Just to be clear, I wouldn't advocate hiding smoking from your kids either. My kids are very much aware that I smoke. I just chose not to smoke(or vape) around them or my wife, just as I chose not to do it indoors.
vaping in front of your kids
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Im on board with the concerns......Midget is 18 months and once in a while will see my Tornado or juicebox and make a little blowing sound, not good. We really try not to vape around him at all.
But I do remember being 14 and placating the constant attempts of my mother not to smoke. Its a way off but if Midge puts up the fight I did then vaping may be the way to push if the battle not to fails. I have some time until that battle.
But I do remember being 14 and placating the constant attempts of my mother not to smoke. Its a way off but if Midge puts up the fight I did then vaping may be the way to push if the battle not to fails. I have some time until that battle.
I vape around my kids (8 and 10)...but i also smoked around them. I went outside to smoke, but they were there and knew about it. I now vape inside my home. My son was actually half of the reason i started to vape. He heard about it from his Dad and stepmom and started asking me if I would switch to "the electronic cigarettes". He was so proud when he found out I switched.
I really have no valid opinion to offer here, although i do understand the concerns of many
It was my 36 year old "kid" who helped lead me to vaping as I joined her in the journey.
I have vaped around the children of friends and family, but only after getting thier approval if in their house or another's home.
In my home, if other's bring their children there, we explain the device to them, then vape away, giving them an opportunity to explain to the children. Those who visit brought their children when we were smoking, so I don't get too worked up about it, as long as they know about it beforehand.
It was my 36 year old "kid" who helped lead me to vaping as I joined her in the journey.
I have vaped around the children of friends and family, but only after getting thier approval if in their house or another's home.
In my home, if other's bring their children there, we explain the device to them, then vape away, giving them an opportunity to explain to the children. Those who visit brought their children when we were smoking, so I don't get too worked up about it, as long as they know about it beforehand.
My kids are little - 5 & 2. I never smoked in my house, but in the summer time I did/do smoke outside and they've seen me smoke. My 5 yr old worries me, she thinks it's cool that the e-cig lights up and asks to see it all the time. I've explained to her what it is and that is not a toy, it's something to help me not smoke. I keep my stuff where they can't get at it and I don't vape in the house because we've never smoked in our house.
My biggest worry is that my daughter would maybe want to try it thinking it's cool, so I've made it very clear what it is and that it is only for adults. Kids are going to see us do all kinds of things that they shouldn't do - alcohol for instance. I think it does more harm to sheild them from all the dangerous things out there, it's better to have open and honest conversations about it. And, I agree with what someone else said - our kids are taught at a very young age that smoking is the devil. If we as parents explain the truth, and try to keep our kids from ever smoking in the first place, we've done the best we can.
My biggest worry is that my daughter would maybe want to try it thinking it's cool, so I've made it very clear what it is and that it is only for adults. Kids are going to see us do all kinds of things that they shouldn't do - alcohol for instance. I think it does more harm to sheild them from all the dangerous things out there, it's better to have open and honest conversations about it. And, I agree with what someone else said - our kids are taught at a very young age that smoking is the devil. If we as parents explain the truth, and try to keep our kids from ever smoking in the first place, we've done the best we can.
Just a thought.....is there shame involved in vaping? Maybe left over from our years of smoking?
All those years of getting 'the look' from people. All the nasty comments. It did tend to wear on me, even though I pretended it didn't and I always have enjoyed 'ruffling a few feathers'
All those years of getting 'the look' from people. All the nasty comments. It did tend to wear on me, even though I pretended it didn't and I always have enjoyed 'ruffling a few feathers'
I smoked outside and am enjoying vaping inside. I am not going to get into a debate over kids emulating parents, but my kids are 9 and 11 and have been MUCH happier since I quit smoking. I have also started dieting which I NEVER would have done while smoking. The exercising would kill me. LOL. Anyway, I talk to BOTH my kids about smoking and vaping and they are glad to see daddy doing something better for himself, but also know that vaping is not the best thing for you either. I have spoken to them about Nicotine and how addicting it is and BOTH have said they will neither start smoking or vaping. Only time will tell if I did MY job right in educating them. I hope I did.
I do vape around my kids. Often I go to another room, because what I want from vaping is also the break, but they follow me sometimes. I just set it down and attend to their needs and when they are busy, go back to it. They are 5 and 3 now. I have always gone outside to smoke, and they knew where I was and what I was doing. I am not worried about the exhaled vapor if they walk in the room after I vape, but I do worry about the example I am setting. It's better than smoking, but still, not cool. They express passing interest once in a while, but I have explained it the same way I have alcohol, that it's for adults. They tell me now that it's for grown ups. I have tried to explain that I do this instead of smoking, but it seems kind of lost on them at this age. I will continue to address it openly and honestly as they get older and ask questions. I admire those who do not vape in front of their kids. As mine get older, and when I finally stop having one or two analogs a day, I will work on vaping less often so that I can do that too. But my first goal has to be weaning down the analogs and if vaping more often accomplishes that, then I see it as baby steps in the right direction for the time being. All my supplies are out of their reach and I don't talk about it to them other than to express that it's for adults, can be dangerous, and to stay out of it, the same as with alcohol, medications, vitamins, and cleaning products.
