I just DON'T WANT to quit!

[the_vape_nerd]

I went to a bar yesterday and was having a few beers. I'm somewhat of a regular in there so most of the people have already asked their questions and know what I'm doing and they really don't care. Some of them smoke and I don't care what they are doing either.

So yesterday afternoon, some guy comes in and he's asking me about my vaping and so on. Then he launches into how he quit 8 years ago, how it was the best thing he ever did, he quit cold turkey blah, blah...and then he says to me "You can quit too you know, you can do anything you set your mind to doing, I did it and so can you". I said well "thanks for the lecture there but I'm not one iota interested in quitting this, I enjoy it". His eyes went all huge.

Then he proceeds to tell me "do you know how bad nicotine is for you, are you ok with getting cancer" etc. At this point I said I was well informed about the risk of nicotine, that by itself it isn't a carcinogen and so on. And he keeps asking me WHY don't I want to quit. And so then I asked him why he was having a Budweiser. He rolled his eyes and I said yeah well you probably enjoy budweiser and i enjoy this.

 

[Plumes.91]

I feel you completely and Ive had similar talks with random people. Some people see tobacco or drug/alcohol use as a tick on a checklist. They see quitting using these things the same way they see cutting down on red meat & starting an exercise schedule. Some of them think everyone sees smoking or drinking the same way and they think anyone still smoking at 30+ must just be having problems quitting. Pair that mentality with someone that doesn't understand that vaping is healthier than smoking tobacco and you get your new bar friend.

 

[Oomee]

The guy was only passionate about non smoking , the same as we are passionate about vaping .
I could see a common ground there and would have tried for a laugh with him .
Now budwieser .... jesus H that is rats p1ss , get a hangover before you are drunk !

 

[jp_cfc09]

Budweiser is rats piss lol, I love that beer and could name ten other beers that teaste like piss more but got to agree it really does blow your head off lol. 7 or 8 pints and your deffo not up for work the next day lol. I think the fellow in the bar just didnt understand why you like it so much as he only sees vapeing as a stopping aid like gum extra which you wouldnt keep chewing once unhooked from analogs as they are rank. maybe if he tried vapeing to stop smokeing then he would of understood, should of told him that these ecigs are not stated as a smokeing aid but something less harmful then analogs to get your nic fix and many do use it to help stop but its not the only reason people use it. doubt he would of cared or listened really as its hard to change someones mind lol.

 

[AgentAnia]

Your bar friend is what I call a "quit snob." The "I did it and so can you" is a dead giveaway. No arguing/discussing with them. My answer is always "Don't wanna give it up so I'm not gonna." (And if I'm really feeling frisky, I'll add, "Now, can I be a facilitator and buy you another beer?")

 

[XeniaMike]

If people are looking at you, they don't have to work on their own stuff.

 

[tj99959]

I just say "congratulations, I'm glad it worked for you" when someone starts in with the cold turkey stuff.

As for me I was never successful at quitting for one simple reason, I never wanted to quit. Eventually I reached the point where I had no choice .. I needed to quit. I thank God every day that I found an alternative that allowed me to quit smoking.

 

[Kemosabe]

I went to a bar yesterday and was having a few beers. I'm somewhat of a regular in there so most of the people have already asked their questions and know what I'm doing and they really don't care. Some of them smoke and I don't care what they are doing either.

So yesterday afternoon, some guy comes in and he's asking me about my vaping and so on. Then he launches into how he quit 8 years ago, how it was the best thing he ever did, he quit cold turkey blah, blah...and then he says to me "You can quit too you know, you can do anything you set your mind to doing, I did it and so can you". I said well "thanks for the lecture there but I'm not one iota interested in quitting this, I enjoy it". His eyes went all huge.

Then he proceeds to tell me "do you know how bad nicotine is for you, are you ok with getting cancer" etc. At this point I said I was well informed about the risk of nicotine, that by itself it isn't a carcinogen and so on. And he keeps asking me WHY don't I want to quit. And so then I asked him why he was having a Budweiser. He rolled his eyes and I said yeah well you probably enjoy budweiser and i enjoy this.

those "quit snob" type of people are interesting. they went through the agony of quitting without looking into vaping. its admirable that they have quit. i cant take that away from them. and while vaping is likely harmless, there are chromium scares, acrolein scares, and other concerns like faulty batteries, etc. so they are avoiding all that. but in the end, to me- a quitter is likely jealous and bitter that they had to go through all the agony of quitting without using a safe, effective, and utterly satisfying aid. so they try to bash it- either out of ignorance or just flat-out jealousy.

 

[soba1]

Yeah preach brutha/sista amen amen.
I hate when they do that.

 

[soba1]

Hey OP I kept looking at your Avi then looked at your location.
I was born there, been here since the age of 10, but I rather claim
N.O. than L.A.
You should have shoved a po-boy in his mout, yeah ya right

 

[Unfettered]

I'm so tired of complete strangers acting like I care one iota what they think. Once while I was a server, I snuck outside during a lull to grab a quick smoke. Some random guy walks past and says "You're beautiful, but you'd be so much prettier if you didn't smoke."

Uh....well, let me just say it would take a whole lot more than not smoking for this guy to be in the same universe as the same ballpark as attractive. I SO wanted to say "Smoker or not, you still wouldn't have a shot." Alas, I was standing right outside my job in full uniform so I held my tongue.

It's an unfortunate epidemic, people thinking they know what's best for you. From Joe Blow to the asshats in government. Everybody thinks they can run your life better than you. Sounds like you handled it alright.

