ProVarinati Diner & Saloon and Beyond

[GeekyGeezer]

I found out that gold diggers don't necessarily fit the image that comes to mind when you hear the term.

My mother's side of the family came from a pretty isolated section of the Ozarks. There was no industry and the land was much too hilly and rocky to farm. So if you didn't raise livestock of some sort there weren't a lot of options to make any money.

I don't know if they exist in other parts of the country, but there were quite a few women (not being sexist, that's just the way it was) who managed to live pretty well by latching onto people who had money or property. Classic gold digger, right? Yeah, but with a twist. They'd find an older person with no family or no one who stepped up and then "help out the old folks" They got free rent, food, and everything else needed to live. And as their charges passed away, they'd move on to the next person.

I'm not describing a professional caregiver. Every one of them managed to get wills signed or amended making them the sole beneficiary. And I never once heard of one filling the role with a poor person.

 

[Frenchfry1942]

 

[ENAUD]

I found out that gold diggers don't necessarily fit the image that comes to mind when you hear the term.

My mother's side of the family came from a pretty isolated section of the Ozarks. There was no industry and the land was much too hilly and rocky to farm. So if you didn't raise livestock of some sort there weren't a lot of options to make any money.

I don't know if they exist in other parts of the country, but there were quite a few women (not being sexist, that's just the way it was) who managed to live pretty well by latching onto people who had money or property. Classic gold digger, right? Yeah, but with a twist. They'd find an older person with no family or no one who stepped up and then "help out the old folks" They got free rent, food, and everything else needed to live. And as their charges passed away, they'd move on to the next person.

I'm not describing a professional caregiver. Every one of them managed to get wills signed or amended making them the sole beneficiary. And I never once heard of one filling the role with a poor person.

It's not just women...I had an uncle who was a "confirmed bachelor". In his retirement years he moved south to here in NC, and had a nice small house in Elizabeth City. Got word from my other uncle who lived in the same county, that Unk had a live in "friend". He was a much younger man, and also owned his own house, but was living with my uncle and caring for him, as he was getting on in years and had some mobility and other health issues. When my Uncle died, my other uncle was the executor, and tried to evict said "helper", but was informed that because he had been living there, he had to serve legal papers and a certain time frame was required to expedite his eviction. There was no mention of this person in the will, and he had no legal right to any property or finances. He drained the checking account immediately, and secreted most anything of value and family heirlooms out of the house and sold them all off. Many things not of any material value he had simply carted off to the dump...there was no legal recourse, nothing could be proven without a proper documentation of inventory of contents, which was impossible because he had changed the locks as soon as my uncle passed...it took months for his brother to wrangle through the legal system and finally get this guy out of the picture.

My uncle hired a private investigator, and discovered that this guy was a serial Perpetrator of this kind of exploitation, probably how he got ownership of the house he was not living in...it's a strange world we live in...

 

[Hobbs]

Mason is the only purebred and registered dog I've ever owned. Currently my other dog, Sugar, was adopted from a local humane society rescue and is of unknown origin and pedigree.

 

[Bronze]

Mason is the only purebred and registered dog I've ever owned. Currently my other dog, Sugar, was adopted from a local humane society rescue and is of unknown origin and pedigree.

I generally prefer mutts but there are enough purebreds that are outstanding pets too. Polly Purebred was pretty hot for a dog.

 

[CMD-Ky]

There are no gold diggers anymore. The internet says so.

And with that, the discussion ends.

 

[CMD-Ky]

I generally prefer mutts but there are enough purebreds that are outstanding pets too. Polly Purebred was pretty hot for a dog.

Underdog, still makes me chuckle.

 

[CMD-Ky]

Sad, very

It's not just women...I had an uncle who was a "confirmed bachelor". In his retirement years he moved south to here in NC, and had a nice small house in Elizabeth City. Got word from my other uncle who lived in the same county, that Unk had a live in "friend". He was a much younger man, and also owned his own house, but was living with my uncle and caring for him, as he was getting on in years and had some mobility and other health issues. When my Uncle died, my other uncle was the executor, and tried to evict said "helper", but was informed that because he had been living there, he had to serve legal papers and a certain time frame was required to expedite his eviction. There was no mention of this person in the will, and he had no legal right to any property or finances. He drained the checking account immediately, and secreted most anything of value and family heirlooms out of the house and sold them all off. Many things not of any material value he had simply carted off to the dump...there was no legal recourse, nothing could be proven without a proper documentation of inventory of contents, which was impossible because he had changed the locks as soon as my uncle passed...it took months for his brother to wrangle through the legal system and finally get this guy out of the picture.

