"Offensive" Odors

[Menolly]

So it turns out that my fiancé finds the odor from my e-cig "disgusting", and has disallowed using them inside the apartment. He says it smells too much like scented candles- very artificial and nausea-inducing. And I was so looking forward to not being confined to the "smoking section" on my porch!

Yet he enjoys the smell of his own tobacco smoke... Even as a smoker I disliked the smell and flavor of tobacco (I would always go for the mintiest menthol available).

Are there any flavors that are known to be odorless? I mean, other than flavorless. Hmm...maybe I should try vaping some pure PG and see if he complains about that too.

 

[CssReb]

Are you saying he's smoking analogs and that's ok but your vaping is not ok?

How to train your man

Step1 When your man does something you don't like, don't nag him to death with your words. Clearly state in 2-3 sentences your issue. If he wants to talk about it, you've got a good man. Discuss it with him. If he doesn't you're going to have to train him.

Step2 After you've stated your issue, walk away. Most men don't think on their feet, so you shouldn't really expect a well thought out response. Give him the silent treatment for 1-2days. The whole time he will be thinking about what you said. If he doesn't call you during this time, your man does not want nor deseve you...kick him to the curb.

Step3 After you have given him the silent treatment for a day or so, call him or go to his house when it's convenient for you. Do not bring up the issue...if he asks where you have been just tell him you were busy. If he brings up the issue, just listen, DO NOT SAY ANYTHING even if he is wrong. A few nods and uh-huhs will suffice to let him know you are listening. Most men already know when they've done wrong, so if your man is bullheaded and doesn't want to admit it, guilt him by not acting in the way he would expect you to:nagging and argumentative. At the end of the conversation, wether you agree with him or not, say: I'm glad you told me how you feel. Now because I listened to you I need you to listen to me... If he tries to interrupt you, remind him of how you listened to him, but do not raise you voice at any cost!

Step4 Most likely your man will never commit his heinous act again, but if he is crazy enough to go there, repeat the steps again. This time stay silent for 2-3 days. In the end, you will find out if your man is just a bullheaded jerk that you need to let go, or if your man truly cares about you. The thing is a man will care more for a woman that is strong enough to stand firm in her beliefs. If he doesn't that he isn't the man for you.

 

[2kool2]

That's what I would do. My mother lives with me and she has the nose of a bird dog and never has said anything about the smell.So, I think he is trying to pull one on you.E-cigs have no smell..

 

[Nuck]

Step 1...find someone less controlling.

Step 2...go to Step 1

 

[CssReb]

Step 1...find someone less controlling.

Step 2...go to Step 1

That was my initial thought

 

[Nuck]

That was my initial thought

Haha...I couldn't even post my initial thought

 

[wv2win]

I am a guy and I think your "man" is a control freak who needs to "get a life".

 

[Alpine77]

I will have to second just about everyone in here. Seriously, next you wont be able to take a dump because he finds the odor "offensive".

 

[Nick O'Teen]

I don't believe your fiance - my wife is incredibly anti-smoking, has a very keen sense of smell, and hasn't noticed that I'm now smoking indoors (as well as the obligatory high-profile trips to the garden "for a smoke", to keep up the illusion )
Unless you're vaping something really pongy, there's no way he can be detecting a significant smell, especially if he's a smoker himself. I smoke Janty oriental and TW french pipe in the house with no problem, and though my wife could smell the violet flavouring I experimented with, this is a familiar smell for her (I make my own liqueurs, and creme de violette is a favourite of mine - just leaving a bottle of the concentrate open reeks quite quickly.)

Maybe he's feeling threatened and defensive because he'll be left combusting alone, now you've upgraded your habit? So he hopes if you're banished, you'll quit vaping and come back to analogues? It's a theory anyway.

 

[JustJulie]

My husband, who has never smoked, loathes the smell of tobacco. He is so happy I'm vaping, and he's very supportive, even as I spend an obscene amount of money trying new toys and liquids.