Thats what I was thinking.
It seems the more I ever hid anything from the kids, the more they found it. All of my kids that are teens went through the, I am gonna snoop in everything when Mom isnt looking phase. They found some things they didnt necessarily want to see LOL and some they did want to see. My ex use to confiscate dirty movies from vendors at a flea market, he was the manager and dirty movies were not allowed in plain view there. He had a suitcase of them that he had collected from people. We kept them under the bed, in the suitcase. Low and behold one of the kids found them and started calling all the 900#'s on the back. That is just one of the examples I could give.
Just to be clear, I do not advocate hiding your vaping from your kids. It's just in poor form to do it openly in front of them on a regular basis.
I'm sure he kept them under the bed because it was much safer than putting them in a dumpster or simply destroying them
Thank god for the porn police
I guess my story is a little different. One of the reasons I started vaping is so that I could vape in front of the kids. Now before you flame me and call me a turd you have to understand.
My 10 year old son has been hitting me heavy with the ALA info he gets from school. At his prompting I had made several attempts to quit. Not a conversation between us about smokeing does not include , "The single worst mistake I have made in my entire life was to start smoking" He hears this from me several time's a week.
My 8 yr old daughter is Autistic. She is completely without fear. She will climb the pourch railing, walk out to the road in only her panties, and dump out the entire contents under our sinks or cabnets to use as make up or paint. As her intelect grows so are the risks she is able to take. Can unlock doors, reach alarms ect.
Before vaping I had to be outside where I could watch her through a window. Or in the basement quitely listening to the floor and following her around. Keeping a dish of water handy to quickly extengiush my cig if needed.
Now I can stay by her side. Play or sit with her for hours/days. The value of being able to vape is invaluable. I can now address her challenging behavior's before they have the opportunity to escalate into a dramatic high intensity situation.
I agree with the other poster who said its most important to teach them how to make reasoned, educated decisions. IMO I make mistakes maybe its OK for them to know that. I also accept responsibility on try not to make excuses for the mistakes I've made.
Ultimately you have to do what feels right for you. For me its more important to be with them than to hide something from them.
My 10 year old son has been hitting me heavy with the ALA info he gets from school. At his prompting I had made several attempts to quit. Not a conversation between us about smokeing does not include , "The single worst mistake I have made in my entire life was to start smoking" He hears this from me several time's a week.
My 8 yr old daughter is Autistic. She is completely without fear. She will climb the pourch railing, walk out to the road in only her panties, and dump out the entire contents under our sinks or cabnets to use as make up or paint. As her intelect grows so are the risks she is able to take. Can unlock doors, reach alarms ect.
Before vaping I had to be outside where I could watch her through a window. Or in the basement quitely listening to the floor and following her around. Keeping a dish of water handy to quickly extengiush my cig if needed.
Now I can stay by her side. Play or sit with her for hours/days. The value of being able to vape is invaluable. I can now address her challenging behavior's before they have the opportunity to escalate into a dramatic high intensity situation.
I agree with the other poster who said its most important to teach them how to make reasoned, educated decisions. IMO I make mistakes maybe its OK for them to know that. I also accept responsibility on try not to make excuses for the mistakes I've made.
Ultimately you have to do what feels right for you. For me its more important to be with them than to hide something from them.
I talked to my teenage son about me starting on e-cig and at first he was upset at me. He did not want Mom to just switch to another type of cig.
I had to explain to him that it was not like smoking anymore, there was no smoke it was vaper. I had to go into the whys and how it works but once I did that he agreed with me that it is no different than using a patch.
He is now happy about me starting this ( if and when my kit comes
) just as long as mom quits smoking and with the e-cig I will.
I had to explain to him that it was not like smoking anymore, there was no smoke it was vaper. I had to go into the whys and how it works but once I did that he agreed with me that it is no different than using a patch.
He is now happy about me starting this ( if and when my kit comes
) just as long as mom quits smoking and with the e-cig I will.
Some of the posts here have been incredibly judgemental about how others are raising their kids. While I don't think any of us should be vaping and blowing the vapor at our kids while saying, "Oh, this strawberry cheesecake is sooo delicious!" I do think we are each capable of knowing our kids and knowing how our relationships with them work best.
I have chosen not to try to hide my stuggles while quitting smoking and not to hide my success with vaping. I'm pretty sure my kids have learned more from watching me try over and over before finally succeeding than they would have if I'd hidden the entire process. But that's just me and my kids. I'd never call you trashy if your choice is different.
