Not that it happened, but how it happened

[Zyfity]

She's just ignorant about vaping. She probably doesn't know the effects of second hand vaping. What people don't know scares them. Personally, I would just tell her to go eat some more donuts, but maybe you should just tell her to call in before going in your office or just not go in at all.

 

[Kabooma]

REALLY? Then WHY did you bring it into the conversation in the first place?

Obviously, instead of dealing with the matter at hand, (your vaping and an employee being against it) you CHOSE to bring her weight into the conversation, which has NADA to do with the situation. None at all.

If she had bad teeth, or thinning hair, you would have made fun of her for that. Not very adult.

I do find it rather humorous that she is described as passive aggressive after seeing some of the comments on her weight here though.

If this is the way "executive" level employees problem-solve, I'd say there's some distinct lack of training or experience or personal growth going on here.

I'm going to stand by my statements on this one. She made the topic about "health", not me. Her 'lifestyle' at work is quite clearly the opposite of what most of us would consider healthy. I changed my life when I quit smoking, from unhealthy and overweight to health(ier), now active and fit, and at my target weight. I did it without having to tell my co-workers not to eat donuts in their office. THAT'S caring about your health.

 

[Racehorse]

Most of my ejuice has strong scents.

Respect you for the respect you give your job, and the elderly there. I really can't imagine vaping away at a retirement or nursing home esp. not in situation you describe---Seems like flavoring smells and vapor clouds, even if smallish, would not be at all appropriate in that setting, and you made that call which is very professional.

 

[Woofer]

I really can't imagine vaping away at a retirement or nursing home esp.

Think of the children! I can imagine and will if and when I am confined to a nursing home.

 

[Racehorse]

Woofer, I believe Angel expressed that she is an employee of the home....not a client.

 

[Woofer]

Woofer, I believe Angel expressed that she is an employee of the home....not a client.

Yeah I know, just looking at the other side.

 

[Ryedan]

The most unfortunate part of this situation is simply that now that she has 'leverage' over me about this vaping issue, it becomes a political problem if I ever attempt to address her attitude problem, even with her superiors or HR, because she can and will claim that I'm retaliating because she complained about me.

So now I get to walk on eggshells around her. While she scowls at me.

This is a vaping forum and I try to stick to that topic (mostly ), but I get the feeling the biggest part of this issue is the part of your post I quoted above.

I can't help but think you must have experience in dealing with difficult people and in problem solving. If I were in your situation I would use the tools I know and the resources at my disposal to deal with it as best I could. And then move on to more important things

I've always felt the less emotion I put into business decisions the better the outcome was for me. I don't know how much leverage she has over you now, I'm in Canada and the political and legal situation could be very different here, but it doesn't seem to me that you have much to worry about if you handle things the right way.