Hi bestthingever,
My wife had a similar experience as she was intimidated by handguns period and would refuse to go to the range with me.
She was introduced a few years before we met to large caliber handguns (.357mag-.44mag) heavy and ergonomically uncomfortable for her.
I explained to her that
1. The Firearm has to fit her hand comfortably.
2. She needs a caliber that she can control (recoil). I also asked her if the firearm was something she wanted to CCW (carry concealed weapon) or just a range pistol. She wanted a dual duty firearm(CCW, Range).
Here is a partial list of semi auto pistols that we tested:
- Sig Sauer p239
[*]Kahr K9
[*]Glock 19
[*]Walther PPK
[*]Sig-Sauer P232
I actually had her first shoot my revolver GP100 with 38. Special ammo just to get her reintroduced to firearms, its heavy but recoil is minimal...Pure Butter
Here is a list of her Pros and Cons from each pistol tested:
>Sig Sauer p239: Caliber 9mm =
Pro: Loves the thin profile, Sights, ergos, trigger feel.
Cons: Price, Heavy, Holds 8 rounds without Magazine extender.
>Kahr K9: Caliber 9mm=
Pro: Loves the thin profile and ergos, compact, natural point of aim,
Cons: DAO, Price and she did not like the stock sights.
>Glock 19: Caliber 9mm=
Pro: Price, Weight, Holds 15+rounds.
Cons: Awkward thick grip, plastic sights, trigger feel, she did not like a striker type firearm.
>Walther PPK: Caliber .380 ACP=
Pro: Sexy looks
Cons: She did not have fun firing this one due to recoil and muzzle flip. She said James Bond can keep it..LOL
>Sig-Sauer P232: Caliber .380 ACP=
Pro: Ergos, weight.
Cons: price, recoil, caliber and magazine release style.
Ultimately she picked the Kahr K-9 for its size, weight, caliber and is able to CCW comfortably.
I buy new and pre-loved firearms, if you find a model that you have decided on but is a bit pricey new, search local Gun Stores for consignments, local Gun shows etc. I highly recommend that you take a self defense class first and then go to a local firing range with your husband and rent and fire several firearms before purchase. Also take into consideration the firearms main duty? Is it Range, CCW? If just range duty, I have a completely different list..
I told my wife for home defense grab my Remington 870 SG, the simple racking sound will put fear in most would be intruders
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Good Luck and keep us posted!
Just my 2 cents
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