I have chosen not to try to hide my stuggles while quitting smoking and not to hide my success with vaping. I'm pretty sure my kids have learned more from watching me try over and over before finally succeeding than they would have if I'd hidden the entire process. But that's just me and my kids. I'd never call you trashy if your choice is different.
Yes, I vap inside the house. But I started smoking back when dinosaurs roamed the earth and smoking was cool. If tobacco was the only thing you smoked you were a square. (I wasn't a square).
Now I am in my 50's and kids are grown, I still smoked and still inside the house. My way of looking at things, I go to your house, I abide by your rules. (go outside to smoke). My house, I pay the bills, my rules.
Now I have a 3 yr old g-daughter that lives with me. She would ask (tell! she is 3 after all) me to put out my analog from time to time because it bothered her.
She is an extremely happy camper now that I have quit analogs and only vap. She understands that Nana does this instead of smoking and appreciates it. Does it effect her? I think not nearly as much as my smoking did, even tho I never smoked at her.... just near her.
My hope now is that I will be completely free of vap and analog by the time she is 5 yr old. My mother told me she quit smoking when I was 4 yr old because I asked her to. I don't remember her ever smoking... so I'm thinking (hoping) my g-daughter will have no memories of Nana smoking or vaping either.
Now I am in my 50's and kids are grown, I still smoked and still inside the house. My way of looking at things, I go to your house, I abide by your rules. (go outside to smoke). My house, I pay the bills, my rules.
Now I have a 3 yr old g-daughter that lives with me. She would ask (tell! she is 3 after all) me to put out my analog from time to time because it bothered her.
She is an extremely happy camper now that I have quit analogs and only vap. She understands that Nana does this instead of smoking and appreciates it. Does it effect her? I think not nearly as much as my smoking did, even tho I never smoked at her.... just near her.
My hope now is that I will be completely free of vap and analog by the time she is 5 yr old. My mother told me she quit smoking when I was 4 yr old because I asked her to. I don't remember her ever smoking... so I'm thinking (hoping) my g-daughter will have no memories of Nana smoking or vaping either.
I have a 15 yr old son....and his main comment about my husband and I vaping instead of smoking (especially in the car) is that he can breathe....He's not inhaling smoke and smoking every cigarette with us which if nothing else I think is great. Of course he is 15 and has already told us he would never start smoking. Not sure what I'd do if I had younger kids...but one thing I do know is that smoking is dangerous to them not just for the example I was setting in the past with vaping at least they arent breathing every cigarette....
sooprvylyn - I have seen nothing that proves ecig vaper is harmful like second-hand smoke. If you have, please show me.
Our kids are so glad we now vape and quit the cigarettes. We used to smoke in the house but eventually decided to smoke only outside or in the garage. We now vape in the house. Kids aren't stupid. They saw we smoked and we told them how bad it was. Poor example. Now they see us vape and they realize nicotine is an addiction they don't want. They appreciate us trying.
Your attitude and tone is certainly not a great example.
To each, his own.
Our kids are so glad we now vape and quit the cigarettes. We used to smoke in the house but eventually decided to smoke only outside or in the garage. We now vape in the house. Kids aren't stupid. They saw we smoked and we told them how bad it was. Poor example. Now they see us vape and they realize nicotine is an addiction they don't want. They appreciate us trying.
Your attitude and tone is certainly not a great example.
To each, his own.
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My kids are 3 and 7, i smoked around them, not inside but outside playing in the yard, or whatever.
I vape around them now without reservation. Heck the guy i bought my ecig from told my 7 year old to kick me if she saw me with analogs (and she did, a few times)
they are smart kids, they know smoking is really bad, and i explained ot them that i vape to replace analogs cause it is less harmful and eventually quit completely.
They also know if they ever had any smoking/vaping anything near their mouth i would smack the taste out of it. I regret in a major way ever starting to smoke....stupid stupid stupid.
I vape around them now without reservation. Heck the guy i bought my ecig from told my 7 year old to kick me if she saw me with analogs (and she did, a few times)
they are smart kids, they know smoking is really bad, and i explained ot them that i vape to replace analogs cause it is less harmful and eventually quit completely.
They also know if they ever had any smoking/vaping anything near their mouth i would smack the taste out of it. I regret in a major way ever starting to smoke....stupid stupid stupid.
Or just low self esteem that requires putting others down to make one feel better about their self?
I believe if you read my original post I never said anything to the effect that second hand vapor was in any way bad for people. I also know kids arent stupid, and never suggested hiding the habit. Keep in mind that YOU are your kids' most influential role model, and vaping in front of them shows them that there is nothing wrong with your addictive habit. Removing yourself from their presence shows them that the addictive habit carries some shame, not as bad a analogs but along the same lines. If you are not a little ashamed of your habit, especially for your kids sake, then by all means teach them that its perfectly acceptable to develop chemical dependencies.
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