Just to get it off my chest

[Ron AttyMizer]

what flavor from Halo would that be? sounds like something i would like to try

It may have been Freedom juice, if memory serves. With only a few drops and one or two hits, I doubt I could have recreated it. It seemed fairly complex (Duh, Ron, it's Halo!). Honestly though, that's never an interest of mine. A flavor can inspire another one, but I don't like the idea of jacking flavors. Ultimately, I think the customer and the mixologist would be disappointed! My goal was to make the best flavor I could to tide them over...and maybe win them over to a new vape. I did get a response the next day, saying they really liked what I had made, which was a good feeling. I've been lucky so far...I've had a couple of nice successes alongside the dismal failures. (It's going to be a lifelong process in that regard, but the want to get better is great!)

 

[Racehorse]

if people aren't going to be grateful, why the heck should I be so courteous!

Why? Because that is who YOU are. (a gentle reminder. )

I don't change based on how other people behave. That would make me a reactive person, just reacting all day long to "stimuli". I'm my own person.

I am courteous because I believe it is the best way and also because I try to cultivate virtues in myself (don't always succeed) that I think are beneficial.

TNT is generous. That is who he is. And yes, it was disappointing to not receive a thank you. maybe she was shocked, who knows.


But I think it is wrong to give any kind of gift with an expectation. A gift is freely given.

It wouldn't upset me THAT MUCH if somebody doesn't say thank you. That is on them, not me. I have my own path, they have theirs, I have enough of my own lessons to learn and practice and really don't have energy or time to worry about "what other people are doing or not doing." Once I got to that point things started to flow a lot better in my life.

Well, I'm not always on point, but I TRY to be that way. Annoyances are still there of course, I"m human, but I try not to get caught up in it. I am older though, in my 20s this stuff used to drive me batty.

I just know that i have way too much improving to do on myself to devote much thought to how others can improve themselves. Unless it's somebody in my immediate family who I have to deal with on a daily basis. Like mom. who I recently had to tell her she was bordering on stubborn in her old age, adn that is not a good trait. Her tenacity, in youth, while trying to support and raise 4 kids was good and an asset.......when no longer needed to do those things, it can turn in on itself, and just turn into stubborness, which is NOT good.

 

[Racehorse]

In other words, "to thine own self be true".

How many hundreds of years has passed and that is still a true-ism?

 

[Mountain_Rain96]

Ill just echo what many others have already said, that I'm a believer in karma, and it sounds like your balance is most likely in the + category.

 

[Koman]

Why? Because that is who YOU are. (a gentle reminder. )

I don't change based on how other people behave. That would make me a reactive person, just reacting all day long to "stimuli". I'm my own person.

I am courteous because I believe it is the best way and also because I try to cultivate virtues in myself (don't always succeed) that I think are beneficial.

TNT is generous. That is who he is. And yes, it was disappointing to not receive a thank you. maybe she was shocked, who knows.


But I think it is wrong to give any kind of gift with an expectation. A gift is freely given.

It wouldn't upset me THAT MUCH if somebody doesn't say thank you. That is on them, not me. I have my own path, they have theirs, I have enough of my own lessons to learn and practice and really don't have energy or time to worry about "what other people are doing or not doing." Once I got to that point things started to flow a lot better in my life.

Well, I'm not always on point, but I TRY to be that way. Annoyances are still there of course, I"m human, but I try not to get caught up in it. I am older though, in my 20s this stuff used to drive me batty.

I just know that i have way too much improving to do on myself to devote much thought to how others can improve themselves. Unless it's somebody in my immediate family who I have to deal with on a daily basis. Like mom. who I recently had to tell her she was bordering on stubborn in her old age, adn that is not a good trait. Her tenacity, in youth, while trying to support and raise 4 kids was good and an asset.......when no longer needed to do those things, it can turn in on itself, and just turn into stubborness, which is NOT good.

Well said, friend!

 

[jenmurray116]

Why? Because that is who YOU are. (a gentle reminder. )

I don't change based on how other people behave. That would make me a reactive person, just reacting all day long to "stimuli". I'm my own person.

I am courteous because I believe it is the best way and also because I try to cultivate virtues in myself (don't always succeed) that I think are beneficial.

TNT is generous. That is who he is. And yes, it was disappointing to not receive a thank you. maybe she was shocked, who knows.


But I think it is wrong to give any kind of gift with an expectation. A gift is freely given.

It wouldn't upset me THAT MUCH if somebody doesn't say thank you. That is on them, not me. I have my own path, they have theirs, I have enough of my own lessons to learn and practice and really don't have energy or time to worry about "what other people are doing or not doing." Once I got to that point things started to flow a lot better in my life.

Well, I'm not always on point, but I TRY to be that way. Annoyances are still there of course, I"m human, but I try not to get caught up in it. I am older though, in my 20s this stuff used to drive me batty.

