Exiled to the garage
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Your freedom to do anything as a husband is always short lived
BUT it's great to be married
I have tried to get her vaping, for the most part she hasn't liked what she's tried. Last night I had a small breakthrough, she thought the vanilla I had picked up with lower nic strength was better, and didn't burn her throat. She thought it was nice not having to go outside, but still concluded that it made the livingroom smell, and that the smell was going to get into the furniture. SMH
She is a little OCD so I probably won't win this one.
She is a little OCD so I probably won't win this one.
I feel for ya Alawot. My wife still smokes and doesn't like to be around my vapor. Says it's "cloying" (sickeningly sweet). Out of deference to her I go to the garage with her while she smokes there... UNLESS she is out of the house. Then I vape away inside, making sure the clouds clear before she gets home. She never knows the difference. It's especially nice when she's out of town and I can let the clouds linger. She still never suspects.
I vape up a storm in my office around a bunch of non-smokers and non-vapers, and people actually stop in my office just to smell it sometimes! Not one person has ever complained about the smell, and I've gotten lots of positive comments on it!
If your wife doesn't enjoy what she's tried maybe she would prefer different flavors than what you regularly vape. Have her pick out some flavors she would be willing to try, buy her her own tank and battery, and encourage her the whole way. Me and my girlfriend switched to vaping together, and it's been great having someone there for support (and backup juice)!
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If your wife doesn't enjoy what she's tried maybe she would prefer different flavors than what you regularly vape. Have her pick out some flavors she would be willing to try, buy her her own tank and battery, and encourage her the whole way. Me and my girlfriend switched to vaping together, and it's been great having someone there for support (and backup juice)!
-Treeburner
Another idea for you if you really want to vape in the house is to try unflavored juice and see if you like it. That way there is no smell to "get into the furniture".
My wife smokes outside and has asked that I vape outside. It does get cloudy at times I often smell vape when returning home. No big deal, I just vape less. I don't argue it and believe that not vaping in our home is the right call.
Unflavored is what I was going to say also.
It really does sound like she is a bit jealous that you are not regulated to the garage with her anymore and is looking for another reason to get you back out there. Most people want there house to have a nice smell to it, so what exactly is wrong with a vanilla or cherry scent lingering, or getting in the furniture (which I have not experienced). I can douse my drapes and furniture with Febreze and the smell is gone by the next day, I doubt your vaping is going to trump that. If it does, you can make a side income and just rent yourself out to home owners to sit and vape in their house with the scent of their choice. Could be a good gig
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My husband is a non-smoker, and he smells very little if anything even when I'm vaping IN THE TRUCK WITH THE WINDOWS UP. The only time he's ever noticed a "bad" smell is when the wick/coil is gunked, he says it smells like "burnt crap." (except he used the real S-word, unacceptable here )
I would agree that there is a lot more going on than some illusory "lingering smell" -- there IS no lingering smell with vaping, and even if there was, a smoker wouldn't be able to smell it. Seems quite like sour grapes to me -- "If *I* have to be exiled, so do you!" etc.
When my husband first quit his little cigars (black & milds) a few years ago, I did kinda miss him out on the porch for smoke-breaks, but since I love him, I let it pass; I'd far rather he had healthy lungs than kept me company for smoke breaks (he has *borderline* *possibly* *beginning* stages of COPD -- according to his doctor).
Now, he loves that *I* will have healthier lungs, AND, I don't have to sprint for the porch like a maniac at commercials, and then come back in reeking of ashtray; I can just sit there and mute the inane commercials with him. And sometimes send him to the kitchen for chocolate, tea, or an oatmeal pie.
Finding a flavor to vape, for a smoker just trying out vaping, can be the most challenging aspect -- doesn't mean that either of you should give up on it. Just keep trying new flavors, just keep trying! There is no longer ANY reason for a smoker to keep suffering that awful tasting burnt crap!
Andria
)I would agree that there is a lot more going on than some illusory "lingering smell" -- there IS no lingering smell with vaping, and even if there was, a smoker wouldn't be able to smell it. Seems quite like sour grapes to me -- "If *I* have to be exiled, so do you!" etc.
When my husband first quit his little cigars (black & milds) a few years ago, I did kinda miss him out on the porch for smoke-breaks, but since I love him, I let it pass; I'd far rather he had healthy lungs than kept me company for smoke breaks (he has *borderline* *possibly* *beginning* stages of COPD -- according to his doctor).
Now, he loves that *I* will have healthier lungs, AND, I don't have to sprint for the porch like a maniac at commercials, and then come back in reeking of ashtray; I can just sit there and mute the inane commercials with him. And sometimes send him to the kitchen for chocolate, tea, or an oatmeal pie.
Finding a flavor to vape, for a smoker just trying out vaping, can be the most challenging aspect -- doesn't mean that either of you should give up on it. Just keep trying new flavors, just keep trying! There is no longer ANY reason for a smoker to keep suffering that awful tasting burnt crap!
Andria
Tell your Wife since you File Jointly, that Half of the House is Yours.
And then just Vape in that Half.
I started vaping about two weeks ago. At first my non smoker spouse told me that I needed to go in the garage because she didn't want the kids to see it. And they have watched me smoke since they were born. They have been bugging me to quit for a while. Very happy I have been able to fulfill that request. Anyways, as I haven't smoked in front of them, my spouse realized she could get more time with me if she just let me vape inside. So lucky for me I can now sit on the couch and vape at home with my sweetie next to me. And she says I taste and smell so much better. And I am just discreet about it around the kids. Works out great.