 

[Night_vapour37]

You handled the situation very well! He was obviously a little full of miss Information on nicotine and the risks that it imposes, I'm the same way when it comes to vaping, I never want to quit its a part of my life and something I truly enjoy

 

[swoody]

Luckily I have a co-worker who is one of those "I quit cold turkey, you should too." types. The topic comes up about once a month. I - like others here - never had the true desire to quit. I might get motivated for a day, but once that pure motivation wears off about 12 hours later, I'd be on my way to go buy another pack of analogs.

I loved cigarettes, they went great with coffee, they went great with beer. There was nothing like going for a good smoke break during a tough shift at work. However, now that I'm a vaper, cigarettes taste like crap. I enjoy a good Maple Tobacco with a cup of coffee much more than those smelly analogs. My morning "cigarette" is now Banana Nut Bread or Espresso. When my sweet tooth kicks in, I can satisfy it with some Malty Toffee or one of a thousand other dessert vapes. Being a vaper now, I have no desire to go back to analogs, and with the cost being so reasonable compared to how much I wasted on tobacco, I don't see much of a rush to give up vaping.

Woody

 

[JohnnyDill]

LOL at your bar story. Ex smokers are the biggest .......S regarding other people smoking. More than any person that never smoked. I agree with you about not wanting to quit doing "this form of smoking"........ I actually still enjoyed some aspects of smoking but the bad points that I could not tolerate anymore {stench, stink and smell} were what motivated me to make the switch. Vaping is MUCH better!

 

[AgentAnia]

Never forget that ANTZ and public health propaganda has made it socially acceptable for anyone to publicly criticize smokers (and now vapers), be they friends, family, or strangers. Can you imagine if Unfettered's random guy had said something like "You're beautiful, but you'd be so much prettier if you lost 10 pounds," or "You're beautiful, but you'd be so much prettier if you didn't wear slacks"? Do you think they'd think they had a right to make such a comment?

I'm starting to think we vapers (and smokers) are being *much* too polite in our responses to these rude, intrusive, out-of-line people (not on the topic of vaping but on the topic of being rude, intrusive, etc. in general).

 

[RobinBanks]

I'm so tired of complete strangers acting like I care one iota what they think. Once while I was a server, I snuck outside during a lull to grab a quick smoke. Some random guy walks past and says "You're beautiful, but you'd be so much prettier if you didn't smoke."

Uh....well, let me just say it would take a whole lot more than not smoking for this guy to be in the same universe as the same ballpark as attractive. I SO wanted to say "Smoker or not, you still wouldn't have a shot." Alas, I was standing right outside my job in full uniform so I held my tongue.

It's an unfortunate epidemic, people thinking they know what's best for you. From Joe Blow to the asshats in government. Everybody thinks they can run your life better than you. Sounds like you handled it alright.

Oh god, I've gotten that before!!! I also get "you're prettier when you smile"... I just recently got that from my female boss! No quicker way to make me sneer!!

 

[RedhatPat]

I went to a bar yesterday and was having a few beers. I'm somewhat of a regular in there so most of the people have already asked their questions and know what I'm doing and they really don't care. Some of them smoke and I don't care what they are doing either.

So yesterday afternoon, some guy comes in and he's asking me about my vaping and so on. Then he launches into how he quit 8 years ago, how it was the best thing he ever did, he quit cold turkey blah, blah...and then he says to me "You can quit too you know, you can do anything you set your mind to doing, I did it and so can you". I said well "thanks for the lecture there but I'm not one iota interested in quitting this, I enjoy it". His eyes went all huge.

Then he proceeds to tell me "do you know how bad nicotine is for you, are you ok with getting cancer" etc. At this point I said I was well informed about the risk of nicotine, that by itself it isn't a carcinogen and so on. And he keeps asking me WHY don't I want to quit. And so then I asked him why he was having a Budweiser. He rolled his eyes and I said yeah well you probably enjoy budweiser and i enjoy this.

You both started out good (common ground being that you're ex-smokers), then difference of opinion fine, good move with the budweiser comment, btw. Dunno why he kept laying into you since it seems like he's demonstrating his lack of understanding about vaping.

Which makes sense if he quit 8 years ago. Anyone know when vaping nic juices came about exactly? My guess is, he wanted you to break the crutch to nic that he did 8 years ago (who wouldn't).

The way you describe it, I'm just glad this exchange didn't go past words, ya know. You can't put out every fire but it was cool of you to share it with us on ECF.

RHP

 

[Senoufo]

Good job on keeping your cool, we need more vapers like you who can discuss calmly and respectfully.

now the budweiser comment made me chuckle as we have a joke up here in the great white north:

whats the difference between budweiser and making love in a canoe?

none

both are effin' close to water ;-)

cheers and vape on!

 

[Plumes.91]

7 or 8 pints and I'm not getting up for work for the next 3 days..

 

[the_vape_nerd]

Budweiser is rats piss lol, I love that beer and could name ten other beers that teaste like piss more but got to agree it really does blow your head off lol. 7 or 8 pints and your deffo not up for work the next day lol. I think the fellow in the bar just didnt understand why you like it so much as he only sees vapeing as a stopping aid like gum extra which you wouldnt keep chewing once unhooked from analogs as they are rank. maybe if he tried vapeing to stop smokeing then he would of understood, should of told him that these ecigs are not stated as a smokeing aid but something less harmful then analogs to get your nic fix and many do use it to help stop but its not the only reason people use it. doubt he would of cared or listened really as its hard to change someones mind lol.

of course it's rat urine...i'd rather give birth to a flaming porcupine than drink anything made by Anheuser Busch..