I have always felt that it is better to encourage people to go TOWARD something, than away from something. Reward them for moving toward healthier lifestyles.
I believe that works w/raising kids, too. Avoiding punishment is not as psychologiclally healthy as moving toward good behavior.
I know people who say they are "against war." I think it is better to just be "for" peace.
It seems very unhealthy and stressful to me that people are always saying what they're against, and it's like beating heads against wall, and it causes them to be *angry*. Whereas, if the paradigm changed and people could focus on what they what they are *for*, then they have a much more positive outlook and positive path ahead of them in life.
I really dislike being around *angry* people. They're such a downer.