Early on, I asked him whether he found the smell offensive. Strangely enough, he does not. He said there is an odor, but it is light, dissipates quickly, and is not at all offensive . . . except for when I tried my Janty rum cartridge, which he found disgusting. That's okay . . . I did, too.

I've been married for 25 years, and I have one word of advice--a good marriage requires compromise. Even though my husband doesn't seem to mind my vaping, when I am around him, I consciously try not to produce excess vapor. I don't "stealth vape" where I hold in my vapor until it almost completely dissipates, but I do hold it in a bit so that I'm not producing clouds of vapor.

If your fiance basically won't let you vape at all indoors but he's a smoker, I just don't know what to tell you. It doesn't seem right at all. Frankly, someone who is that unbending, I'd be seriously thinking that might be the harbinger of things to come.

 

[tribalmasters]

I am so glad I am gay

 

[CssReb]

I am so glad I am gay

So are we

 

[entropic]

i'm not one of these vaper's who has tried loads of flavours but I found e-cigs.co.uk 'Usa Blend' had very little smell comparatively (something like totally wickeds virginia on the other hand is at the other end of the scale with lots of smell). Unfortunately despite its title it's not available in the US but maybe someone who tried something similar or knows what flavour it actually uses.

After I gave up smoking I realised what a disgusting smell it produced, how my x's put it up with it I'll never know.

 

[JeremyJames]

If you need a new man hit me up, I am single and I dont care what you do, you can even boss me around lol

BTW I think he is full of it, I smoke at my office which is a small room that barely holds like 20 of us all side by side and nobody even knows I vape, even though I do it right there in the office when everyones back is turned. Its in his head or he is full of it, one or the other.

 

[OutWest]

if it's a really strong flavor, then i can see there being a little bit of smell. The most smell, though, would be from when you have the bottle open.

Otherwise, it's something else, such as fear of you leaving him now that youre a non-smoker. And I agree with others, if he's smoking analogs, then his sense of smell has got to be severly dulled and cant imagine him smelling the vape. I wouldnt allow myself to be banned from vaping in my own home, especially when the other one is smoking. Best of luck with it.

 

[QueenInNC]

Tribal...you are a mess!

Well said, Julie!!!

My husband has never smoked. When I smoked analogs, he found the smell very disgusting but since I have been vaping, he has not said a word! I really believe that there is no smell but if there IS, is is so minimal compared to your man's analog smell!!! I would have to tell him that it may be his own stench that he is bothered by.

 

[Wildsky]

I'm with everyone else.

My hubby quit smoking almost 10 years ago, and since that time I smoked outside. I now vape inside the house and he can't smell a thing, I even vape in the car with him and he hasn't said a word!

Your man is full of .... I'm afraid.

 

[e-pipeman]

There may be a very faint - VERY faint- smell with some of the more fragrant vapes. This however will normally be masked by any household smell (cooking etc). You would really have to concentrate to smell it.

Maybe the man feels that his "tobacco" is threatened by your e-cig?

It's a tough one.

 

[The Wiz]

So it turns out that my fiancé finds the odor from my e-cig "disgusting", and has disallowed using them inside the apartment. He says it smells too much like scented candles- very artificial and nausea-inducing. And I was so looking forward to not being confined to the "smoking section" on my porch!

Yet he enjoys the smell of his own tobacco smoke... Even as a smoker I disliked the smell and flavor of tobacco (I would always go for the mintiest menthol available).

Are there any flavors that are known to be odorless? I mean, other than flavorless. Hmm...maybe I should try vaping some pure PG and see if he complains about that too.

I try not to get involved with domestic disputes but in your case Menolly....Instead if switching "Flavors" you might want to consider swithching Fiance's....Seems pretty insensative to me( In my humble opinion)....Other than that you might want to try a Menthol..seems to be the most "odorless" of the e-liquids out there...Good Luck!The Wiz!

 

[mizmare]

my experience has been the same as Wild... my BF even commented that he couldn't smell it. I think he was surprised.