN HOME....i doubt you'd be as nice...i know for sure i'd throw them out...she's a nice lady...be a nice guy...part of being an adult...sacrifice to please others...part of life...

 

[kmk]

Personal thought:

Sister-in-law should have kept her for more valuable purchases and left a matter Not of Her concern, UN-discussed. I absolutely hate - He said/she said.

As Grandfather of 11 with 5 of my own, plus all the in-laws - I cannot count the times I've had to listen to, Well so and so said........., and I always answer, I never heard them say that. Not my business.

Hmmm....

I actually posted this without talking to my wife about the incident at all.
So I just asked her and she agrees that her sister should have kept her mouth shut.

Strangely, that's an angle I had never even considered.

My. All SILs should keep their mouths shut all the time.

 

[hurricanegirl100]

Yeah, I'm with YoursTruli - out in public is one thing, but a person's home is another. If she doesn't want you vaping in her house, you can't.

 

[aceswired]

But you're not positive?

And even if you are, things change. Maybe they didn't mind before, but now they do. So what?

No way would I vape in someone's house if they didn't vape (or smoke). That thought has never even crossed my mind.

Ditto that. To be blunt, it seems like OP wants to be rude for the sake of being rude.

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[crxess]

Yeah, I'm with YoursTruli - out in public is one thing, but a person's home is another. If she doesn't want you vaping in her house, you can't.

Agreed......................If She says so.
Sis-in-L should have talked with Mom, not rumored her interpretation of the situation.

Now you have - Mom said(maybe)
Next you have - Concerned Son-n-law wondering why no mention
Next you have Mom-in-law wondering why Son-in-law seems stressed around her

Then comes the fun:
Well, Sis-in-law said you.....Bla Bla Bla
Mothering law says - that;s not what I meant
Sister-in-law says, that's not what I was saying............

And Here we Go............. Bla, bla, bla

SIL needed to Not pass information second hand - Not her place.

 

[Robino1]

Agreed......................If She says so.
Sis-in-L should have talked with Mom, not rumored her interpretation of the situation.

Now you have - Mom said(maybe)
Next you have - Concerned Son-n-law wondering why no mention
Next you have Mom-in-law wondering why Son-in-law seems stressed around her

Then comes the fun:
Well, Sis-in-law said you.....Bla Bla Bla
Mothering law says - that;s not what I meant
Sister-in-law says, that's not what I was saying............

And Here we Go............. Bla, bla, bla

SIL needed to Not pass information second hand - Not her place.

You did that so well, I could actually see all that happening

 

[classwife]

Well heck...

Just cause a good ole' family knock down drag out and go to the MIL and say that the SIL said...