I like to have a drink or a few from time to time myself. I usually vape 12mg unflavored in a Nautilus2 @ around 15w for those times. Works for me... 
Ummm.... I am a woman who BBQ's (shock and awe!!) I learned from my mom... Who was born and raised in NY... Just sayin' don't bite off more 'n what you can chew... I might be a born and bred southern redneck... But don't go tossing words about Yanks like that... I'm a fierce 'Mama Defender'.I'm calling BS. New Yorkers are constitutionally incapable of knowing how to BBQ. I think you mean your grill. And if it's a gas grill, it's constitutionally incapable of producing BBQ that a self-respecting feral cat would even sniff at.
Which reminds me... I picked up some hardwood smoke flavoring that I use in my DIY clone of Johnson Creek's Red Oak Domestic, and that stuff really adds the kind of throat hit @DeAnna2112 might be looking for.
[he says, deftly swinging back on topic]
incapable of producing BBQ that a self-respecting feral cat would even sniff at.
I don't know why but vaping doesn't cut it when i drink. I love my jim beam when i am off work. It relaxes me and i just enjoy it on my weekends off. I deal with alot of stress at work as i am in the medical field and work for a gastroenterologist office. I am a doctor's assistant and i deal with soo much stuff, including surgery back logs to translate. I have to tell patients whether they have cancer or not and read biopsy reports. It's incredibly stressful when i have to give bad news, it's me calling the patient with bad news. It's me who sets up a referral to a oncologist. I have to make sure their insurance will be covered by who i refer them to. It's me all the patients turn to when meds don't work out and it's me who calls in their prescriptions to fix it. I have to get it right with no mistakes as it's me who generally ask for doctor approval for what i think will work best for them..yeah i know what??but you guys don't know who really works behind the scenes when the doctor is most days performing surgery and busy. Just a taste of what i deal with. But drinking just makes me crave a cig still to this day. Anyone else deal with this? tips..suggestions? Please don't tell me to give up my jim beam. It's the one escape that keeps me sane on weekends after working all week. I almost gave in the other day when i had more patients then normal to call with bad news. In spite of all i have to deal with all week i have to be a counselor to these patients when i give them bad news, plus be a single parent on top of it to teenagers who still have not accepted their dad's death, something i still grieve. Maybe i just haven't found the right flavor to compliment what i drink..anyone drink jim beam and found a flavor that goes well with it. I am a trebeca person, don't like fruity flavors. Makes my mouth taste like cotton candy before i finish the tank and that gets old real fast for my taste buds.
DeAnna, your job sounds horribly stressful and home too. I do understand some of the stressors you face, having to give someone horrible news, seeing clients sent to jail or even die from time to time is just horrible for me. It's one reason that my docs wanted me to take a break and take it easy-- my title is therapist but our case managers are just horrible and not well educated, so I end up doing waayyy more work than my job position "suggests." There are times it just sucks.
I don't know if you've ever tried WTA juice, but maybe, since you are able to get through every other situation without it, I might consider getting some and JUST using it when you are drinking. You could certainly up your nicotine and finding a good flavor to go with Jim Beam is a good idea too, but I don't think I'll ever be without my tank with a little WTA in it for stressful situations. MAOIs in tobacco alkaloids are really potent anti-stress, and anti-depressant little suckers. I was worried about WTA to start with but I do find that when I only use it during INSANE cravings or stressors, it's not hard at all to transition back to just nicotine with NO effort. I kind of look at it as my "ace in the hole". Aroma ejuice has wholesale which is unflavored, as well as a range of different e-liquids. Mother's Milk also sells WTA wholesale for less $$ as well as a range of WTA juices. They are less pricy, and I have ordered some but not tried it yet, so I can't speak to its potency. I really think that this might be a time that it could be helpful, when you are wanting to de-stress and need that "something extra." I think higher nic is a great idea as well, and if there's a flavor you like you may want to reserve it for just the evenings you drink ETOH, so that you kind of "associate" them together.
Best of luck, and I'm sorry your life situation is so stressful, it sounds like you have a huge amount of responsibility.
Anna
My daughter is a CMA, (was an IDMT in the Air Force & flew AeroMed) so I know about the stress.
Point blank ... drinking only adds to the stress. It's still there when your head clears, and you still need to process it like everyone else.
Seriously, if you want to have a drink, have one for me too. Unfortunately I drank up my share years ago.
Thanks everyone for your suggestions as i am looking into many of them. You've all been a big help I am very determined though to not go back to smoking. It was so hard to quit and don't want to go back through that nightmare again, especially when i love vaping outside of drinking. Something about drinking just triggers that urge i do not normally have when i am not drinking. Gonna try out WTA and also some of the flavors that have been recommended in this thread.
As of the last few days, I found adding 4-5 drops of Dekang Cohiba 16mg to my everyday vape keeps the flavor changing.... For the better.