I am a bit anti social as well but not the word that the forum deleted and replaced with .......... LOL There are many people I adore and love to spend time with, most of them just happen to be online rather than close by. For me I'm sure it was being an only child and spending a lot of time with my dad doing things like fishing and with my grandparents, fishing and hiking with my grandfather, and spending time with them at the family cabin in the mountains, playing cards and enjoying nature and the animals. Then my husband was a paraplegic and didn't work so he and I spent a lot of our time together doing things we enjoyed and living in a rural area with livestock. That just didn't lead to a social life like most people have, our social life was at the drag races and dog and goat shows and fairs with people who shared the same interests. Then after he died and I met Cliff and moved here to TN from southern Cal, I REALLY had little in common with the local people so I didn't venture out to become friends with the neighbors who had small kids (I was 50) and were all into decorating and fashion and church, and gossip. After Cliff was injured and couldn't work we fished and now he is drag racing.
When I was younger I was into kids and I spent a lot of time with my granddaughters but they are now grown and in Cal and I have two great grandkids I've never met and probably never will unless they decide to come here to visit, it's just too far and I don't travel well, even if I could afford to, which I can't. So I do my computer stuff and my artwork and crafts and really enjoy my solitude, I go to the races much of the time, but other times I choose to stay home and have the house all to myself and putter around cleaning and doing stuff that is easier without him under foot.
If I want to play girly all I have to do is call his cousin who is ALL ABOUT appearances and going shopping and out to lunch and making sure everything in her house is just so at all times and decorates for everything. I love her dearly but in very small doses please. We are just too different to hang together too much, she is up by 5 and wants to have everything done by noon, with three meals carefully cooked and served at exactly the same time every day. I get up about 10 and my eyes are starting to focus about noon, and we pretty much eat when we feel like it, lol. Her meals are planned days in advance, (she is a widow and lives alone, and all of her other family is in MD) ours planned maybe 5 minutes before I start fixing whatever we decide sounds good. LOL
When I was younger I was into kids and I spent a lot of time with my granddaughters but they are now grown and in Cal and I have two great grandkids I've never met and probably never will unless they decide to come here to visit, it's just too far and I don't travel well, even if I could afford to, which I can't. So I do my computer stuff and my artwork and crafts and really enjoy my solitude, I go to the races much of the time, but other times I choose to stay home and have the house all to myself and putter around cleaning and doing stuff that is easier without him under foot.
If I want to play girly all I have to do is call his cousin who is ALL ABOUT appearances and going shopping and out to lunch and making sure everything in her house is just so at all times and decorates for everything. I love her dearly but in very small doses please. We are just too different to hang together too much, she is up by 5 and wants to have everything done by noon, with three meals carefully cooked and served at exactly the same time every day. I get up about 10 and my eyes are starting to focus about noon, and we pretty much eat when we feel like it, lol. Her meals are planned days in advance, (she is a widow and lives alone, and all of her other family is in MD) ours planned maybe 5 minutes before I start fixing whatever we decide sounds good. LOL
I almost didn't write what I did...I admit that I AM a bit antisocial, which is funny because of how I make my living (sales, customer service). I can turn it off/on and I'm not mean, but my natural inclination is to just be left alone. I think that's why me and BF get along so well most of the time...he works constantly, and even though he works in the garage, I may only see him at dinnertime.
I think the combination of my upbringing (not cold, but dad was a work-a-holic and mom was depressed and sleeping most of the time--now I know it was the thyroid issue) and my own personality type that makes me OK with not maintaining close relationships.
I also got along better with guys than with girls growing up...the girls I get along with now are more like me (not into gossip or catty behavior).

Oddness/weirdness. . .