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Good morning Diver, Fran and Bea. The sun is shining and it's going to be 87 and sunny today. Beautiful!
Our daughter and the boys are coming for a visit today. Can't wait to see Hux's reaction to the garden. Last time he was in it the plants were pretty small. Today he'll be able to harvest string beans, Kohlrabi and parsley.
Kate told me she bought some gummy worms for Hux the other day. Hux looked at them and said, "Dead worm. Nana, Pop Pop's house." Evidently he saw a dead worm on the sidewalk when he was here last. I'll never look at gummy worms the same way again.
Our daughter and the boys are coming for a visit today. Can't wait to see Hux's reaction to the garden. Last time he was in it the plants were pretty small. Today he'll be able to harvest string beans, Kohlrabi and parsley.
Kate told me she bought some gummy worms for Hux the other day. Hux looked at them and said, "Dead worm. Nana, Pop Pop's house." Evidently he saw a dead worm on the sidewalk when he was here last. I'll never look at gummy worms the same way again.
lol...
With the way my weak stomach revolts, I already looked at them that way...
Nix on the 'worms'...pass the gummy bears please....
Another of my Vandas opened yesterday!
Hola ..
Post 4th of July, with the Summer doldrums firmly in place, it's tough to muster up any excitement for me .. although I've got plenty of "to do" on the list, motivation is lacking ..
My long lost Aunt has been calling me about every other day, pestering me to visit her in Myrtle Beach .. I still don't know quite what to make of it .. I joined Ancestry with the intent of finding info about my Roots, then when I did, it's taken me for a Loop and I just don't know how to treat it ..
Post 4th of July, with the Summer doldrums firmly in place, it's tough to muster up any excitement for me .. although I've got plenty of "to do" on the list, motivation is lacking ..
My long lost Aunt has been calling me about every other day, pestering me to visit her in Myrtle Beach .. I still don't know quite what to make of it .. I joined Ancestry with the intent of finding info about my Roots, then when I did, it's taken me for a Loop and I just don't know how to treat it ..
Good morning, David and Willie
Go see your Aunt, Willie. It will be good for both of you.
I have tried to decide whether I would write about this, or not .. Fate has played a very cruel Joke on me and it's turned my Brain topsy turvy .. so, here goes :: Although I'd planned a lengthy Post on the details of things, in a nutshell ::
The Ancestry dna turned up my Aunt, who is in her 90's .. as well as her Son and his two Brothers, thusly, my Cousins .. that led to the Revelation that the man I knew as my Father for my entire life, was in fact, not my Biological Father .. when Ancestry mapped out the Regions of my dna, no info was shown based on where the man I knew as my Father and his people came from .. that was a tip off, but I just thought it was a fluke with Ancestry ..
That led to the revelation that my Biological Father was still living, in his Late 90's, deaf and under home nursing care, yet, from all accounts, still mentally lucid .. with his Family having declared him mentally incompetent and taken over all his business .. try as I might to get thru, that Family blocked me effectively during the 3-4 months that all this has been going on .. I was never able to reach him, try as I might .. I even used an Attorney and no solid paper trail could be reconstructed due to the length of time that had passed ..
My Biological Father was married twice, yet, I was, essentially, a ....... at birth .. his current Family was afraid I would attempt to stake some sort of claim on his Legacy, which turned out to be quite substantial ..
Then, my Biological Father passed on Sunday, June 30th ..
I'm quite emotional as I write this, because it makes me so, so sad .. I blame my Mother and the man I thought was my Father for never, ever, sitting me down and telling me the story, and giving me the opportunity to know the Man that is now gone .. I'll never have a chance to know him now .. people say, "Oh, Willie, your Mother and the man that raised you just thought they were doing the right thing" .. Well, no, how is it the Right Thing to deny someone the History of their true beginnings .. ??
I simply cannot come to grips with why, oh why, would Fate lead me in this direction and then, suddenly, jerk it all away .. I was getting close, so close ..
All I wanted, when it was all said and done, was to have a minute face to face .. and, from what I've been able to piece together, we were quite alike ..
I've faced many sad and unhappy events in my life, and this one ranks up there .. I now have another Story I'll take to the Grave that tells the tale of Loss, Heartache, What Could Have Been .. there have just been too many ..
Maybe a good reason to go to Myrtle Beach? Don't miss that chance, too... And she may be able to fill in some blanks regarding your father?
Whoa! What a story you just told us. To stumble across this part of your life through Ancestry and DNA, what a twist of fate. Then put the pieces of the puzzle together and come so close to meeting up with your biological father. So many questions and possibilities and what if's must be coursing through your mind.
It's no wonder you're feeling down and in the doldrums. You've got reason. I agree with David, a trip to Myrtle Beach may be worth it. If nothing else it will stop you from wondering something down they road, "I wonder if I should have made that trip". And maybe, just maybe she'll be able to fit some more pieces into your jigsaw puzzle of a life.
It's no wonder you're feeling down and in the doldrums. You've got reason. I agree with David, a trip to Myrtle Beach may be worth it. If nothing else it will stop you from wondering something down they road, "I wonder if I should have made that trip". And maybe, just maybe she'll be able to fit some more pieces into your jigsaw puzzle of a life.
I'm still going through a phase that makes me wish none of this had ever come up .. the only question I can't answer is Why did the perfect confluence of Fate lead me this way .. ??
And, that's just a piece of the Story .. I'd hoped when I decided to post it that I might get a little catharsis, but no ..
Fate leads us to a lot of places, Willie. Not all of them good. I agree with David and Mike.You should go see your Aunt before she's gone too.
I suspect the catharsis will come when you get to talk with your aunt.
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