My uncle hired a private investigator, and discovered that this guy was a serial Perpetrator of this kind of exploitation, probably how he got ownership of the house he was not living in...it's a strange world we live in...

 

[Bronze]

Polly Purebred was pretty hot for a dog.

I guess that makes her a hot dog.

 

[Hobbs]

Speaking of adopted rescues, was Sugar's turn to stand the watch at Fort Picnic this afternoon

 

[Hobbs]

UP in the Diner ~~~
* Apologies and Commiserations to those who don't eat pork *
Pork Shumai Meatballs with Ponzu Dipping Sauce and Snap Peas ... Bon Appetit

 

[CMD-Ky]

I generally prefer mutts but there are enough purebreds that are outstanding pets too. Polly Purebred was pretty hot for a dog.

Both of our beasts have come from pounds, they are dogs of great consequence. [They have no idea how good they have it.]

 

[stols001]

Our Austrailan cattle dog (technically she was a cross between a red and blue heeler) was the prettiest dog we ever owned. Strangers would want to buy her etc. She was also a bit, well, impulsive might be one way to put it. Got into some chocolate chips while my back was turned she almost died but I think it fried the "self-preservation" part of her brain. Super smart, way crazy,

You would be better served selling your estate and hiring someone to care for her, then hiring a private detective to watch that person, then.... How long to cats live again?

My mom got hosed by a kind woman "taking people in" and found out about it purely by accident. She got a lawyer and won.

I have to say I have little sympathy for my mon because a) she was letting a "kind stranger" look after her dying husband because she did not want to and b) said she would "prosecute the whole way to help others, but didn't."

My mom was not super happy when I was like, "Yes, mom, well, not only did that woman SORT of earn that money and you KNOW it was a drop in the bucket of your estate, well, I'M SORRY think about what a great time my stepdad had in her care, I'm sure it wasn't stellar. I mean, he was parked on a bed in the garage IIRC.

No red flags, really? You lie.

To be fair, my stepfather was also pretty domestically violent for a long time, but you divorce that person, you don't NEGLECT that person and then profit from his death.

Oh well, I guess some people do.

Yes, the kid called me back, he took trazadone last night because he could not sleep. He needs to like lock up that phone when he does that (it is prescribed) it makes him super loopy. Etc.

But he called to say I was great. I think he means it.

Then again, I called my mom and said more or less the same. LOL. She is mostly pretty great, that was just a Bad Relationship All Round.

Also she was pretty "handsy" for a mom. Kismet, fate, who knows? Still mostly /pretty great.

Walmart was easy I got cake for coworkers, and I tried on a pair of men's grey slacks. Don't ask. I must need to get out more. That or realize the functionality of my day depends on the time I bathe the human.

Anna

 

[Katdarling]

Ahh........ Sunday nites in Pro'Nutti'Ville.

If I am alone, and I have pets. I may specifically request that well, they eat me. I'd be far more likely to have foster kids though, and most of them have been through far worse than like, a death. They'd be likely to call 911 especially if I instruct them to.
But if it's a pet, I sincerely hope they get a few days to eat me first.

 

[YePsTeR]

 

[ENAUD]

Not so bad really...a mind can be a terrible thing!

 

[440BB]

I may have lost my mind - I bought a Smok product. My only excuse is that it was $10.

Confirming the diagnosis, I bought a squonker too.

This is what happens when my wife is away and I am left on my own.

 

[rosesense]

I just bought 2 squonkers, must have felt the need for a new rabbit hole.

And a pumper lol

 

[Bronze]

I may have lost my mind - I bought a Smok product. My only excuse is that it was $10.

Confirming the diagnosis, I bought a squonker too.

This is what happens when my wife is away and I am left on my own.

In other words, it's her fault.

 

[Hobbs]

been trying to put this thing together