IMHO, many smokers think vaping is wierd. Some think it is lame. People pay out the wazoo for air freshener to make their living rooms smell like vanilla or cherry, but it sounds like she is just nit picking. Like the smell of stale cigarette smoke on her clothes won't rub off onto the furniture? She may not like vaping just because it didn't work for her? If she can't have it, nobody else can?
My husband is a non-smoker, and he smells very little if anything even when I'm vaping IN THE TRUCK WITH THE WINDOWS UP. The only time he's ever noticed a "bad" smell is when the wick/coil is gunked, he says it smells like "burnt crap." (except he used the real S-word, unacceptable here
I would agree that there is a lot more going on than some illusory "lingering smell" -- there IS no lingering smell with vaping, and even if there was, a smoker wouldn't be able to smell it. Seems quite like sour grapes to me -- "If *I* have to be exiled, so do you!" etc.
When my husband first quit his little cigars (black & milds) a few years ago, I did kinda miss him out on the porch for smoke-breaks, but since I love him, I let it pass; I'd far rather he had healthy lungs than kept me company for smoke breaks (he has *borderline* *possibly* *beginning* stages of COPD -- according to his doctor).
Now, he loves that *I* will have healthier lungs, AND, I don't have to sprint for the porch like a maniac at commercials, and then come back in reeking of ashtray; I can just sit there and mute the inane commercials with him. And sometimes send him to the kitchen for chocolate, tea, or an oatmeal pie.
Finding a flavor to vape, for a smoker just trying out vaping, can be the most challenging aspect -- doesn't mean that either of you should give up on it. Just keep trying new flavors, just keep trying! There is no longer ANY reason for a smoker to keep suffering that awful tasting burnt crap!
Andria
oh, are you one of those that mutes the tv on commercials? my live in mother-in-law does that, drives me crazy, especially since shes a lil hard of hearing so the tv is so loud to begin with, then silence when there are commercials, drives me nuts... not sure if it's the actual tv thing or just that she bugs me in general though, so theres that
only time my wife complains about my vape is when I blow it right in her direction, especially when she's half a sleep
at first she did a little bit but I explained to her that there was no reason for concern like smoking was so she kinda lives with it... I don't know what I would do if she complained enough though for me to go outside... don't think I would, probably just pick an area of the house and designate it as my vaping room... if there was a legitimate reason like smoking was then yeah, i could see that, but unreasonable erratic unwarranted requests wouldn't sit well with me... I'd like to say that I'd tell her to go in the garage but, anyone here who's married knows that I would just be lying, I'm married long enough to know the praise "yes dear" all to well 
oh, are you one of those that mutes the tv on commercials? my live in mother-in-law does that, drives me crazy, especially since shes a lil hard of hearing so the tv is so loud to begin with, then silence when there are commercials, drives me nuts... not sure if it's the actual tv thing or just that she bugs me in general though, so theres that
only time my wife complains about my vape is when I blow it right in her direction, especially when she's half a sleep
Heh... I have to say, after all the grief I got about the cigarette smell, if he said anything at all about the vaping, my response would be "TOUGH!!!!! DEAL WITH IT OR GO OUTSIDE YOURSELF!!!!!!!!!"
When I first started, he made the comment "you sure do that a lot, like, constantly!" I just looked at him, blew out the biggest cloud I could manage, and then BELLOWED at about 100dB "DO YOU WANT ME TO GO BACK TO SMOKING?!?!?!??!" He backed up REAL quick, and hasnt' said another word. If I want to buy something vape-related, all he says is "can we afford that?" (I keep the budget). If the answer is "yes, I think so," he says "buy it, then."
There are a couple vapes, kinda "smoky" flavors, that he doesn't care for; I vape them late at night after he's gone to bed, and by the time he gets up, the smell is gone -- hence my comment "there is NO residual smell." And now when I make a new DIY, I go and find him and blow a few puffs, to see if the smell bothers him. It never does. But, him telling me when he smelled that "burnt crap" smell from my gunked wick/coil, was quite a surprise, and actually a welcome one -- it's good that his sense of smell is recovering now that he's no longer subjected to 2nd hand smoke, and good that he can smell something that I probably shouldn't be vaping anyway.
As for muting the TV... your irritation with that might just be because you're irritated with her in general -- I've always had that reaction with my stepfather, and eating at the same table as him is disgusting -- he CHEWS too loudly!
My husband does that sometimes too, and somehow I manage to endure it without comment... but when my stepfather does it, it gets on my LAST nerve.And actually there are only a few commercials I find mute-worthy -- that girl in the mobile phone commercial comes to mind, the one who 'appreciates' everything...
I have to mute her, or risk putting my fist thru the TV. And also that notebook-PC commercial "make a shay, al a gaaaaa" ARGHHHHHHHHHH! If I don't mute it, I just sit there screaming SPEAK ENGLISH, YOU ___! (take your pick of crude epithets, I've probably hit them all by now). I used to be that way with the screaming guy advertising some cleaning product... but he died, so I'm no longer troubled by him. Of course I scream at all the nicorette and chantix commercials USE E-CIGARETTES YOU IDIOT AND YOU WON'T HAVE ANY CRAVINGS!!!!!! And you won't want to kill yourself either!!!!!! With all this screaming going on, my husband has gotten into the habit of just muting the TV at commercials... to spare my blood pressure and his ear drums, probably. Andria
Maybe the clouds are more annoying than the lingering smell. Try out the window, or nearby an open window. My gf hates when I vape up the whole room...but then again I used to smoke at home, vaping is a much more pleasant smell. Best yet, get your wife to vape too and then you can both vape in the house ;p
OK, smoking in the garage..but I think Rock meant (please correct me if I'm wrong, Sarge)
to ask whether your wife's smoking is restricted to only the garage.
If she can smoke but you can't vape in the house there is a problem.
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