I just know that i have way too much improving to do on myself to devote much thought to how others can improve themselves. Unless it's somebody in my immediate family who I have to deal with on a daily basis. Like mom. who I recently had to tell her she was bordering on stubborn in her old age, adn that is not a good trait. Her tenacity, in youth, while trying to support and raise 4 kids was good and an asset.......when no longer needed to do those things, it can turn in on itself, and just turn into stubborness, which is NOT good.

Love this!

OP, you did the right thing - you need to be true to who you are, and that is kind and generous. She seems to be to have bigger issues than a leaking vivi nova - that is who she is. Karma's already got her number.

After the Sandy Hook shootings My 13 year old asked if we could get involved in the 26 acts of kindness that was spreading like wildfire - I said yes, but that there shouldn't be a number on it. We just do random acts of kindness because it makes us feel good and you never know how it might have the power to change someone's day - and encourage them to do something nice for someone else. The best part is, we mostly never see the recipients reaction - we'll leave something somewhere, or money with a store clerk we trust (for example, one day I left $20 at the 7-11 that I go to every day so the clerk could buy coffee for the next 10+ people). I don't know how it made them feel, but I know my son felt happy/proud doing it. When he clears off his book shelves to donate, he doesn't know who is getting his books, but he knows he's giving a child a chance to enjoy something he's loved. That's the lesson I want him to learn.

Sometimes things happen, like your situation, but if everyone gave up trying to be kind, this world would be much worse off than it already is. I want to be able to go to sleep at night knowing that at least I tried.

 

[patkin]

I don't believe in consequence when it comes to a significant occurrence as well as some that don't seem significant at the time. There is a reason for the encounter that serves both of your needs and, possibly, those of others.

 

[Racehorse]

I don't believe in consequence when it comes to a significant occurrence as well as some that don't seem significant at the time. There is a reason for the encounter that serves both of your needs and, possibly, those of others.

Well said!

 

[tnt56]

The things we do for that warm fuzzy feeling.
Had another customer come in looking for Kanger T2 wicks. Well long story not so short is her kid took all her money. She doesn't know how to use an ATM. ( I personally will bash anyone that makes a comment about that. She is very elderly and just that way. But she has a heart of gold). I ask if I could try her T2. The wick wasn't burnt by any means. Just needed a good cleaning. Cleaned her tank and wick, filled up with her juice. She wanted to buy a 5ml bottle if atty cleaner. After about 20 minutes of going through her purse looking for $2.71 USD. I told her not to worry and she could pay the next time she came in. Her gratitude was enough for me.
A coworker was watching and staring. After the lady left I told the coworker to ring me up for a bottle of atty cleaner. Paid for it and told her if that lady ever came back to pay then pretend to charger her and drop the money in the PIF box.
I'm always amazed at the stories I hear and the help that I see my fellow workers picking up on and management following along with it.

The first post I did was just a vent. But since then, like a lot of my family here on ECF have pointed out
It always turns around for the best.
The more I get to know these people the better I feel about things.
Sometime we all just need that "Warm fuzzy feeling and realize we did make a difference in a persons life".
Take care all. This is gonna be a good day!

 

[MrStik]

I know exactly how you feel. This happens to me all the time and not necessarily in the vaping world. Frankly, it pisses me off! People just don't know how to say thank you! I let people go in traffic, or coming out of a driveway from a service station, and do I get a thank you... nooooo... not even a wave of appreciation! Leaves such a bad taste in my mouth that if people aren't going to be grateful, why the heck should I be so courteous!

Thanks for the thread, I needed to vent!

Rant off!

Look at it this way... The good deed itself should be thank you in itself as you are collecting karma points in life. And a verbal or visual thank you is bonus.

 

[Roccov]

Sometime we all just need that "Warm fuzzy feeling and realize we did make a difference in a persons life".
Take care all. This is gonna be a good day!

Just sharing this made a difference in my day. Thanks tnt sir.

 

[Leslv]

I had a similar experience but from the other side. Went to the vape shop to get some juice, like the 2nd time I had been there, and was so embarrassed when I was a couple of $$ short. At the store close to me if you pay cash over a certain $$ amount they throw in a 5 ml bottle for free. The nice man behind the counter said not to worry he would cover it, and gave me the freebe too. I made it a point to go back that same evening and pay him back and added a few $$ to the jar for good measure. I figure that way he would be happy to help the next person as well.

Good job. Glad you were the bigger person.

 

[tnt56]

Thanks for the replies to this thread. We after all are creatures that have developed a very unhealthy habit. If one person can help another, and then that person helps someone in need. Well you get the idea. It would be a wonderful world that we vape in.
When me and my Sweetie went to luch at a new restraunt today, the first thing I ask was if they allowed vaping.
The response was that the Manager hadn't said not to.
I politely ask the Lady if she would ask for his permission
She did and all was good. They support vapors.
I informed them all that I would post in a world wide site about their support.
You can find in in the Okie vapors site.
Karma always comes back around, Just like a ring. It's all round just like the world we live in.
Happy vaping to all.