I was married to two very special, unique, and eccentric men. Both are deceased. Some people never get to experience the real thing (head over heels .. rose colored glasses .. madly in love). I had it twice! I feel blessed.
Today, is the birthday of my first husband, Ellwood. My Ellwood was extremely intelligent, educated, incredibly talented, witty, and so much fun. What a gift he was!
Happy Birthday to him!
I love your attitude towards embracing the memories and love that you had for your Husbands, I think that is how love should be remembered and kept. Reminds me of a scene from one of my favorite TV shows: Louie from season 4. Louie plays a comedian that is divorce and is raising 2 little girls. He just met a hungarian woman that did not speak english, but somehow they fall in love and she has to go back to Hungary.
He is running around being miserable of course and runs into a neighbor (played by CHarles Grodin) and he starts to whine about being miserable and what to do about it......THe Doctor turns at him and tells him this:
Misery is wasted on the miserable… You think spending time with her, kissing her, having fun with her, you think that’s what it was all about? That was love? THIS is love —- missing her because she’s gone… wanting to die. You’re so lucky. You’re like a walking poem. Would you rather be some kind of a fantasy? Some kind of a Disney ride?! IS THAT WHAT YOU WANT?! Don’t you see THIS is the good part —- this is what you’ve been digging for all this time. Now you finally have it in your hand, this sweet nugget of love… sweet, sad love… and you want to throw it away. You’ve got it all wrong…
The bad part is when you forget her, when you don’t care about her, when you don’t care about anything. The bad part is coming so enjoy the heartbreak while you can, for God’s sakes.
That was so amazingly sweet and on the mark, as long as we dont forget..... its still love and still good..... no matter how short it was or it it turned out bad.....
